Beyond Your Number

This episode is the third in our conflict mini-series, if you missed the last two, definitely go back and catch them! Two weeks ago, we walked through six steps for healthy conflict. Last week, we hit the self-sabotage pitfalls that derail it. And this week? We're laying out a step-by-step path for self-regulation, the actual work you can do before the conversation even begins. Whether it&apo...

Last week, we laid out a six-step process for navigating conflict, but let’s be honest, sometimes the real struggle is what happens before the steps even start. In this follow-up episode, Damon and Kelly unpack the emotional landmines that often sabotage our best intentions in conflict. From blame to emotional avoidance, they explore five self-sabotage traps and how each Enneagram type might fall...

Conflict doesn’t have to mean shouting matches or broken relationships. This week on Beyond Your Number, Damon and Kelly dive into a topic that touches every relationship— conflict . They unpack how different Enneagram numbers experience disagreements, why some avoid it while others charge in, and how even small differences in opinion can feel like big battles for certain types. Kelly shares a pra...

We’ve made it to the end of our Enneagram communication series—and it’s Damon’s turn in the hot seat as we talk all things Type 9! In this episode, Damon wrestles with “Nine doubt,” shares why he’s skeptical about gentle communication styles, and admits he might be a secret One. Kelly unpacks what truly drives the Peacemaker’s calm exterior, and why the word “sure” doesn’t always mean agreement. T...

Double-booked calendars, fast-talking optimism, and more ideas than minutes in the day…welcome to the world of the Enneagram 7! In this (slightly turbo) episode of Beyond Your Number , Damon and Kelly explore how Type 7s approach communication, why they’re magnets for new experiencesand how to keep up without getting lost in the whirlwind. Why “yes” is a 7’s favorite word The line between healthy...

What’s it like to talk with a Type 8? Passionate. Direct. Powerful. And sometimes, intense. In this episode, Kelly shares from her own experience as a Type 8—what works, what doesn't, and what eights most need from you in communication. Damon helps us see how that energy can feel to others, especially when it gets misunderstood. Whether you're an Eight, love one, or work with one, this c...

Type Fives are thoughtful, observant, and incredibly insightful—if you give them the space to speak. In this episode, Damon and Kelly unpack how Fives approach communication, why they avoid surface-level conversations, and what it really takes to earn their input and trust. If you’ve ever wondered what’s going on behind a Five’s quiet presence, this one’s for you. In This Episode: Why Type Fives v...

How do you talk with someone who’s always giving, always helping, and always putting others first? In this episode, Damon and Kelly dive into the warm, people-focused world of the Enneagram Two — and why communication with them can feel like a hug, a therapy session, and a pep talk all in one. Whether you are a 2 or love one, this conversation unpacks what motivates them, how to respond to their g...

How does an Enneagram Six communicate? In this episode, Damon and Kelly explore the loyal, thoughtful, and cautious communication style of Sixes — and how trust, safety, and preparation shape their voice. Whether you’re a Type 6 or trying to connect with one, this episode will help you understand what’s behind their questions and what they need to feel secure. In This Episode: The superpower of Si...

How does an Enneagram Type 3 communicate — and what’s really going on beneath the polish? In this episode, Damon and Kelly dive into the world of the driven, adaptable, and image-conscious Three. Discover why communication for a 3 is all about connection, competence, and results… and how to speak their language without assuming they’re just putting on a show. Whether you are a 3, love a 3, or work...

How does an Enneagram Four communicate? In this episode, Damon and Kelly explore the creative, emotional, and deeply authentic style of Fours — and what it means to truly be with them in conversation. Whether you are a 4 or love one, this episode helps you understand their inner world, and how to connect with empathy, not just answers. In This Episode: The superpower of Fours: authenticity in emot...

How do you respond to change? In our 100th episode, we explore how each Enneagram type handles change — from resistance to adventure — and why it matters. Plus, a big shift is coming for the podcast (and we finally reveal it). How do you respond to change? In our 100th episode, we explore how each Enneagram type handles change — from resistance to adventure — and why it matters. Plus, a big shift...

