Fit Mind Chats

Now it’s my turn in the hot seat. I have no idea what Abbey is going to throw at me, which is exactly what therapy is like. Every hour you meet with someone and you have no idea what they will bring up, what happened in their life, what crisis they may have experienced and you have to be ready for anything. It’s a lot of fun and I’ll tell you that early on in my career, this part of the job contri...

If you have been in a long term monogamous relationship, this chat is for you. If you are in a new relationship, your passion is high and you may have zero desire issues. In the beginning of a relationship, passion is high, intimacy and companionship are low. Over the course of a long term relationship, passion decreases and companionship and intimacy increase. For the couples out there who are st...

Today we are saying the quiet part out loud. In a therapy session our responses are thoughtful, supportive and therapeutic. However, we are human and also have initial thoughts that may not be helpful and need to switch gears and put our therapy hats on. Sarah is going to give me things her clients have said in session and I am going to respond with my initial reaction, therapeutic reaction and ba...

Relationship ambivalence defined by being stuck in a limbo with deciding if you should stay or leave a relationship. If you are a bff or family member looking in on a loved one’s relationship it may appear obvious they should leave. You hear all about the the lying, disrespect, lack of support from their partner and their overall dislike of their partner. You think writing on the wall they should...

Does this sound familiar? My husband and I have been going through a rough patch for the last several years. There is no intimacy, I am not attracted to this person and at times can be repelled. We live together as room mates and sleep in separate bedrooms. I am responsible for the management of the house, child rearing(we are almost empty nesters) and I take care of his every need. I feel done bu...

We spend our childhood trying to fit in Middle school prepared us for many things —mainly the lifelong experience of wondering‘Do these people actually like me?’” In our twenties we are trying to find our people after college when we had friends by proximity Our forties we are friends with our kid’s friends parents or if no kids then people in your group that do not have kids In the 50s/60s/70s lo...

You finally decide to take the leap of faith and find a therapist. You may walk into the session nervous and worried, being vulnerable isn’t easy. You do your best to pick a therapist who’s bio matches you or maybe you got a recommendation from a trusted source. Hoping that this will be a good fit. Maybe you fear that the therapist is actually judging you or worry if they like you. You may wonder,...

Have you ever found yourself doing favors and not realizing they are big favors and the person asking has a history of putting tasks on you but framing it as something you enjoy doing. They make you feel special and like you are a great friend or partner. They play on your ego to get their needs met. You are giving them a free pass and feeling altruistic about it. One day it clicks and you realize...

Sound familiar, write a list of all your contacts does this track? (1 and 6 people are Narcissist) Grandiosity, arrogance, no empathy. They are entitled and more special than anyone else, excessive need for admiration, they do not know what matters to them, they are driven by admiration. Emotionally shallow, self centered, do not notice other people’s experience. They gaslight, emotionally manipul...

Today we are switching gears and doing a case consult. We have been breaking down the over achievers, the over productive but under feelers and today we are going to look at a case of under functioning. The people that are stuck in the freeze and have difficulty motivating. A case of a patient thriving and over achieving to under achieving and doing the bare minimum. Today our case study is an ado...

Parenting these days is challenging, it’s hard. You have a baby and there is no user manual in sight. They let you leave the hospital as long as you have an infant car seat. That’s it. You’re on your own from there. And if you are anything like me, I worry about being a good enough parent. Am I being too hard on my child? Am I not being hard enough? WIll they leave childhood with any discernable s...

The title of the show today is Resentment is my Love Language. We are talking about resentment. What it is? Why do we continue to do things to build resentment? If any of these sound familiar or you can relate today it is your show. When researching this show these were some potential titles. Can you relate to any of these? “How to build resentment in 10 easy favors” Do you say “I’m fine.” when yo...

Today we are circling back to a quote by Brene Brown “Crazy-Busy is a great way to stay numb . What a lot of us do is that we stay so busy, and so out in front of our life that the truth of how we are feeling can’t catch up.”We ask the question of why might we do this and what can we do to become more connected to ourselves. If we don’t pay attention to ourselves, who suffers? We do, our kids beca...

This week on Fit Mind Chats we talk about the unrealistic pressure we put on New Year New You resolutions. Who is dictating what you need to change, what was not good enough last year and who is setting your bar for success? If the answer is anyone but you how do we change it to you setting your bar for 2026. We explore connecting productivity with success, staying busy to stay numb, doing things...