Rebuilding Trust with Carol The Coach

“Almost every woman that I’ve ever talked to knew something was going on… But they didn’t have words for it.” When a woman discovers her partner's betrayal, everyone wants her to decide something. Stay or go. Forgive or not. Tell the kids or wait. But in those first weeks and months her body is in shock: racing thoughts, no sleep, checking his phone at 2 a.m., swinging between numbness and rag...

“If you’re stuck in self-doubt, this is for you.” Many women reach a point in life where they no longer recognise themselves. They have spent years as the wife, the mother, the professional, the one who holds everything together for everyone else, and somewhere along the way the woman underneath those roles went quiet. In today's episode, my conversation with Denise Hayden-Hawkins will explore...

“We are literally rewiring our brain circuitry to be able to have the brain function differently.” In today's episode of The Rebuilding Trust Podcast, I’m sitting down with Wendy Conquest to discuss mindfulness and meditation to explore how it can help sex addicts, betrayed partners, and anyone stuck in shame or reactivity find more calm, clarity, and self-awareness. Whether you’re a betrayed...

In this episode of Rebuilding Trust, I’m joined by Jenna Riemersma, who shares a simple IFS-based approach to stop fighting your inner parts and start healing from the inside out. In this episode, we talk about how the “notice, know, need” framework can help turn shame, self-criticism, and inner conflict into compassion and growth. Links: https://sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.com https://jennariemersma...

In this episode, I'm joined by Cristina Wehner to discuss how therapy intensives can help couples and individuals move through betrayal trauma more effectively than traditional weekly therapy. We explore why creating a safe, uninterrupted space can accelerate healing, the role of disclosure and psychoeducation, and how this model benefits both clients and clinicians. Whether you're recover...

In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Robert Hudson to explore compulsive sexual behavior (CSB), its impact on intimate relationships, and the clinical realities that are so often hidden beneath secrecy and shame. Drawing from his new book, *Treating Compulsive Sexual Behavior and Its Impact on Relationships: A Clinical Guide*, Dr. Hudson helps us understand why CSB is frequently misunderstood as...

The Second Edition of The Betrayal Bind came out March 3 and expands the attachment based Braving Model even further. One of the core things explored are the six attachment-based coping strategies that emerge after betrayal. Understanding that these behaviors are driving by attachment needs is vital for both betrayed partners, their significant others and the helping professionals who support them...

Many betrayed partners are told that recovery requires sobriety, accountability, disclosure, and empathy, but they are not always given a clear understanding of what is happening in the addicted brain or why meaningful change takes time. In this conversation, Chris Chandler brings a neuroscience-based lens to compulsive sexual behavior, drawing from his clinical work with thousands of men, his col...

Bill Herring is a clinical social worker as well as a certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT) in Atlanta Georgia where he has maintained a private psychotherapy practice for he past 35 years. Bill Herring is the creator of the Problematic Sexual Behavior Framework (known as the PSB Framework for short). This is a way to assess any form of sexual behavior for the presence of problematic aspects wi...

Dr. Monique Thompson, DHA, LPC, LPC-S, is an EMDR-trained therapist and trauma-informed life coach specializing in betrayal trauma, PTSD, and post-infidelity repair. With over 24 years in private practice, she integrates parts-based approaches, nervous system regulation, and trauma reprocessing to help betrayed partners restore a sense of safety and support partners who have betrayed in developing...

This conversation explores the often-overlooked experience of betrayed males, especially fathers, and how men uniquely process intimate relationship betrayal. While infidelity is commonly studied and treated through a female-centered lens, emerging insights suggest that men may experience betrayal as a distinct form of trauma—impacting identity, trust, emotional regulation, and meaning-making. Fro...

Betrayal is more than a break in a contract; it is a physiological and emotional earthquake that can leave you feeling fundamentally altered. However, resilience isn't about "bouncing back" to the person you were before; it is about the grounded, deliberate process of integrating that experience and moving forward with a new sense of self. In this session, we explore how to shift fro...

In this episode, we explore two deeply important areas of healing, protection, and education. First, we dive into the Help Her Heal-Informed Workshop—a powerful experiential program designed for men who want to better understand how to support a partner’s healing after betrayal. Rather than simply teaching concepts, this workshop challenges participants to practice honesty, accountability, and emo...