In this episode of EnneagramU, we explore how different Enneagram types communicate, focusing specifically on Type 1. We discuss the strengths and challenges of Type 1 communication, including their tendency to be precise and honest, but also potentially critical. We also provide tips on how to effectively communicate with Type 1 individuals, emphasizing the importance of active listening and gent...

Last time, we used ChatGPT and Marvel characters to guess Blake’s Enneagram type. This time, he took the official WEPSS test — and the result was not what we expected. Why did AI miss it? And what does that reveal about typing, personality, and self-awareness? Follow us on Apple Podcasts and leave a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagramu/id1691530997 Follow us on Spotify and leav...

This week on EnneagramU, we embark on a unique journey of self-discovery with special guest Blake Fontinel , as he takes a Marvel-Themed CHATGPT Enneagram quiz LIVE on the show . Through a series of fun questions comparing Blake's personality to Marvel characters, we guide him towards uncovering his potential Enneagram type.  Next week we will reveal his true type based on a professional asse...

This week we explored the true self and false self of Enneagram types 7, 8, and 9. We discussed how each type can move from their false self tendencies (like avoidance of pain for 7s, denying vulnerability for 8s, and avoiding conflict for 9s) back to their true selves through practices like sobriety, innocence, and taking action. We provide insights into the core struggles of these types and offe...

This week we continued our exploration of true self vs. false self for each Enneagram type, focusing on types 4, 5, and 6. We discussed how these types can recognize when they're operating from their false self, and explored practical ways they can return to their true self, including processing emotions, practicing detachment, and cultivating courage. This episode is helpful for understandin...

In this episode of EnneagramU, we explore the concept of true self vs. false self for Enneagram types 1, 2, and 3. We discuss how each type can recognize when they're operating from their false self, and provide practical guidance on how they can return to their true self. Discover practical strategies and valuable insights to help these personality types increase self-awareness and authentic...

In this week's episode we explore the concept of true self vs. false self, discussing how we often lose touch with our authentic selves and live from a place of false identity.  Then we delve into how childhood experiences and societal conditioning can lead us to develop a false self, and why reconnecting with our true essence is crucial for living a fulfilling life.  This week gain valuable...

In this episode, we introduce the concepts of true self and false self, explaining how the Enneagram can be used as a tool to recognize and move away from false self behaviors. We discuss how each Enneagram triad (gut, heart, and head) tends to struggle with different aspects of false self, such as power, popularity, and provision. We want to identify areas of exhaustion in our lives as a way to u...

In this episode we discuss Nines and those who work with them. We explore how Nines bring a peaceful, diplomatic "glue" to teams while also discussing their challenges with inertia and goal-setting. By sharing personal experiences and practical strategies, we aim to help Nines leverage their strengths and overcome obstacles in their professional lives, making this episode a must-listen f...

In this episode, we discuss what it's like to work with Enneagram Type 8 personalities. We explore the strengths of Eights as leaders and decision-makers, while also examining some of their potential blind spots in the workplace. We offer practical suggestions for Eights to be more effective leaders and team members, including being mindful of others' perspectives, expressing appreciatio...

In this episode, we explore how Enneagram Type 7 personalities function in the workplace. We discuss their strengths, such as creativity, positivity, and problem-solving abilities, as well as potential challenges they may face. We discuss insights on how to work effectively with Type 7s and offer advice for Type 7s on finding fulfilling careers and maintaining balance, making this a valuable liste...

We're back with another episode, and this time we're diving into the world of Sixes. You know, those loyal, hardworking teammates who always have our backs? Yeah, those folks! Sixes are the ultimate security-seekers, which can be both a blessing and a curse. They're great at spotting risks and keeping us all safe, but sometimes they might need a little nudge to step out of their com...

In this episode of EnneagramU, we dive into how Enneagram Type 5s operate in the workplace. We explore their strengths as analytical thinkers and information gatherers, as well as some challenges they may face. We discuss how Fives approach tasks with independence and autonomy, their ability to stay cool under pressure, and their knack for providing unbiased perspectives.  We also chat about poten...