better than before betrayal

This episode is my husband's Sacrament meeting talk, Patients Simply Need Other Patients. Grab you husband and ask him if he would like to listen with you on this one. None of us are alone in our struggles. We can find strength and support in others who have been through what we are going through. I hope you find it helpful. 

We talk a lot about forgiveness with betrayal. Today let's consider some things that we make forgiveness mean that it doesn't mean. We can clean up our thinking to help us move forward from wherever we are. 

I recently spoke in Sacrament meeting and I thought I would share it with you. I hope you feel The Spirit as you listen.

Have you heard of gaslighting? Do you know if you've experienced it? In this episode I will tell you what it is, how you can detect it, and what you can do to keep yourself safe from it.

After betrayal, trust is shattered. We want to know if we can ever trust again. I hope that you find this episode helpful in how you think about trust.

Today's episode is about a thought that many people have after betrayal. It sounds like a lovely thought. Is it though? Listen and see if you change your mind about it. 

Possibly the most common question asked when it comes to healing: How long is this going to take? Listen to some of my thoughts and ideas in this episode. See if you can answer that question, and be okay with your answer.

Awareness is key to managing our minds. Managing our minds is crucial to our healing. Join me in this episode to learn about the stages of awareness. We make progress a little at a time. And we know that practice makes progress. Progress is a great thing. Start now.

This week I will finish up the zoomed in look at each line of The Model as I talk about Results. Amazingly, our results always reflect our thoughts. Listen in to learn more!

In this episode I focus on the fourth line of The Model. We will take a closer look at why we do the things we do. 

Feelings are created by our thoughts not our circumstances. It is crucial to our healing to be able to identify and label our emotions and to process and allow them. 

Our thoughts are how we experience our lives. As we increase the awareness of our thoughts, we can notice what thoughts we have that are true and what thoughts are in distortion. Becoming aware of our thoughts is powerful. It is a great step toward healing.

Circumstance is the first line of the Coaching Model. In this episode I will tell you some things about circumstances to help you get a better understanding of them. This information can help you on your healing journey and in every aspect of your life. 

In this episode I will explain The Model.  This amazing tool  can be used to gain awareness. We can use it in every area of our life to create the life we want. 

Want Matches are a beautiful thing. You want it, he wants it. You have them! Finding the want matches in your relationship will help you in your growth and healing. 

We have manuals for people in our lives. In this episode I will explain what a manual is, why we have them, and how our manuals can be hurting us. Understanding ourselves is a big step (or giant leap) in our ability to find happiness. Recognizing our manuals is a crucial part of this journey. 

Just what constitutes infidelity? I will share my thoughts on this. Do you share my thoughts and opinions on it? Listen in and see what you think. 

To most of the world D-day refers to the invasion of Normandy, marking the "beginning of the end of WWII".  In the world of betrayal, D-day has a different meaning. In this episode I will give you some ideas of how you can change the way you think of this date. I hope you find it helpful, no matter where you are on your healing journey.

Boundaries are necessary for all healthy relationships. In this episode I define what a boundary is and what it is not. All boundaries are not right for everyone. I invite you to look at your relationships and determine which ones could benefit from some boundary work.  It is your work to do to create your boundaries. 

As humans we want to be happy all of the time and this simply isn't realistic. As we accept that life is sometimes "good" and sometimes "bad", we can find greater peace and joy. Life is good, even when it is hard.

*It will be helpful to listen to episode #13 before you listen to this episode.* In today's episode I talk about allowing urges. What is it?  Are you good at it? Why would we even want to do this? Is it important to having the life of our dreams? Find out now.

This week I talk about buffering. What is it?  Why do we do it?  How do we stop it? What does it have to do with addiction?  IS your husband's pornography use an addiction? I don't think so. Listen in and I'll tell you why.

When we find out that our husband has been lying to us, we feel that our life is a lie. We feel like we are not in control, so we want to take control of things that we can not control. Letting go of control of your husbands healing is crucial for your healing and your peace of mind. Listen in to learn more. 

In this week's episode I talk about clean pain and dirty pain. What are they? How do you know when your pain is clean or dirty? What can you do about it? I'll answer these questions for you today.

I spent much of my life pushing emotions down, rarely even acknowledging them. On my journey of healing, I have learned the importance of feeling them. It is life changing. Join me today and I will teach you how to do this. It is a crucial tool for your healing.