Authentic

We find myself in the simple things. In movement, nature, laughter, in doing what we love. We lose ourselves in the noise of the mind, the pressure to be more, do more, become more and  feel disconnected from ourselves. But the truth is we’re not lost and it doesn’t take much to come back. This episode is a  reminder that you don’t need to go searching for yourself. You’re already here. Sometimes...

This one took a while to land.  The part that tried hard not to upset anyone, to do it right, to keep the peace, to earn my place was running rampant! And how exhausting that became. Somewhere along the way, I realised trying to be liked was costing me something far too precious ... myself. This is a conversation about self-abandonment in prettier clothes. About confusing being liked with being lo...

We asked a question ...“If we had 24 hours left on earth, what would we do?” A real, honest question to look at what actually matters when time is no longer on our side. Because questions like this have a way of showing you your life as it is, not the one you say you want, but the one you’re actually living. What would you drop? What would you lean into? Who would you call? How would you spend you...

You keep telling yourself you’re not ready. Not clear enough, not confident enough, not quite there yet. But if you’re honest, you already know. You know the conversation you’ve been avoiding. You know the decision you keep circling. You know what’s not working anymore. This episode is about that space. The in-between where you sit and think, and think and think some more whilst thinking you need...

I asked Steve a question - "were you scared to get married again, to be in a relationship again after your divorce?” When something significant ends, especially a marriage, it changes you. It shapes how you see love, commitment, risk, yourself and others. In this episode, Steve shares what it was actually like stepping back into a relationship after divorce. The hesitation. The awareness. The...

Permission sounds simple, but most of us are waiting for it. Waiting for someone to say it’s okay to slow down, okay to change your mind, okay to outgrow something that once made sense. But life rarely hands us that permission, and so, we keep going. We keep doing the roles we’ve always played. We keep carrying responsibilities, expectations, identities that once fit even when something inside us...

Steve and I asked each other a simple question this week: “What are you carrying right now that I might be unaware of… and how can I support you?” When you live with someone, love them and talk to them every day there are always things they’re carrying that you don’t see. Or maybe you do, but you're asking the best question to help them express it.  Pressure. Worry. Fatigue. Things they haven...

In this episode, I wrote called Dear Change . Lately I’ve been sitting in that strange space many of us know well. The space between who we were and who we are becoming. The space where something in life has shifted, but the next chapter hasn’t fully revealed itself yet. It can feel foggy there, uncertain, even tiring. Our minds want answers and direction, but sometimes life is asking something el...

In this episode, Steve and I revisit a story from my book that says a lot about how many of us enter relationships in the beginning: a little bit false. When we first got together, Steve was a pizza-eating machine. Every time I went to his place, pizza was ordered. I didn’t even want pizza. But I went along with it. I wanted to be easy. Agreeable. Low maintenance. Cool. Inside, I knew what I actua...

I felt ready for this chapter. I honoured the versions of me who carried me here . I stepped into this decade open, grounded, certain, and then grief quietly arrived. In this deeply personal episode, I share the unexpected emotional landscape of entering a new decade, the tenderness that comes with seeing your parents age, wondering if the children you love are ready for the world, and realising e...

Steve’s turning 50. I just turned turning 40. This isn’t a “new decade, new me” episode. It’s more tender than that.  For me, there’s been grief. Grieving parts of myself from the past. Versions of me that won’t be coming forward into this next chapter, and if I’m really honest, even pre-mourning what’s to come. Sadness has been the emotion I’ve been honouring this week. I've just let it be t...

In this solo episode, I share a personal reflection on what it means to live as a sovereign woman. Not in defiance, not from ego, but in true, grounded devotion to your own rhythm, your own knowing, your own life. This is for the woman who’s done hustling for worth. Who’s tired of fragmenting herself to be liked, seen, or accepted. Who’s exhausted from being led by urgency and is ready to return t...

