Beyond Patriarchal S*x

The indigenous term 'two spirit' is often used in favor of trans activism, yet how do intersex people feel about that? Here I meet with a guest who brings important nuances to the topic of s and gender. Being born inters*x with innate biological connection to the consciousness of both male and female wisdom is something special and unique. So I invited somatic therapist, trauma nutritionist, and f...

Imagine emerging from Christian fundamentalism and changing the paradigm of your 21 year marriage to one way polyamory. A relationship configuration where the woman decides to finally get her needs met elsewhere, while still being married. Courtney joins the collective inquiry of this podcast to share her journey of radical relating. Reversing the dominant paradigm where sexual freedom is socially...

Listen in on this conversation with an Australian man relocating to live amongst a matrilineal tribe in the lush mountains of rural China. He felt unseen in the patriarchy of his western culture; facing the pressures of capitalism. Now he is exploring what's possible not just in a different location, but also a totally different social system - where women own the property, handle the money, and c...

Neeki approaches the serious subject of unlearning patriarchy in her playful, bold, light hearted way. Neeki from 'Baddest Bitch In The Building' podcast shares her relatable story of moving from a toxic relationship into her empowerment. A Canadian woman in her 20's, Neeki recently wrote the book 'Hacking The Patriarchy'. This episode might especially appeal to young women unl...

Laura and her husband are among the couples listening to the Beyond Patriarchal S*x podcast, who have reported positive growth in their relationship from listening to the episodes together. Laura is a Mindset Coach and Hypnotherapist in the UK, who invited Dévashi as a guest on her 'Unlearning With Laura' podcast. Here we dive into what patriarchal s*x really is (and why it impacts both men &...

It's about time we called in a regular Aussie bloke to be part of this collective inquiry! When not coaching men, you would probably find today's guest somewhere outdoors. I've seen Steve's photos of himself fishing, at the football, in the outback, and picking up huge snakes. He had the same general conditioning that many white Australian guys get, so he knows all about that, but...

This episode is for everyone, but especially couples. Not all relationship therapists are taught about sex and intimacy. Not all therapists who include your sex life in their therapy have questioned patriarchy. Finding a Couples Therapist like Rachel Boyle, means you are starting in the best possible way for authenticity and embodiment beyond trauma and beyond patriarchal sex. BIO Rachel Boyle is...

People worldwide experience the limitations of patriarchal sex. Because it has been happening for so long, it often goes unrecognized. The Beyond Patriarchal Sex project is a cross-cultural collective inquiry, so I'm grateful when people bring their views based on their various cultural experiences. Prasanna has a channel that analyses patriarchal behaviours in Indian movies, which helps peopl...

Hear from the savvy creator of 'Make Love Not Porn'. Many people have talked about creating a healthy alternative to typical porn, meanwhile Cindy Gallop has actually done it. People report how learning creativity and bringing authentic connection into their sex has changed their lives. With her team at MLNP, they screen every video to ensure it avoids demonstrations of patriarchal sex. Ci...

The way everyone was taught to do relationship needs questioning. It seems that focusing on roles is the most important thing for security and survival; yet other important things become destabilized and tend not to survive in that configuration. Is more stability possible when approaching relationship from a more evolutionary perspective? This short episode invites you to ask yourself a few quest...

Richard Stanley is an esoteric historian and so much more, who kindly indulged my questions about romantic love, social structures, and historical dynamics that maintain the Patriarchal Sex paradigm. He shared the history based on his location in Montsegur, Southern France. If you appreciate ancient history, the Goddess tradition, the Cathars, Montsegur, the Holy Grail, the Temple of Solomon and m...

Is the person who mentions 'patriarchy' failing to be empowered? Shouldn't we overcome all issues internally to succeed in life? Only those at the top of the false power pyramid can pretend that a worldwide injustice doesn't exist. In the Beyond Patriarchal Sex inquiry, pattern recognition isn't seen as a personal failure. How we relate to the dynamic of patriarchy is important...

