Hold On, What Was I Saying?

Why can’t we just get out of the car, the bed, or the shower? We dig into ADHD transitions: the in-between moments that drain us. We talk about executive dysfunction, time blindness, sensory shock and hyperfocus, plus how the menstrual cycle plays a part for ADHD women. Then we share practical tips to make transitions easier, like buffer time, bridge actions and making the next step more appealing...

It's 1:47am, you've got work at 8, and you're deep in a video essay you stopped enjoying ages ago. This week we're talking ADHD and sleep. We cover the science (people with ADHD release melatonin later), why bad sleep and ADHD symptoms feed each other, revenge bedtime procrastination, how hormones and the luteal phase make everything harder, and why every business idea arrives betw...

ADHD and driving: crashes, zoning out, road rage, and failed tests. We share our worst driving stories and dig into why ADHD brains genuinely struggle behind the wheel, plus what the research actually says about crash risk. Relatable, chaotic, and validating for anyone who's ever "come to" three miles from where they last remember driving. We hope you enjoy it - remember to follow an...

Spent years thinking you're too lazy, too much, too sensitive, or just not good enough? You're not alone—and it's probably not you, it's your ADHD. In this episode of Hold On, What Was I Saying?, Megan and Emily break down 10 realistic, actually-doable strategies for rebuilding self-esteem after decades of masking and internalized criticism. If you were diagnosed with ADHD later in...

Channel 4 just announced a documentary asking one question: is ADHD a myth or a social construct? In this episode, we unpack why that framing is not just wrong — it's harmful. We talk about the science behind ADHD (including its 75–80% heritability rate, the highest of any neurodevelopmental condition), why underdiagnosis — not overdiagnosis — is the real story, and why late-diagnosed women in par...

Welcome back to another ADHD Girl Guide! This time we're talking diagnosis, one of the biggest and most misunderstood parts of the ADHD conversation. We went through two completely different routes to get here: NHS Right to Choose and a private assessment, and we're breaking down what each one actually looks like, the waitlists, the costs, and the workarounds nobody tells you about. We dig into th...

This week we're diving deep into attachment theory — anxious, avoidant, disorganised, and everything in between — and how ADHD makes it all so much more intense. We get brutally honest about our own most "unhinged" moments in relationships (hello, retroactive jealousy 👀), the fear of rejection that shapes how we love, and why chasing "secure" love can feel scarier than the chaos we're used to. We...

trigger warning: this one's a bit heavier than usual. We're talking eating disorders, body image and how they show up differently when you've got ADHD. we get into binge eating (and why it's so under-diagnosed, especially in women), the shame spiral that follows it, growing up in the Tumblr pro-ana era, and why rejection sensitive dysphoria makes body comments stick for life. we al...

If you've ever eaten the same meal every single day for three weeks and genuinely loved every bite, and then suddenly couldn't look at it ever again, this episode is for you. This week we are getting into something that doesn't get talked about enough in ADHD spaces: food. Not in a diet culture way, not in a wellness way, in a why have I ordered the exact same thing from this restauran...

Is ADHD actually a disorder — or is it a brain that evolved for a completely different world? In our first ever guest episode, we sit down with Dr. Alex Curmi — psychiatrist, psychotherapist, and host of The Thinking Mind podcast — for one of the most eye-opening conversations we've ever had on this show. We get into evolutionary psychology, why the ADHD brain may have been an extraordinary ad...

We just got back from six nights at Kala Festival in Albania, and we are feeling it. When you have ADHD, that kind of exhaustion hits ten times harder than it does for anyone else — and honestly, it felt like the perfect time to record this episode. This is our ADHD Girls Guide to Making Life Easier — and we want to be really clear about what this is not. It's not a self-improvement episode. W...

Are you ADHD, or are you just a mess? (We're both, apparently.) This week we're getting into one of the most important conversations in the ADHD space right now — why social media has made it so hard to know what's real, what's accurate, and what's just the algorithm doing its thing. We talk about the actual clinical difference between ADHD traits and ADHD impairment, why women...

