Feminist Wellness

#361: Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I don't have any real trauma, so why do I still struggle with people-pleasing?” Many people hear about emotional outsourcing and immediately disqualify themselves from the conversation because they didn't have what they consider a "bad enough" childhood. In this episode, I want to speak directly to those folks who recognize codependent, perfectionist,...

Tenderoni Hotline #15: Hello, my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline . Today’s episode is tender, powerful, and so deeply human. It is a conversation about breaking free from people pleasing, perfectionism, and codependent habits, and what it truly means to come home to yourself. I’m joined by the radiant Monica Silva, a nurse, artist, parent, and graduate of the Anchored program. In t...

#360: This week, I'm diving into something that came up with a client recently who said, “Listen, I want to stop emotional outsourcing, but there is a part of me that feels really scared. Because I've been doing this my whole life and I'm realizing I don't really know who I am without these habits.” And wow, does that make so much sense. