The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

In this short and punchy solo episode, I answer another question from Instagram: “What were the most transformative parts of men’s work for you?” I dive into the top three for you so you can decide for yourself if these are pieces you want to try on yourself. Outgrowing substances like alcohol, weed, and porn Getting to be authentically me in men’s groups Having Michael Gay say, “Set the tone…” an...

Last week I was on a call with a man who asked me this profound question, “Where do I begin my men’s work journey? There are so many places I can start from?” In this episode I break down a great starting point for you if you’re about to embark on your men’s work journey, or where to return to if you’ve currently been on a break and aren’t sure where to pick back up. I also share a new frame for y...

In this short solo episode, I break down the two main blocks I see when people try to figure out their purpose. Knowing why you’re here and what you’re here to do is a BIG deal. And being stuck without knowing either can lead to a lot of undue suffering. This episode will help ease that suffering and give you a path forward when you’re in between major chapters of your life. Enjoy. Please do share...

I actually did walk through the woods to go to school, and sometimes it was freezing. I figured out pretty early on that there are a lot of guys who get things handed to them where I didn't. I also figured out I wasn't the smartest but I had the willingness and ability to outwork just about anybody. But we all had one thing in common. Failure to launch. We all hit "failure to launch&q...

After BDSM teacher Andy Buru came into The UNcivilized Nation and dropped this notion for all of us, I’ve been seeing how potent of an idea this is — balancing space holding and selfishness actually is. AND how confronting it is for so many people to lean into the one that’s not their natural way. In this short solo episode I break down why being able to do both will change your sex life, your inc...

This is an important episode and please stay to the end of it where we go into a depth we never planned on. Last week Duey quoted a book he’s reading about how men mostly fear the experience of being afraid. I put my knife and fork down and asked him to tell me more.  As he did, I knew we had to record this episode and share it with you all. It starts a bit slow but then we get into hard hitting c...

Making a brief return to interviewing, I get to sit down here with a man who has been a mortician since the age of 18. Wild huh? We talk a lot about grief, the power of full expression and how we can shift the societal tide that’s preventing so many people from feeling what’s only natural in their lives. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver ⁠ Take ou...

In this episode I tackle one of my favorite topics — being a Nice Guy (or Cool Girl). Since this is my background and our most popular course, I’m diving in and giving you three concrete ideas for you to apply right now to start to shift this paradigm in your life. You will NOT get what you want in life JUST making other people happy. The life you want will cost you the one you have. You’re so muc...

In this episode I sit down with Lama Justin von Bujdoss and talk about many things. Namely, his experience in a 49 day dark retreat, his time working in hospice, as well as his career as a prison chaplain. The man has seen and experienced beauty and loss on a grand scale. This is a fabulous interview where he talks about how we can all deal with the darker pieces of our lives and the potential cha...

One of the pains so many people experience is from looking back on their lives and thinking they wasted time with a particular chapter. I hear this in workshops and with my private clients.  “Gosh, if I hadn’t spent those 5 years studying agriculture and instead had 5 more years in my current profession of real estate development.” Or something like this. In this punchy solo episode I share about...

This episode is powerful. In it I get to sit down with the great Ralek Gracie. Born into Jiujitsu royalty Ralek has spent his life on the mat, in the ring, and in the cage. His life was about little else than jiujitsu and being a Gracie. Yet a business failure and the subsequent introspection took his life down a completely separate path, one of art, authenticity, and unapologetic expression. In t...

Hey UNcivilized Fam, So many men who get themselves into Men’s Work fall into this early trap. Please give this short solo episode a listen on how you can avoid — forgetting your balls! In this episode I break down UNcivilized Ethos Tenet #8 and remind me all the beautiful benefits of living a powerful life. HHB, Fellas. Not just H. Enjoy and please share this with someone in your life. Cheers, Tr...

Good day and welcome to 2024. In this raw yearly opener, I invite you to join me and all of us at UNcivilized to walk along side of us in a new way. A powerful way. In this episode I share my year name and why I chose it as well as ask you to join me on your own powerful path. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver ⁠ Take our free 60-second quiz to fin...