In this deeply honest and compassionate conversation, I sit down with therapist and author Dr. Eddie Capparucci to explore a difficult but necessary question: Why is healing so hard for some betrayed partners? Together, we unpack the emotional complexity that follows betrayal trauma, the role of nervous system dysregulation, and how both partners can unintentionally get stuck in cycles of pain, fe...

In this episode, I sit down with my colleague and friend, Amy Smith, to talk about a major gap I see every day in the behavioral health world, people and families trying to navigate treatment on their own. With over 20 years of experience, Amy shares how she’s created a concierge-style service to guide clients through the overwhelming process of finding the right care, advocating for their needs,...

Chemsex, the use of substances like meth, GHB, and mephedrone to enhance sex, remains a largely hidden but growing crisis among gay and bisexual men. In this episode, Dr. David Fawcett and Dr. Dallas Bragg combine clinical expertise and lived recovery experience to unpack the powerful link between sexuality, shame, trauma, and addiction. They explore why chemsex is so difficult to break free from,...

In this powerful and deeply moving episode of Rebuilding Trust, I sit down with actress and advocate Maddie Corman to share a story of betrayal, resilience, and true post-traumatic growth. Ten years after her “D-Day,” Maddie opens up about the moment her world shattered, when she discovered her husband’s secret life, and the unimaginable impact it had on her, her children, and her identity as a pa...

In this episode, Carol the Coach talks with Dr. Connie Zollner about the growing impact of artificial intelligence on relationships and recovery from compulsive sexual behavior. They explore how AI chatbots and virtual companions can create “artificial intimacy,” leading to new forms of betrayal and emotional disconnection in couples. Dr. Zollner introduces the Artificial Intimacy Recovery Model (...

In this insightful interview, Dr. Lyne Piché explores the complex relationship between ADHD and sexuality, highlighting how neurodivergence impacts sexual behavior, intimacy, and problematic sexual behaviors. Discover practical strategies, the role of medication, and how understanding ADHD can foster healthier relationships and self-awareness. Find more of Carol: ⁠https://sexhelpwithcarolthecoach....

In this episode of Rebuilding Trust, Carol the Coach engages with Tim Burkholder to explore the intricacies of emotional awareness, particularly in the context of male sex addiction. They discuss the importance of understanding emotions, the logic behind them, and how this knowledge can aid in recovery. Tim shares insights from his personal journey and the development of his course, 'The Logic...

In this episode of Rebuilding Trust, I had the absolute privilege of sitting down with Tera Lynch, author of The Orange Post-It Note: A Memoir About a Husband’s Betrayal and My Resilience Tera’s story is one of honesty, heartbreak, and ultimately, strength. She shares what it was like to discover her husband’s sex addiction, endure repeated betrayals, and spend three years doing everything she cou...

In this episode of "Rebuilding Trust with Carol the Coach," host Carol engages with Mel McCracken, the National Director of ChemSex and LGBT programs, to discuss the complex issues surrounding chem sex and its impact on the LGBTQ community. Mel shares her personal journey into recovery and her professional commitment to addressing the silent epidemic of chem sex addiction, which she desc...

In this conversation, Carol and Linda discuss the importance of group coaching for couples, emphasizing the value of community and support in the healing process. Linda shares her extensive training and experience in working with couples, highlighting the benefits of a structured and safe environment for sharing and growth. They explore the challenges couples face in recovery, the significance of...

In this conversation, Carol and Rachel discuss the importance of intensive therapy for partners, particularly women dealing with betrayal trauma. They explore the structure of women's intensives, the role of psychodrama in healing, and the significance of creating a safe community for participants. The discussion highlights the day-by-day breakdown of the intensive, emphasizing the importance...

In this episode of the Rebuilding Trust podcast, Carol Sheets interviews Matt and Isy, a couple who have undergone a profound transformation in their marriage after facing the challenges of betrayal and addiction. They share their personal journeys, the impact of Matt's hidden sexual addiction on their relationship, and the process of recovery that led to their healing. The conversation delves...