Barry Long Answers

A woman tells Barry that since first meeting him her life has changed, but she needs clarification. Without consciously seeking it, she says, communication with dead people, higher beings, other intelligences and extraterrestrial intelligence has come into her awareness and guided her towards what she calls God realisation. She says this began about ten years earlier when dead people started speak...

"The only free will that we have is when we have no will, and then there is only the Divine Will, which is every moment. Then I have no will on my own, then I am free." A woman asks Barry Long how much free will does she really have and how she can 'choose' to let go of anger if, as he says, there is no free will. Barry replies that the only real freedom is when there is no per...

'Life here is an experiment originated by extraterrestrial intelligence, which, of course, is the very source of our own intelligence... This is an experiment to see, can these robots that we are, can we bring love to Earth...' Barry Long answers a question about a statement he made in a previous talk: “life here is an experiment.” He declares that life on Earth is an experiment originat...

Barry engages a man who says that he is afraid and unsure whether he has ever truly loved. Barry distinguishes between having love within oneself and actually loving, and says that real love requires courage, honesty, steadiness, and freedom from fear. Most relationships are distorted because sexuality, excitement, fear, and emotional defences are mistaken for love. Barry describes a man’s task as...

A woman asks about Barry’s teaching. She says she has been in a relationship for three and a half years, and two things keep coming up: her doubt—“what am I doing here in this relationship?”—and her partner's moodiness. She says she could never fully leave, and she could never fully be there. Barry says it is a compromise and that eventually in love you have to give up compromise. He says if...

A man asks Barry how a woman’s past — the energies of her past lovers, her mother and father, and so on — affect him. Barry says that her past is all that has accumulated in her — past lovers, mother, father, the life she has lived – and there is pain and emotion attached. The man’s job is to take that world out of her – the penis, “a loving penis,” is made to take the world out of a woman. Barry...

A man admits a long struggle with masturbation and sexual fantasy, and asks Barry Long how to stop feeding it. Barry says the real problem is not the girls in short skirts but the ‘psychic tongue’ of imagination that keeps reaching out and exciting the sexual demon in man. The only way to weaken it is ‘prayer and fasting’ Barry say – refusing to look, refusing to indulge fantasy, refusing to feed...

A woman says she had a nervous breakdown a long time ago and that since then she feels pressure everywhere; if she wants to do something, she reports, she turns it into pressure. Barry asks her what a nervous breakdown is, and she says she experiences it as her body not doing what she wanted to do. She says that on the telephone she cannot hear anymore, gets blockages, and cannot translate what pe...

A man who works in software admits that his life is being swallowed by the computer. He feels like a workaholic whose mind is constantly running on concepts, screens and deadlines, while his body and real life fade into the background. Barry Long responds by exposing the unreality of the computer world: it grips the brain, builds momentum in the mind, and gradually robs a man of the simple sense o...

During an audience dialogue, a woman says her partner loves her, yet past emotions block her from receiving his love. Barry confirms that the past interferes when she identifies with it, and asks about her everyday discontent. She struggles to name one, eventually admitting doubts about trusting herself as a woman and revealing she facilitates workshops on men and women. Barry argues she shouldn’t...

During a dialogue, a woman asks how to be a “custodian of love” when her relationship is full of conflict, friction and she becomes defensive and emotional. Barry says every woman contains the “real woman,” yet layers of guilt, self-judgment, and a man’s undermining can stir emotion. Barry adds that women often become emotional when not loved enough or when unconsciously attached to past lovers, p...

In this dialogue, a man tells Barry Long he has spent years terrified of his wife’s emotions and of his own reactions – if, for instance, his questions come from intelligence or his angry self. Barry turns the question around: instead of asking what is wrong with her, the man must ask, “What am I doing to make you emotional?” Barry says no woman becomes emotional without a good reason from her poi...

A woman asks Barry Long how long she should give her man to get rid of his sexual deception. She says she discovered that for the last three years he has been buying pornographic magazines and masturbating habitually, although he said he had stopped, and that this has happened before over six years. She felt this was the end of the relationship, she stopped making love with him, and says it seems...