A Christmas episode for you! Whether you’re taking a break from family or today is a hard day for you, here is an episode to lighten your heart and give you something constructive to work on. I asked the men of The UNcivilized Nation what 10 skills every UNcivilized Man should have. These are 10 (actually 11) of them. They’re solid. Enjoy and please share this episode with one person in your life....

The UNcivilized Ethos is the core of the movement and a tool thousands of men and women all over the globe tap into and use for their success and to get them back on track when the slip off. In this quick and dirty solo episode I tell the story of how the Ethos came about and give you two quick thoughts on each tenet. Enjoy and please share this episode with one person in your life. Cheers, Traver...

A few months ago I was at breakfast with the great Duey Freeman, chewing on some bacon and talking about the future of the Nation. He asked me a million dollar question: “How do you now define an UNcivilized Man?” I answered, “Well, he’s raw…he’s real…” And Duey finished my sentence, “And he’s relational.” In this short solo episode I breakdown what this means and how you can apply it in your life...

It happens. It happens to all of us. In fact it’s happened to me a few times in the past two years as well — that terrible feeling of being lost in your life. In this short and sweet solo episode I share how I got myself back on track after getting jostled pretty hard by some deaths and a near death accident. I know these ideas work as I’ve also now taught them in numerous workshops. Enjoy and ple...

Men, there’s a big misconception out there that ferocity and passion are aggressive if they’re displayed by men. Fierceness is a key ingredient to your UNcivilized life. In this short solo episode I break down the difference between being fierce and being aggressive with the key word being — heart. Enjoy and please share this with someone in your life. Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized w...

Parties, cocktails, your aunt’s famous apple pie…it often feels like the holidays stack the deck against your fitness and health goals. For a lot of folks, men and women alike, Jan 1 is not a great day.  They wake up feeling fat, bloated, and disappointed in both themselves and the hole they have to crawl out of. In this short episode with The UNcivilized Body Coach Zeb Pascual, we give you three...

Howdy folks, In this short but hard hitting episode I invite you into YOUR UNcivilized life. I break down the massive workshop we held last weekend, give you insight into the state of The UNcivilized Movement and share what essentially is a five day workshop in under 3 minutes. You definitely want to give this a listen. Why? Because YOU are The UNcivilized Movement. Enjoy and please share this wit...

In this short solo episode I break down the two steps you can start to take immediately to live an UNcivilized life — ie. THE LIFE OF YOUR DREAMS. I’ll give them to you here but you’re still going to have to do the work yourself. Or another way to say that is, “You GET to go on the ride of your life if you do this.” The steps are: 1) Figure out what you ACTUALLY want 2) Go build that Yep, once you...

Why do people fear darkness? The answer lies in its uncontrollability. Darkness stirs up the deepest corners of our minds, like a blank canvas for our deepest fears. It's like being trapped in a horror movie with no escape. In this second part of our "Darkness" series, Traver Boehm and Katie Sroka are diving deep into the idea of darkness as an entity, unraveling the reasons behind p...

Just imagine, 28 days in total darkness – now that's something wild, right?  Well, get ready to hear a wild journey through an interview.  In this episode, things take an interesting turn as the interviewer becomes the interviewee. Our dear Katie Sroka takes the host chair and delves into Traver's profound experience: spending 28 days in total darkness. For those not in the loop, in 2016,...

Howdy folks. In this short solo episode I talk about one of the blocks many people have when it comes to social media and the self development space — making the person they follow into a Guru. After years spent in the trenches of the Self Development world, I can tell you — we are all human. And many people are not what they seem. At all. Give this 10 minutes of your time and you’ll walk away wit...

It's the third and final week for my team to interview me. This week it's Erin, lovingly referred to as the Director of Traver (we'll explain that title in the podcast). Together we dove into what made and still makes Traver UNcivilized, and a few specific questions from a woman's perspective of how to connect with men. Our conversation perfectly rounds out this series and I hope y...