Finding You: with Dr. Brad Reedy

In this episode, Dr. Reedy talks about the roles we take on in families. He explains how the s scapegoat or identified patient serve to take on the shame and undone work of the family. Often their symptoms are messengers of the work previous generations have avoided up to this point. They often bring the entire family into therapy and are regarded as sort of a “hero.” This is because once the fami...

Dr. Reedy explains how boundaries are synonymous with self-care. He explains that boundaries set from a codependent context are meant to change others while boundaries set from a secure sense of self are set to take care of one’s self. He explains how consequences, under the umbrella of boundaries, are an attempt to change behaviors in others. And finally, if we set boundaries to change others we...

Dr. Reedy discusses whether going home for the holidays is the best thing for us. He discusses the guilt, shame and obligation that’s “baked-in” to us when it comes to visiting family or maintaining relationships we have outgrown. He doesn’t offer advice but rather takes the audience through the questions and the thinking that goes into our relationships. He explains that a task in attachment is t...

Dr. Reedy discusses how therapists (specifically analytical and attachment-based therapists) may think about religion. He explores the function of religion as a way to relate to life and to the world. He talks about how disconnection from God is synonymous with disconnection from ourselves. He talks about our relationship with fear and how if we avoid the feelings of uncertainty and the pain that...

Dr. Reedy explains that the goal in therapy is reducing shame, creating safety, and lessening resistance. Therapy is a different way of being with someone, so they feel safe enough to lower their defenses. He suggests that we can learn from therapy and apply principles of dealing with resistance to all our relationships and to ourselves. He discusses how common resistance is in our work. He talks...

Dr. Reedy discusses the difference between therapy and a podcast. He explains that ultimately, we must face what is presenting itself to us in our lives. We must go in and through the pain and difficulty to discover news resources that lie within all of us. He talks about how we avoid parts of ourselves and repress feelings, characteristics, or traits in order to fit in and how the problems that b...

De. Reedy discusses the young adult stage of development. He talk, talks about brain development and the tasks that young adult adults are negotiating. He also talks about the parallel journey that the parents of young adults are also traversing. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy takes questions from audience members and live participants of the Finding You Inner Circle. He talks about how un-owned codependency becomes a burden to those close to us, how to navigate a relationship where we are repeatedly betrayed, and how to respond when a child is baiting the parent to react. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy discuss a shift in consciousness that gives a new context for tools. He explains that we must shift our thinking about self and relationships in the parenting context for boundaries to make sense. He explains how myth and story help to illustrate this shift in consciousness.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy addresses the two main tasks of intimacy – sharing and listening. He talks about the capacity required to deeply hear and listen to another. He explains that talking tends to be a taking thing and listening requires healing and significant capacity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy discuss the impact of family of origin roles and rules on our psyche. He talks about how we can repair wounds and trauma we experienced. He emphasized the need for overt and explicit communication rather than covert and implicit messaging. He explains how therapy, sitting with a different perspective, can shift the ideas we have sometimes unconsciously internalized. Hosted on Acast. See...

Dr. Reedy explores various therapy approaches and how they view symptoms. He explains that symptoms are messengers from the unconscious, the inner-child, and authentic self. We learn to be in dialogue with our symptoms. We can learn to listen rather suppress. As Marcus Aurelius says, “What stands in the way is the way.” Or as Rumi wrote, “The cure for the pain is in the pain.” Hosted on Acast. See...

Dr. Reedy discusses how we can understand our experience through using what therapists refer to as “parts work.” From the Ancient Greeks to the present, people have used stories, characters, and archetypes to better understand and work with the different energies that motivate human behavior. These methods, including the most recent iteration, Internal Family Systems, offer a non-shaming perspecti...

Dr. Reedy discusses the relationship between guilt, resentment, and boundaries. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy reviews the book by Richard Bach, the author of Jonathon Livingston Seagull. Illusions is the allegory of a “Master Messiah” as he passes his wisdom on to Richard, the apprentice. The overarching message of the book is that we are accountable and responsibility for our own meaning, our own happiness. His telling illustrates that such a message is often rejected because we don’t want to t...

My Child’s Resentment About Treatment - Ep 680 by Dr. Brad Reedy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Which Type of Therapy (Individual, Couple, or Family) is Right for Me? - Ep 679 by Dr. Brad Reedy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Dr. Reedy welcomes Dr. Alexa Altman where she discusses how psychedelics bring the unconscious material into consciousness. She talks about the importance of integration. Dr. Altman’s Website: https://www.i-psychedelic.com 1. Single-dose psilocybin (25 mg) with psychological support for MDDJAMA – “Single-Dose Psilocybin Treatment for Major Depressive Disorder” psychiatryonline.org+15sunstonetherap...

Dr. Reedy welcomes Dr. Katia Moritz, an expert in the treatment of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Dr. Moritz discusses common misperceptions is the diagnosis and treatment of the disorder. She explores the etiology and how family members are the not cause of the issue, but may be inadvertently contributing to some of the dynamics. N.B.I.: https://www.nbiweston.com Dr. Moritz’s bio: https://www.nbi...

Dr. Reedy discusses the issue related to individuals choosing to cut contact with their family members. He also talks about what to do when you are on the receiving end of this kind of boundary. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy discusses how rebellion is a response to a situation where the project of individuation is threatened or stalled. He explains that individuation is the answer to the soul’s longing for itself. He invites listeners to consider disregarding what they were taught about parenting, children and even this broadcast. He explained the attachment requires that we accept the premise that “our chil...

Dr. Reedy talks about what it means to hold space for another, what gets in the way of doing so and how this impacts the development of a child or the client in therapy. He explains that seeing someone is the key to mental health and resiliency and that the foundation of our ability to do that is in how we have managed to heal our own narcissistic wounding (the wounding of not being seen and accep...

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on parenting and boundaries. He explains how compassion is born by our boundaries. He explains that children and partners will inevitably require us to face aspects of ourselves we have avoided. We will have to fail, come up short and own our limitations as we practice self-care and attempt to meet our loved ones with love and compassion. Hosted on...

Dr. Reedy defines and discusses what makes for emotional safety. He talks about how emotional safety heals us and how repeated exposure to an emotional safe person changes our nervous system permanently. He explains that when the “big people” from our childhood were unable to sit with us and our feelings, we learned to hide and protect ourselves… and these efforts to protect ourselves become our m...