Back from the Borderline

Join me as we conclude our multi-episode series on childhood emotional neglect. Over the course of episodes 1-9, you’ve delved deep into what childhood emotional neglect is, explored the dysfunctional parenting styles that contribute to its development, and identified how it manifests in our adult lives through various symptoms and coping mechanisms that erode our sense of self and hinder our abil...

In this explosive episode, we peel back the glitzy veneer of the Miss USA and Miss Teen USA pageants to reveal a world riddled with scandal, misogyny, and exploitation. From Caite Upton's unforgettable "everywhere like such as" answer in 2007 to the shocking resignations of Miss USA Noelia Voigt and Miss Teen USA UmaSofia Srivastava , you'll dive deep into the systemic issues plaguing these compet...

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In Episode 9 of our ongoing series on Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), we delve into the final three in our list of symptoms that shape the adult lives of those affected by early emotional neglect: internalized anger, lack of self-discipline, and alexithymia. Each of these symptoms reveals a unique aspect of the long-term effects of neglect that continue to challenge individuals into adulthood....

Discover the profound legacy of labyrinths, not just as intricate mazes, but as powerful tools in modern psychological therapy. This episode explores their historical significance and their transformative role in EMDR therapy— a technique developed by Francine Shapiro in 1987 for healing psychological trauma. Together, we’ll learn how these ancient paths, once central to the ceremonies of ancient...

Should Drake's denial of Kendrick Lamar's allegations of pursuing underage girls open a wider conversation on grooming, social media, and consent? In this episode, we dissect this pressing issue and much more. Unless you've been living under a rock, you've likely heard of the ongoing rap beef between Drake and Kendrick Lamar that kicked off in April 2024. During the first week of May 2024, this mo...

In this exclusive preview of a premium episode, join me as we delve into the intricate web of generational emotional neglect, exploring how historical, cultural, and social factors shaped parenting styles across the The WWI Generation, Silent Generation, Baby Boomers, Gen X, and Millennials. This journey through time reveals a pattern akin to a bizarre Russian doll, where dysfunctional parenting p...

In Episode 8 of our ongoing series on Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), we continue our exploration of the symptoms that shape the lives of adults affected by early emotional neglect. In this portion of our discussion, we’ll be covering skewed perception of self, lack of self-compassion, and toxic guilt and shame. Each of these symptoms reflects deep-seated distortions in self-perception and inte...

In this exclusive preview of a premium BFTB episode, we explore the disturbing parallels between dysfunctional family structures and cult organizations. Drawing insights from psychologist Jose Fernández Aguado's article, "How a Dysfunctional Family Functions Like a Cult," I delve into the mechanics of control, trust, and dependency that define both these environments. Dysfunctional families, much...

As we transition into a new phase of our mega-series exploring the impact of childhood emotional neglect (CEN), we’ll begin examining the lasting effects of CEN as they manifest in late adolescence and early adulthood. This installment exposes the first two critical, often covert impacts: chronic feelings of emptiness and counter-dependence. First, we address the pervasive sense of emptiness that...

Episode 6 of my deep-dive into Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) series ventures into uncharted territories, where the shadows of neglect stretch beyond the emotional realm to cast a profound impact on your physical well-being. This segment peels back the layers of how emotional turmoil from neglect and trauma in our formative years doesn't just scar our emotional landscapes but also seeds the gro...

This is the introductory episode of a premium visualization series available exclusively to my paid subscribers - I've made the full episode available to you for free to provide a taste of what you can expect in the following visualizations. This initial episode is your gateway to a journey of deep healing and self-discovery, where you'll learn to nurture and reclaim parts of yourself that may hav...

While this is far from the final episode of our mega-series exploring the impacts of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), this does mark the final episode exploring the various dysfunctional parenting styles that can contribute to its development. Join me for part five, where we delve into the profound and often covertly traumatic world shaped by parents who, through their own unresolved issues...

