Sex for Saints

Ever found yourself pulled out of a beautiful, intimate moment by the thought, "Ugh, now I have to clean up"? You're definitely not alone. For many women, post-sex cleanup can feel like an annoying chore that disrupts connection and intimacy. In this episode, we're getting real about why this moment matters—and how to simplify the cleanup process so you can stay present, connected, and fully enjoy...

What if the covenants we make in the Temple are more than just promises—what if they're a roadmap to deeper connection and intimacy? In this episode, we're diving into the sacred covenants made in the Temple by members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints—not as a checklist of rules, but as a powerful pattern of personal and relational growth. Whether you share my faith or not, this...

Does sex in your marriage ever feel like a power struggle? You're not alone. Whether you're the partner who wants sex more often or the one who wants it less, the imbalance can create tension, guilt, and frustration on both sides. In my normal open and honest way, we are going to discuss why the lower-desire partner often ends up in control of the sexual rhythm in a relationship. We'll dive into t...

Katelyn Peach, Doctor of Physical Therapy, is back for this episode where we talk about pelvic floor physical therapy for men. One of the biggest misconceptions that Katelyn sees in her practice is that men think that they either don't have a pelvic floor or since they don't have babies, their pelvic floor is never an issue. This is far from the truth! Katelyn lets us know how pelvic floor issues...

In this episode, Katelyn Peach, who is a Doctor of Physical Therapy, is going to be speaking with us about pelvic floor physical therapy for women. She treats patients with a variety of pelvic floor conditions so I was able to pick her brain on why you need to see a pelvic floor physical therapist, what she can do to help you, what that first visit will look like, and so much more! This is a must...

Sex in marriage can sometimes feel imbalanced—one person initiates while the other holds the power to say yes or no, or one partner's needs take priority over the other's. But what if there was a way to create a deeper, more fulfilling connection? In this episode, we explore the concept of mutuality in marriage, a powerful approach where both partners' needs, desires, and well-being are valued equ...

We often think of sexual energy as just desire, attraction, or physical connection—but what if it's so much more? What if this energy could fuel your creativity, ambition, personal growth, and even spiritual transformation? In this episode, we're diving into sexual transmutation—the practice of channeling your sexual energy into other areas of your life. Whether you want to boost your creative pro...

I often hear from my clients the phrase, "If only…" If only my spouse would want more sex, then I could stop feeling so frustrated. If only my spouse would stop pressuring me for sex, then I could feel more comfortable with it. If only… Have you ever thought about how things would change "if only"? If you have, I bet that you have tried to change your spouse. You've bought them books, and sent the...

We've all said it at one time or another - "Do you love me?" While it seems like an innocent question, what I've found from working with countless couples is that this "innocent" question often leads down a path of blame, frustration, and unmet expectations. To put it simply, it's a trap. It keeps us focused on the wrong things. So, what do we do about it? That's what we're going to talk about in...

Have you ever wondered if men experience the same pressures to be 'good' that women do? Last week, we uncovered the hidden struggles of Good Girl Syndrome—but what about the other side of the coin? Today, we're diving into Good Boy Syndrome—a silent battle many men face, shaping how they see themselves, their relationships, and their sexuality. If you've ever felt the weight of perfectionism, the...

What is Good Girl Syndrome? Let me answer like this - have you ever found yourself hesitating to explore your desires? Have you ever felt guilty when expressing your needs in the bedroom? Do you believe that 'good girls' don't act certain ways? Do you feel like your worth is tied to your being modest, virtuous, or pleasing to others? That's what we're going to talk about in today's episode - what...

Have you ever thought about what drives your sexual desire? One key factor is the freedom we feel in our lives. Freedom plays a vital role in fostering vibrant sexuality and intimacy, and without it, we may experience disconnection, frustration, or stagnation. In this episode, we'll explore the powerful link between freedom and sex, why it's so crucial, and how you can create more freedom in both...

