The Susan Winter Show

Bea writes, “Hi Susan,I just met a much younger guy. I am 44 and he's 27. He seems to be quite serious, a quiet type which suits me a lot. He has a very demanding job - he's a firefighter. So I sense he's a strong, manly man. He's also 6'6 and fit. I wonder if in our relationship I'd still be the one who's dominant, just because of my age? I don't fancy this idea. Is it possible he would be the le...

Erika writes: “What are your thoughts on the law of attraction and its role in getting an ex back? I've read that some people have used it to get their exes back with great success. However, it sounds like this method involves giving them all the power. Won't this have the opposite effect as that person feeds off that energy? You mentioned your ex only reached out to you when you had decided it wa...

Ed writes, “Hello Susan, Here are my thoughts on a video request. As we experience the grief from a heartbreak, we also have a variety of emotions to deal with (as you have discussed in videos). One huge additional thing I'm not sure you have covered is the reality of how to deal with the thought and feeling of knowing your former Lover is having sex with someone new or will be having sex with som...

Monica writes, “Hello Susan - I LOVE your videos and amazing advice. My issue is that, in a relationship (from 9months-3yrs), the guy will lose interest or momentum, and realise later what they've lost. All of my old boyfriends have confessed their love for me long after the relationship has ended. This is incredibly frustrating. Is there anything I can do to prevent this from continuing to happen...

Ann writes: “How to finally move on and be happy with yourself again? I've always been single and happy until I dated someone who was into me at first, pulled away, and went back to his ex. He lied to me about it and blamed me for feeling that way. It's been a year and I feel pathetic for being still sad about it and haven't met anyone, yet he has moved on with his happily ever after. Help:(“ 

Are you obsessed with getting your romance back on track? Here's why your partner is frustrating you so, and how to handle the desperate need to try over and over to recapture the first blissful days of togetherness.

This is the double bind where if you speak up to bad behavior or voice a complaint, it's all ‘too much' for your mate. Partner's who play the ‘no drama threat' box you into compliance and insist upon your silence by pulling away as punishment. No complaints are allowed. Therefor, no healthy relationship can be formed.

Linda writes: “I have a crush on someone and although I don't know what the outcome will be, it seems there is chemistry and I get the feeling he likes me. However, when we bump into each other he is either pretending not to remember our last conversation to play it cool, or he's really not paying attention. I on the other hand remember EVERY DETAIL of our conversations.  Is this a gender thing? T...

Viewer Chris writes, “Do you believe in love at first sight?” This is a question that many people ponder as they sense an immediate attraction to another. Is it real? Is it imagined? Here's my take on the subject.

Do you find yourself wondering what ‘could have been'? Obsessing over an imagined love life can make you miss what's right in front of your eyes. Here's how to either dispel the myth of the ‘perfect love lost,' or seek out your missed connection and make it a reality.

Margaret writes, “Hi Susan, Could you do a video on how to get over someone who chooses another person over you?  I keep finding myself comparing myself to the woman he chose. He said she challenges him and I don't, so I continually see myself as less than her. Thank you!”

Evelyn writes: “Hi Susan, I find your way of conducting yourself in videos is so classy! Thanks for all your insights and tips! I am a 45 year-old woman with a good education and career. One thing that keeps frustrating me is that in the online dating platform; I'm ONLY approached by men who are 15+ older. And NO men around my age whom I sent greetings to ever responded me. Why and what to do? Tha...

Scott writes, “Hi Susan- I watch all of your videos on YouTube.  Thank you.  My q: being a guy in the mid-life dating pool is not just difficult, it's expensive. I'm getting really tired of showing up for a first date and she orders drinks and food and then just looks away when the bill comes. We're made to feel cheap about paying by the women who refuse to pay anything. Your thoughts?”

Georgina writes: “I would love to get your thoughts on the best way to ask someone why his (or her) marriage or long term relationship ended without sounding intrusive. It seems each time I date a divorced guy, I question whether I'm coming across true “run for your life” red flags in his character, or if he's just triggered, and I need to be a bit more patient, understanding and direct in my comm...

Did they ever love me? Was it ever real? These are the questions we ask ourselves when we've been dumped, cheated on, lied to, abandoned, used, played, and conned.  We begin to fear that we made it all up in our minds. How will we ever know? Here's the answer.

Paul writes, “Hello Susan. For most of my life I have been struggling to choose the right partner for me. There is usually this dilemma for me; to choose either a man to whom I am sexually attracted but have very little in common with, or a man who I feel deeply connected with but doesn't ignite sexual desire in me (which I guess is an upgraded version of a friend). How should one proceed in this...

Marie writes, “Dear Susan,Can you make a video about Unrequited Love or How to Handle Rejection after You Confessed your Affection to someone who does not feel the same? Hugs from Geneva, Switzerland”.

Why would someone urge you forward into caring for them, give you green lights, and connect so readily… then suddenly bail? Lines like  ‘I'm not ready,' or ‘I don't want a relationship right now' seem so incongruous with their former actions. Here's why they bailed and what you can do about it.

Marie writes, “My question might be elementary, but when should a partner say, "I love you"? I am a woman in my 30s who has been dating a man in his 40s for 10 months. The relationship has been thoughtful, mature, and (dare I say) loving, but he has yet to say, "I love you." I have been waiting for him to say this phrase first, but am I being old-fashioned or ridiculous by waiting? Many thanks for...

Baffled as to why they left? Wondering if they'll come back? Learn why the energetic act of staying frozen as you wait and hope for your partner's return is the very thing that's acting as a repellant.

Candice writes, “Hi Susan,I'm a HUGE fan of yours and I think you hit the nail on the head every time you dole out advice.  My question has to do with divorce. I am going through a divorce now and I would love some advice on getting through the grieving process, how to stop questioning whether or not you made the right decision and the best way to put yourself back out on the dating scene again. T...

Julie writes, “Dear Susan, how can you tell if you and your partner are on the same page regarding the future if your partner is a more reticent, cautious person? I know that my partner loves me a lot, is kind and consistent. However, unlike me, who would love to dive straight in to a life together, he is taking things much more slowly and warily. I sometimes take this for a lack of commitment. Th...

Alika writes, “Hey Susan, I'm a big fan of yours! My question is about taking chances. Is it a good idea to "shoot your shot" as Millennial's often say? I find myself wanting to interact with people I see at school or the gym, or even messaging them on social media, but I don't have the guts for it. Even further, I can't tell if I'm being reasonable talking myself down, or if that feeling is actua...

Are you tired of watching videos and reading articles about narcissists? Perhaps you're taking the right approach but applying it to the wrong person. Instead of trying to change the narcissist, why not change your attitude about them? This is the one thing they desperately need from you, and the only thing over which you have complete control.

Just when you thought you'd handled your heartache, it comes raging to the surface. A delayed response to a painful event or situation can put us into a tailspin. Here's how to handle that emotional onslaught and move through the process of healing.