Stevie B and I talk about limbo land,  that murky space so many people end up in early on in dating. The situationship. Not quite together. Not quite nothing. We talk about how any interaction between two people is a relationship, whether you label it or not. And how often one person is being clear about what they want, while the other is quietly hoping it’ll turn into something more. We get into...

In this episode I share a very human, very imperfect moment I had with a traffic control guy outside my house, one of those interactions where two egos meet, both think they’re right, and things go downhill fast. He was frustrated. I was frustrated. And instead of choosing kindness, clarity, or calm, went high and mighty. Righteous. Chest out. Ego leading the charge. And he did the same. Two stran...

This episode is exactly what it sounds like. No love. No light.  The other day, Steve and I were driving in the car airing our annoyances, the stuff that grinds our gears and halfway through we looked at each other and thought, why not share this? Because this is what relationships look like too. It’s not always kissing and cuddling and smooching. It’s not always conscious communication and being...

In this episode, I share my reflections on my word for this year, unwavered , and how it’s moved itself through me this year.  Change happens in our home all the time. With the girls, with living arrangements, with things shifting, coming, going and for years, that stuff used to mess with me big time. I’d get thrown off, attached to the plan we just made that now suddenly changed again, stuck in m...

We laugh a lot in today's episode, sharing what we would adjust about the other if we had a magic wand. In the many laughs, there are also some good truths to listen to, truths that we can tap into and, pardon the pun, adjust.  When you listen, see if you can hear where we can consider that other a little more, respect the other a little more, communicate with the other a little more gently....

This episode is my honest answer to a listener question (thank you, Sarah from Toronto): How did you land at the decision not to have children? I’ve always known I wanted deep love, but I never felt that same undeniable, biological, aching pull toward having children. I assumed I’d probably have them one day but it was never a soul-deep calling for me. When I met Steve who was very clear he didn’t...

Steve and I share our learnings (and laughs) from Scenic Sundays - a day once a month we set aside with no agenda, no plan, and no rush. Just faith, flow, and following what feels good. Scenic Sundays have brought us some of the greatest memories and moments in our relationship. They're the kind of days that remind you what presence actually feels like: deep chats in the car, spontaneous deto...

You know how you want to live. You know how you want to feel in your body, in your relationship, in your life. You do know. But so often, we tell ourselves we don’t. We tell ourselves we’re confused, unsure, not ready. We hide behind stories that keep us stuck in the same patterns, even when something inside us is screaming for change. The gap between what we know and how we’re living is often the...

Before I knew about perimenopause, Steve had never even heard the word either. Like a lot of men (and women), it just wasn’t on his radar until it started showing up in real time, through my body, emotions, and energy. And now, thankfully, medical professionals talking about it out loud.  We talk about: What this season has looked and felt like from his perspective The changes he’s noticed in me a...

As I approach my 40th birthday, I wanted to take a moment to honour the decade that’s brought me here, my 30s. The years of building, pushing, proving, creating, and doing the deep work to come home to myself. In the two weeks leading up to my birthday, I sat down with myself and wrote out some powerful reflection statements and journalled out the answers. A moment to say thank you for everything...

Steve and I talk about the season we’re in as his girls turn 16 and almost 19, a chapter we used to ache for when they were little and life was full-on. They're more independent, seeking their own adventures and opportunities, and the this time of life we never thought could come fast enough, is here.  Back then, we dreamed about what freedom would look like. We talked about moving to Europe...

How do you let go of the old way when it’s the very thing that built you? How do you trust a new rhythm when the old one got you here? Today, I share ... The 'doing' voice that tells me stay on it, stay in it, don’t you dare let go The fears that if I slow down I’ll disappear, become invisible, waste my potential The soul voice that whispers, there’s another way What it feels like to be...

After eight years together it’s easy for Steve and me to fall into the rhythm of everyday questions like what’s for dinner? how was your day? and forget to ask the kind of questions that keep curiosity and intimacy alive. Recently, we’ve been using Esther Perel’s Where Should We Begin? cards as a way to speak more deeply about topics and explore conversations we wouldn’t usually tap into. In this...