Make Your Damn Bed

Familiar will typically always be more comfortable than the unfamiliar. Even if that familiar is fairly unhealthy. Many people are miserable and comfortable. Many people can find comfort in sadness. There is no shame in it, because often, we’re so used to the sadness, anger, or shame that we don’t even realize there is another way.  Push yourself to be uncomfortable when it means you may find more...

You’re allowed to take breaks - even from your partners - to reassess, come back, and refocus on what you need, expect, and desire in a relationship - and you can do so without burning bridges. IF you wait too long to address something, it can infect itself and cause bigger problems in the future. Why amputate if you could’ve just cleaned the scrape properly as soon as you noticed it?  Try not to...

I talk about the importance of recognizing nuance in everything all the time - but we still often fall back into black and white, all or nothing thinking patterns that can cause us more harm than good.  Let yourself be intuitive and make decisions from a place that feels good instead of afraid.  It can and often will be both. You will have reasons to stay and reasons to go. You will have reasons t...

I think we get inundated with the knowledge that information, tools, and assistance is limitless - and we don’t often know where to begin. Start with something that feels realistic to your now. What tool can you integrate into your routine today that will help you tomorrow.  Remember that new habits and routines take lots of time to get used to - and feel good doing consistently - but you’re allow...

It’s about doing what works for you - at a pace that feels good for you. It’s about finding your path to success in whatever that means to you. And since this is a new path for you - and you’re a unique individual - there is no right or wrong way through a forest - You just have to start clearing a path that makes sense to you.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Suppor...

Get in the Practice of making and keeping promises to yourself that make your life better in the long run - and not just the now.   Start by setting an intention for the week. You may want to think about a goal you’ve had for a long time - or something you struggle with committing to - or maybe something more specific like writing a screenplay or something big like starting college or a mindful in...

It’s important to allow yourself criticism but it's also just as important to expect other adults to bear constructive, fair, and essential criticism too. If they get defensive and angry - that isn’t necessarily a safe place for growth. If we all want to achieve better - we have to get comfortable taking, offering, and accepting that none of us are perfect.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit...

There is nothing better than getting a lurking task off of your to do list - especially if it’s been nagging you for more than a few weeks. Get out of your comfort zone - knock the shit out - then reward yourself for being such a bad ass.  Instead of dreading that to do list every time you rewrite it and add the same old bullshit to the end of it, try breaking it up into manageable baby steps. Ded...

Stop stressing and procrastinating because "it’s not going to be perfect” and make the process of planning it enjoyable - which will feel better than perfect could. Also, let’s not forget tastes change and the shit you’re obsessed with now may drive you up the wall in ten years. None of that specific shit really matters unless it’s genuinely sentimental to you.   Learn more about your ad choices....

Cars are a literal miracle we have become so used to - we forget how amazing it is. Think about the fuel itself. Gasoline is combustible, dangerous, and potentially deadly if not used properly. But if you harness that incredibly powerful resource, you can make cars drive across the country and literal airplanes fly into the sky.  Our emotions are the same way. Both big emotions and jet fuel, can b...

Feeling Good should be the focus of your day to day. This does not mean to only do the things that feel good in the moment - what it means is to actively decide to change the way you feel about the shit you have to do. It takes time and practice. Commit. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast....

Your friends and loved ones often won’t feel comfortable inviting themselves into parts of your life because it’s yours and they don’t understand a thing about it. And, honestly, if that’s how you want to keep it, great. But if you feel like you’ve been lacking a sense of connection, don’t be afraid to occasionally allow the people you trust to join you where are you are you are your most comforta...

 Like anything, optimizing your space can be a slippery slope - and you may feel like it’s never perfect and can always be better. To you, I say relax. Fix what matters but recognize there is never a perfect solution to anything - and it’s about feeling your best. Stressing over what makes it the best is not feeling your best. Take a step back, ask yourself it’s working well enough for the time be...

Optimizing your space takes time, self awareness, and it means getting comfortable rearranging as often as you need to to ensure that your space continues working for you as you grow and change.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The more you consciously DECIDE to feel excited about your healthier choices, the more your brain associates these healthy things with dopamine too. This is how people get addicted to working out and eating right. It starts with small, consistent changes, which we all know and hear about regularly but to me, the most important piece comes from the intentional choice of good feelings surrounding th...

Jumping around searching desperately for a purpose is a lot more difficult than honing one based on the shit you’ve already got going for you - but that’s not to say, your next favorite thing isn’t right around the corner. Don’t be afraid to try out the new shit and rehash the old shit.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/mak...

Be conscious of your purchases because it is too often, too simple for us to go full Ariana grande and “I want it I bought it” ourselves into the cumbersome nightmare of amazon boxes and useless shit that didn’t actually feel good when you got it, had to unload it, or when you finally decided to get rid of it six years later and realized the tags were still on it. Learn more about your ad choices....

If you’re like me and you struggle to limit your spending in any capacity - next time you want to buy something new, ask yourself this: Can I afford this? And Do I need this? If the answer is yes to both -great. Buy it! No hesitation. If you say nah I don’t need it and it’s worth it to you to buy it anyway - great. Buy the shit. And if you can’t afford it - that’s a case by case basis. But at leas...

Because when you’re too busy analyzing what the other person might mean you’re not being present with what they actually said or did.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are so many versions of reality - often with substantiated evidence that coincides with it - that if you don’t perpetually do valuable research on the research you’re using to support your argument - you’re at the mercy of whatever bozo knows how to type.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted o...

what would the younger version of you think about your life right now? Pretend they came for a visit- what would they want to do with you? What cool stuff could you show them to make them excited about growing up? Would you eat the same way or would you change your daily routine when they were in town? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporte...

Children don’t like being bored - and neither do adults. It’s our job to make sure we’re having the best possible time, just like it’s a parents job to make sure that their three year old will be entertained for the entirety of the flight. You are your own three year old. Prepare yourself for the best possible outcome by integrating and promising yourself consistent fun.  Learn more about your ad...

Remember that there is not enough time in the day to connect deeply with every person you’ve ever known or loved, commit yourself to every project you’ve ever felt inspired by, or accomplish everything you’ve ever wanted to accomplish.  So when the universe moves someone or something out of your life - take it as a reminder that everything changes and sometimes the best is yet to come. Learn more...

It’s not easy to admit you have these problematic beliefs lying dormant inside of you - but the sooner you address them - the sooner you can free yourself of them. It’s not your fault for having toxic beliefs, or even making mistakes under their hold, but it is your responsibility to fix them before anyone gets hurt by the after math of said toxic beliefs.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit...

You should never go after something simply because you want to be the best you should go after things because you want to feel your best.  Doing your best and being your best are all fine and dandy goals, but if you’re not enjoying the journey, you’ve wasted a very valuable ride.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your...