Welcome back to ADHD Girls' Guide! This week we're throwing open the doors on something we know every ADHD girlie has — the Shame Shed. Whether it's an actual box on top of your wardrobe or a loft full of bamboo straws from a business that never quite launched, we're talking about all the hobbies, projects and hyperfixations we started with absolute fire... and quietly abandoned. F...

ADHD and money — two things that genuinely don't mix well. In this episode, we get brutally honest about our worst money moments (a £2,000 Pilates course Emily never completed, anyone?), why ADHD brains treat every pay cheque like free money, and the 10 rules that have actually helped them get a grip on their finances. No financial jargon. No judgment. Just two women with ADHD sharing the syst...

This week we're getting into one of the biggest struggles for ADHDers; people pleasing and boundaries. We talk about the ADHD fawn response, why we say yes to plans we don't want to go to, the exhausting reality of being an empath (including making up entire sad backstories for strangers on the tube), and the pressure to be the "chill girl." We share personal stories... from stay...

It's 3am. You're staring at the ceiling, spiralling about a text you sent a month ago, convinced everyone hates you, and mentally planning a new life in Costa Rica. Sound familiar? This week Emily and Megan dedicate a full episode to Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) — one of the most misunderstood and all-consuming parts of ADHD. They cover what RSD actually is (and why it's different from just...

We missed an episode. We're not going to pretend otherwise, PMS and ADHD hit at the same time and we were not recording in that state. We're back though, we're a tiny bit tipsy, it's the first sunny day of the year, and we're talking about something that doesn't get discussed nearly enough in the ADHD community: addiction. And not just the obvious kind. In this week's e...

"Have you ever been called an attention seeker?" — we opened with that question and honestly, neither of us could deny it. In this week's episode, We get into one of the most misunderstood labels attached to ADHD. Yes, a lot of us are attention seekers. But the real question is why — and whether that term is even fair. We break down the neuroscience behind it (spoiler: it comes back...

Is ADHD a superpower, or is that just something people say to make us feel better? This week, we tackle one of the most controversial topics in the ADHD community. We break down the real strengths that ADHD brings — hyperfocus, creativity, pattern recognition, big ideas, and entrepreneurial energy — while getting brutally honest about the parts that don't feel like a superpower at all: task paraly...

We’re talking about something so many people get wrong — how to actually support someone with ADHD. From being labelled “lazy” or “too sensitive” to feeling completely misunderstood, we break down the biggest misconceptions around ADHD and why they can make support even harder to receive. This episode is all about real, lived experiences — what support actually looks like, what doesn’t help, and h...

In this episode we are talking about ADHD burnout — something that so many people with ADHD experience but often don’t realise is happening. For years we both thought we were just lazy or bad at coping with work, when actually we were experiencing ADHD burnout from masking, overcompensating and pushing ourselves too hard. We talk about: • the ADHD burnout cycle • why women are often diagnosed late...

In this episode, we are talking about ADHD and the gender differences between how it shows up in boys and girls, men and women. ADHD has traditionally been studied through the lens of hyperactive boys, but many girls experience it very differently. Instead of obvious hyperactivity, symptoms can show up as overthinking, emotional dysregulation, masking, people-pleasing, and constantly feeling overw...

Why are people with ADHD more likely to end up in toxic relationships? In this episode, we’re talking about: The science behind ADHD and dopamine seeking Why intermittent reinforcement feels addictive Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) and dating Love bombing vs genuine connection Trauma bonding and mirroring Why healthy love can actually feel “boring” at first How to break the toxic cycle We s...

Why does your ADHD feel 10x worse the week before your period? Why does your medication suddenly stop working? Why do you question your relationship, your job, your entire existence… and then feel fine 24 hours later? In this episode, we’re talking about ADHD and hormones - the science behind estrogen, dopamine, PMS, PMDD, contraception, menopause, and everything we were never taught in school . W...

This week on Hold On, What Was I Saying? we’re talking all things ADHD medication — the myths, the stigma, the side effects, and what it actually feels like to start titration. We cover: • What ADHD medication really does (and what it doesn’t) • Why it’s not a “limitless pill” • The zombie myth • “It’s basically meth” — debunked • Titration journeys & changing prescribers • Concerta vs Medikin...