A Good Length

Think your best physical years are behind you? Sports and exercise physician Dr Neil Stevenson says men can be stronger, fitter and more resilient in their 40s, 50s and beyond, if they choose to be. Dr Neil Stevenson is the Chief Medical Officer for the Queensland Academy of Sport and Australian Triathlon, and team doctor for the Queensland Reds in Super Rugby. He has worked across the NRL, AFL an...

Why are men dying by suicide at record rates, even after asking for help? George, creator of The Tin Men, joins Dr Venu Bhamidi on A Good Length for an honest conversation about men’s mental health, male loneliness, and the men and boys society overlooks. George went from self-described feminist to one of the UK’s most-followed advocates for men and boys. In this episode, he challenges the “men ju...

After 27 years in family court representing only men, divorce lawyer David Pisarra has one piece of advice that will make you uncomfortable: think very carefully before you marry. In this full conversation on A Good Length, vascular surgeon and divorced father Dr Venu Bhamidi sits down with David Pisarra, California family law attorney and founder of Dad's Law School. They talk about why famil...

Why do so many men sit in the driveway before walking inside after a hard day? And what changes when the person waiting behind that front door makes them feel safe? In this episode of A Good Length, Vascular Surgeon Dr. Venu Bhamidi explores the power of a good woman after a bad day: the psychology, the biology, and the hard-won lessons from divorce, self-reflection and finding love again. This is...

Time can be divided. Distance cannot. When separated parents live in the same city, a child keeps the architecture of their life: the same school, the same friends, the same streets. When a court permits relocation, one parent's relationship doesn't shrink. It changes category. He becomes an adult who arrives, is hosted, and leaves. This episode is addressed to the judges of the Federal Ci...

What happens to a man’s identity when the life he built suddenly disappears? For some men, that happens through divorce, separation, marriage breakdown, changes in fatherhood or career loss. For Dr Dinesh Palipana, it happened in an instant. In 2010, while studying medicine, Dinesh was involved in a catastrophic car accident that caused a spinal cord injury and left him quadriplegic. In this episo...

How do you deal with a controlling ex after divorce without allowing high-conflict co-parenting to consume your life? Dr Venu Bhamidi examines post-separation control, emotional bait, difficult co-parenting communication, the BIFF and grey rock methods, financial conflict, parenting boundaries and the fear many fathers experience of becoming a visitor in their children's lives. The objective i...

Why do some men appear to fall apart after divorce? For many couples, the official separation isn't actually day one. One partner may have spent months or years emotionally processing the end of the marriage, while the other experiences it as a sudden collapse of family, home, identity and control. In this episode of A Good Length , Dr. Venu Bhamidi examines the psychology of divorce for men and t...

Success doesn’t happen by accident. Neither does great fatherhood. In this episode of A Good Length, I sit down with Rudi Khoury (Chief Digital Officer at Fisher & Paykel Appliances), to explore what it really takes to build a successful career without sacrificing your family, values or integrity. Growing up without his father from the age of 11, Rudi shares how his mother, grandparents, uncle...

In this deeply honest episode of “A Good Length,” I share my personal journey through divorce, confronting the profound shame and guilt that often accompany the end of a marriage, especially for men. Moving beyond socially acceptable language, I dive into the silent struggles men face, exploring the cultural expectations of masculinity, the physiological toll of unprocessed emotions, and the isola...

Child support in Australia isn't a system that guarantees money reaches children — it's a formula that transfers wealth between adults and calls it justice. In this episode of I break down exactly how the current system ties custody time to cash, why that turns parenting time into a financial lever, and why the incentive structure is quietly manufacturing the very conflict it claims to prevent. Th...

Traditional gender roles aren't the problem — the silence around them is. In this episode, I break down the provider myth: the men quietly crushed by being taken for granted, and the men shamed for stepping outside the breadwinner script. Drawing on research into role strain, masculine identity, and relationship satisfaction — plus my own failed marriage — I lay out what genuine, freely chosen rol...

What if the feminist movement — arguably the most successful identity movement of the last 100 years — holds the roadmap for how men need to evolve today? In this episode of A Good Length, I make the case that feminism expanded what a woman could be, while men's internal idea of manhood stayed largely unchanged. That mismatch is at the heart of the modern male identity crisis. Drawing on Simon...

Should a Man Get Married in 2026? The honest, data-driven answer. Every man is asking this question — in the gym, at the pub, in his own head at 2am. But almost nobody is asking it out loud. Dr. Venu Bhamidi does exactly that. In this episode of A Good Length , Dr Bhamidi unpacks the marriage question with the clarity it deserves — not with cynicism, not with romanticism, but with facts, law, and...

There is a quiet war being waged on modern masculinity — not with weapons, but through classrooms, algorithms, media narratives, and the stories young men are being told about themselves. In this episode, Dr Venu Bhamidi makes the case that masculine competence — the drive to build, protect, provide, and master your craft — is under direct cultural and institutional attack, and the data backs him...

In this episode, Dr. Venu Bhamidi explores the growing crisis of psychological safety for men. Why do so many men remain silent about their pain? What happens when vulnerability feels dangerous? And what are the consequences for fathers, families, relationships and society when men no longer believe it is safe to tell the truth about their experiences? Drawing on personal experience, psychological...

Welcome to the very first episode of A Good Length. I’m Dr. Venu Bhamidi, a Vascular Surgeon based on the Gold Coast, Australia. Im a father of two boys, and someone who has spent the last few years navigating many of the challenges that modern men face—fatherhood, relationships, separation, mental health, identity, purpose, and rebuilding after life’s setbacks. This podcast exists to explore male...