19 Year Old Shrink

This episode was definitely a bittersweet one to record. After interviewing my father for my first episode, I had the privilege of interviewing him for my last. Throughout this conversation, we talk about the insecurities that come with the adjustment of college to post grad. He discusses how there is the misconception that the fun ends after college, but mentions that our definitions of fun just...

In this episode, I reference Merrick Rosenberg's book, "The Chameleon," regarding personality traits and team building. Through his work, he has developed a fun and unique way to have personality research resonate more with readers of his content! I mention the four different birds that he uses to describe the various types of people that exist. Parrot's, doves, owls, and eagle...

In this episode, I address the question that all college graduates have been asked recently, which is "What's Next?" It can definitely be an anxiety provoking question, and could be followed with an uncertain answer. Fortunately, for some people, they have a job lined up right after and can answer! But, there are others who might not have their next step sorted out, or might know ex...

In this one I interview my friend Max about his experience training for a triathlon. He breaks down all of the aspects of preparation from mental to physical to emotional  prep. He brings up his initial experiences with meditation, having good nutrition, and the importance of having an accountability partner when trying to accomplish a goal. Through this talk you’ll be able to learn more about the...

In this episode. I talk about a concept that I discovered through Mel Robbins. She mentions the five second rule as a helpful technique for when you experience anxiety in your life. Whenever an intrusive thought comes into your mind, count down from 5 and then find your way to your anchor thought. This thought can be anything that brings you ease; something funny, memorable, or a happy thought. An...

This episode is about all things acting! I interviewed my friend Peter and acquaintance Cole to understand the psychology behind acting and everything that goes into portraying a certain character. From stories of Chex mix urges gone wrong to understanding how to reveal a certain emotion through acting, one can begin to understand all of the intricacies behind the industry. Both Peter and Cole gav...

In this episode I talk about how more structure in life can lead to having more freedom. I use an example of waiting until the last minute to do your homework to hangout with friends and then worrying the entire time that you’re with your friends to finish that assignment.  The idea of anticipating instead of reacting is a topic brought up multiple times where someone takes the time out of their d...

In this episode, I talk about learning how to become more self reliant and how this allows us to develop more confidence. After reading a valuable article from forbes, I began to learn more about why self reliance is so important. Some of the points it referenced were ones ability to think independently, know ones values, and to use our own references to help make decisions.  I added some of my ow...

In this episode I talk about being helpful without giving advice. This is something I still to this day am learning to do but it can sometimes be difficult. Our friends come to us looking for comfort or to vent, and we always feel like we need to offer answers. This allows us to feel like we are giving them something in return for what they expected, but sometimes they don’t necessarily need advic...

In this episode I talk about how we use defense mechanisms in our lives. Didn’t really know what defense mechanisms were until I took one of my classes this semester and realized how much we sometimes use them. Basically, defense mechanisms are used as a way to protect our ego and to lessen anxiety that we might experience in life. Some of the defense mechanisms are rationalization, projection, de...

We often have a negative bias towards anxiety. In this episode, I explain how we can view anxiety from a positive perspective. In my own life, I look at anxiety as having 3 tiers.  Tier 1: A place where we aren't really acting too much and would have too little anxiety. An example of this would be knowing a test is coming up but not paying attention to the material or the deadline.  Tier 2: T...

In this episode, I talk about the Wayne Dyer Quote, “Be open to everything and attached to nothing.” I think it is such a valuable mentality to have in our lives and embracing all new experiences that come our way. I talk about the movie, “Yes Man” with Jim Carey, which is a perfect example of this. He starts out having a very glass half empty personality, always blowing his friends off to sit hom...

This episode breaks down how we develop our own unique personalities and what domains influence the different traits we develop. Topics of environment, upbringing, biology, and more help dive more deeply into this issue. Tune in for more!

In this episode I talk about overanalyzing situations and how it can lead to us hurting our own feelings. It can become easy to read too easily into other peoples actions and create a story around why they are acting a certain way. We begin reflecting back on every little detail that we said and start worrying whether we might have hurt their feelings. And this might not be everyone, maybe it’s ju...

In this episode, Howard Behar talks about how he helped build the Starbucks Empire with Howard Shultz and Orin Smith. Throughout this talk, he alludes to servant leadership as the key to success in this business venture. Recognizing relationships and people as the ultimate factor in creating a successful business, I learned so much about the human factor of life. Howard wrote 2500 letters every mo...

In this episode I talk with my friend Summer who is currently a marketing data analyst at Deloitte. She breaks down why she began to budget and how she organizes her budgeting in her own life. She talks about the greater amount of freedom she has had because of the structure in her spending habits. Through this talk, I was able to see how much taking the time out of your day to budget can allow yo...

With graduation looming, I talk about a feeling that a lot of people have probably experienced at one point in time. You may not have found a job yet or might not even know what to do, and it can be scary. And what we do in those situations is begin measuring ourselves against others, “They figured out in October, they are better than me.” “Why don’t I have as many interviews as this person? All o...

In this episode, I talk about using delayed gratification as a means to build self confidence. Many times, it's easy to watch that extra episode of The Office, or eat that extra slice of pizza, or scroll on Instagram for another hour. We choose to do this instead of the more beneficial and long lasting solution for happiness. And from my own struggles with this, I have realized that it's...

In this episode, I talk about why we use excuses in so many areas of life. Sometimes we attribute being busy as a legitimate excuse. But when doing this, we need to contemplate whether that thing we are trying to avoid is that important to us. And if it is, then why are we getting consumed with less important things in our life? Those things that we truly value in life should supersede any other t...

In this episode I talk about our mindsets with our friendships at times. Sometimes we feel as though we are reaching out to some of our friends much more than they are to us. And we can get in our head about it and think we are bothering them when we are doing that. But, after a conversation with my dad, he taught me a very valuable lesson about never keeping score in friendships. When we feel dis...

In this episode I discuss why the future is such a consistent worry in society. Much of the time we spend worrying about the past and the future, which are uncontrollable as we are living in the present moment. We don't take the time out of our day to recognize and appreciate the here and now and use our present to create a desirable future.  Some of the things for me that make me worried abo...

In this episode, I talk about giving yourself credit through self affirmations. A lot of times, we prioritize the deadlines and assignments we have and put the self help things off to the side. But, these little things that we can do every day can pay huge dividends for our mental health down the road. Something as simple as putting post it notes with great qualities of yourself on the mirror to l...

In this episode, I discuss the 5 different types of mentors that I learned about in my management class. These include: traditional, inspirational, step-ahead, peer, and family member mentor. Traditional recognizes one person who has more experience than another and is guiding them in their process of developing more skills in a specific area.  Inspirational is someone who you might not see every...

In this episode, I talk about how perceptions influence our everyday life. It is amazing how two people can experience the same event and have two completely different emotional responses to that event! This is where perception comes into play. Through internal factors such as emotions, memories, and values as well as external factors involving media, societal norms, and culture, we see our percep...

In this episode, I discuss the evolution of our values in the different stages of our life. We have all heard the cliche phrase, "Enjoy being young, because as soon as you know it you'll be old like me!" And whenever I used to hear this saying, I would become discouraged because I assumed that we would just become victims of our circumstances of being old.  But, now I have realized...