Today's invisible guest is Farida D. whose writing you may recognize from instagram. With over 200 thousand followers, Farida courageusly writes "what we are afraid to feel". She keeps her image and identity concealed for self-protection. As a highly educated Arab woman from a culture where patriarchy is so obvious, Farida has insights for women of all cultures to hear and be inspire...

What is said in this episode is not excusing the pathological behaviors of men in the 'online rape academy', but it does help explain it while replacing the increased division between men and women that has been stirred up, with an elevated sense of compassion. It's about holding the men responsible for their criminal behaviors, while also looking at ways to go beyond the entire cycle...

It's so helpful to have Women's Pelvic and Sexual Health Educator + Physiotherapist, Lisa Fitzpatrick enter this conversation on the reality of patriarchal sex. While the value of this episode might be obvious for women, men are also invited to this conversation. Understanding each other's lived experience is crucial moving beyond the patriarchal sex paradigm together. I'm also excited by the real...

Following up on the recent conversation with Dave Kramer regarding the tragic case of Hannah Clarke and her three children, this episode delves deeper into the systemic and cultural frameworks that enable domestic violence and coercive control. This episode is a call for greater awareness, self-inquiry, and accountability from everyone, whether you are a man, woman, or couple, to engage in the har...

Dave Kramer is a Behavioral Scientist and Violence Prevention Specialist. Here, I and Dave discuss the critical and complex issue of coercive control and domestic violence. Dave shares the personal and profound impact of the tragic loss of Hannah Clarke and her three children. We explore the subtle, yet dangerous patterns of behavior that define coercive control and the urgent need for community e...

Therapeutic support within a relationship, as a form of self-care and shared evolution, is still relatively new across many cultures. Yet without conscious communication and relational skills, conflict can leave lasting impacts on everyone - including children and how they experience intimacy later in life. In this episode with Relationship Counsellor Barbra (Barbi) Joffe, we explore developing re...

In this episode, I speak with a pioneer of Conscious Sexuality Education, Dr. Steve Bodansky. For over 50 years, Steve has been immersed in the lived practice and teaching of pleasure as a relational art. His specialty is female pleasure. This is especially for sexuality educators, embodied practitioners, and the pleasure connoisseurs. It's also for those who want to experience connected pleas...

This grounded conversation with a radiant wise woman is essential if you want partnership, marriage, or to start a family. It can also help men better understand the female experience. Helen speaks of a woman living close to the hearth of her inner fire in a long-term relationship. Our conversation covers finances, feminine value, generating magnetic intimacy, fertility, and more. Helen affirms ho...

Tyson has deeply explored pornography and how it affects men's psyches. Now he assists other men to cleanse and move beyond what I call normalized violence against women. For men it's also a normalized form of self abuse, or self inflicted violence. Through personal experiences, Tyson learned how to overcome porn use and addiction, turning it into a physical dearmouring adventure toward he...

The courage to go beyond the comfortability of what we know, is the price of admission to living beyond the patriarchal s*x paradigm. This episode highlights, the way we are in life, is how we are in 'the bedroom'. This lively conversation traverses female hormones, the necessity and permission for pleasure + more. We really connected on how women's way of being is so underrepresented...

Dévashi Shakti is a leading pioneer of women's somatic nervous system wisdom, female embodiment, and is the Empathic Provocateur behind the Beyond P.S. Project. In her role as an Intimacy Confidante, she has been the keeper of secrets both women and men have shared with her, for the past 25+ years. This long immersion guiding both women and men, gives her teaching a unique edge, all about unit...

In this episode we explore humanity's relational future beyond both patriarchy and matriarchy, into what Nuno names as Beloved Partnership - which implies maturity in how we relate with ourselves, with eros, and with sexuality. He describes how women have adapted to unnatural patriarchal religions for so long as a survival response, that they moved away from their own nature. Rewilding of the...

Here with Mythologist Gabriela Gutierrez, we venture into herstory, the pre-patriarchal world. She speaks of the times when female divinity was an animistic cosmology, where we exist in a greater soul than our own. There was indeed a time when women's religious authority was centred and officially seen as sacred. And it needs to return, for the benefit of all living things. When religious ideo...