Part four of our series unfolds the complex narratives of three more distinct parenting styles that, beneath their unique challenges, share a common thread of emotional neglect. Together, we’ll navigate the realms of “the Workaholic Parent”, “the Perfection-Obsessed Parent”, and “The Parent Caring for a Family Member Who Requires Special Attention”, each presenting a unique set of psychological dy...

In this free preview of a premium episode, we dive deep into the realm of self-censorship, exploring its nuanced definition as the act of muting one's own voice out of fear or deference to others' sensibilities, without external compulsion. Kicking off with insights from Africa Brooke—a London-based beacon in overcoming self-sabotage and self-censorship—we dissect the intricacies of muting oneself...

This third installment of our series on Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) continues to unravel the intricate web of parenting styles that inadvertently contribute to emotional neglect. Focused on the more nuanced and often overlooked aspects of parenting under the duress of personal challenges, this episode examines: The Divorced or Grieving Parent : Discusses how the intense sorrow from loss or s...

Join me for a free preview of this Patreon-exclusive episode as we dive deep into the groundbreaking insights of renowned psychoanalyst and storyteller Clarissa Pinkola Estés . Through an exploration of a passage from her book, “Women Who Run With the Wolves” , we’ll unravel the complex effects of childhood emotional neglect on individuals' sense of identity and belonging. Exploring Estés' co...

This marks the second installment of our multi-episode discussion on of the impact of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), where we delve into the elusive and powerful impact of what didn’t happen in childhood. Often overshadowed by more visible and overt forms of neglect or abuse, CEN is the absence of emotional support and validation during our formative years, and its effects can deeply influence...

In this preview of an exclusive premium episode, we delve deep into the transformative power of the Black Madonna archetype, a journey that's particularly close to my heart and I believe, will resonate profoundly with yours. Amid the exploration of childhood emotional neglect (CEN) in our series, it's crucial to address not just the wounds inflicted but also the paths to healing. The Black Madonna...

In this first part of our multi-episode series on Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), we delve into the elusive and powerful impact of what didn’t happen in childhood. Often overshadowed by more visible and overt forms of neglect or abuse, CEN is the absence of emotional support and validation during our formative years, and its effects can deeply influence our adult lives. Despite its invisible an...

Join me for a preview of this exclusive premium episode of the podcast where we dive deep into the mind and explore the concept of ' Wetiko ', a cannibalistic spirit that symbolizes the darkest aspects of human psyche and society. Drawing from Paul Levy's illuminating book, "Wetiko: Healing the Mind-Virus That Plagues Our World" , we unpack how this malevolent force insidiously infiltrates our liv...

In this crucial episode, we unpack the unsettling world of social media, where the rise of young influencers is often shadowed by exploitation risks hidden behind the allure of digital stardom. Beginning with an in-depth look at a New York Times exposé (February 2024), we uncover the troubling trend of parents managing their children’s influencer profiles—a reality in which parental aspirations ca...

In this groundbreaking episode, we dive into Bruce Levine’s explosive new article , “Scientific Misconduct and Fraud: The Final Nail in Psychiatry’s Antidepressant Coffin,” published on CounterPunch in January 2024 . Levine’s critique reveals the troubling misuse of data in the STAR*D study , exposing how antidepressant efficacy has been overstated and distorted in mainstream psychiatric research....

Join me for a transformative guided meditation and visualization practice as we explore the profound practice of surrender, crucial for healing from emotional neglect and trauma. Surrender here is not defeat; it's a key to unlocking a future where the past no longer dictates our path. Through words and ritual rooted in the wisdom of the ancients, we'll shift from the 'having' mode that fosters chr...

In this preview of a voice note available exclusively for my Ultra Premium Submarines on Patreon, we’re diving into the profound effects of emotionally unavailable mothering and the far-reaching implications of childhood emotional neglect. You’ll gain an understanding of the crucial role a mother's emotional presence plays during infancy in fostering secure attachment, which is foundational for a...