A few weeks ago, we talked about prolonged arousal and I touched on sexual shame in men. I promised then that I'd do an entire episode about it because it isn't talked about much and needs to be talked about more. This is that episode. Sexual shame is one of the most powerful emotions we can experience, and when it's tied to something as personal and intimate as sexuality, the impact can be profou...

Valentine's Day is coming up! Does that thought fill you with excitement or dread? Often when we think about Valentine's Day, we dream up this scene straight from the movies and we are often disappointed by what actually happens. So this year, maybe we can prepare ourselves for Valentine's Day. I don't mean grand gestures or perfect plans, but shifting our attention to preparing ourselves - mind,...

When we think about unconditional love, it always sounds romantic and exciting, right? We've all seen the romcoms where they have the kind of love that never falters, regardless of what happens. It's the idea that someone is loved completely, no matter their choices, behaviors, or circumstances. But in marriage, the idea of unconditional love should be more nuanced. It may seem wonderful on the bi...

Want to make your intimate moments last longer? In this episode, we're diving into the secrets of prolonging arousal for men, exploring everything from practical techniques and medication options to mindset shifts that can enhance your experience. We'll also tackle the deeper issues that can impact your ability to fully enjoy intimacy. If you've ever wished for a little more time in the heat of pa...

Have you ever found yourself wondering why your wife doesn't seem to be attracted to you? After all, you do everything you're "supposed" to do, you've been told it works, but she still doesn't seem interested. She still doesn't seem drawn to you. The spark still isn't there. She may even seem frustrated by your attempts to connect. Why? In this episode, I'm going to answer that question and help y...

When was the last time you felt alive in your marriage? Has it been a while? The longer we're married, the more sex can become something else on our to-do list. Something that needs to happen, but doesn't bring much joy. But sex can be so much more than just the physical urge to have sex. How? When we replace sexuality with eroticism, sex becomes a way to connect with your spouse, to enjoy each ot...

Men and women have been conditioned to think that the word "objectifying" is bad. True, it can feel unsettling but sexual relationships thrive when there is a sense of desire - a longing for one another that includes, but isn't limited to, physical attraction. So, how do we navigate the tension between desire and respect? How do we balance celebrating our spouse's physical presence without reducin...

In this episode, I am going to explore the topic of Sexual Surrender. What does it mean to fully open up, not just physically, but emotionally and mentally with your spouse? Let's talk about what sexual surrender is, what it isn't, why it matters, and how you can gently encourage it within your marriage. It may sound intimidating at first, but it can be a doorway to a richer, more meaningful intim...

As with most things, introverts and extroverts approach sex differently. Where introverts often prefer to have time to prepare, extroverts love spontaneity. So when an extrovert marries an introvert, there can often be hurt feelings and frustration with their sexual relationship. Let's talk about the differences with introverts and extroverts when it comes to sex, and how to navigate that relation...

We, as humans, are wired for connection, but connection, especially in marriage, is more than just a feeling. It's the thing that keeps us going through the inevitable ups and downs of marriage. Connection is what keeps us from "living separate lives." We often crave more connection, but we don't know how to get it. That's why in this episode, we're going to talk about why we need connection in ou...

Creating a collaborative sexual relationship is so important to your marriage. Collaboration is different from compromise where it's not just about teamwork, or giving in, but about a mutual commitment to creating a relationship that meets both partner's needs. The rewards of a collaborative sexual relationship are profound! When both partners participate in building a space that respects and upli...

Do you find yourself worrying more about your partner during your sexual experience than you do yourself? When we feel overly responsible for other's emotional or physical experience during sex, we can be affecting our relationship in a negative way. This dynamic is called sexual caretaking. We are taught, directly or indirectly, that we are responsible for their experience. This is not true. In t...

In this episode, we are going to address a topic that so many struggle with but often don't talk about: sexual shame. Many carry the burden of sexual shame and it can impact our view of ourselves and our connection with our spouse. If you've ever found yourself feeling like something is wrong with you for having sexual thoughts, or if you've hidden aspects of your sexuality out of fear or guilt, t...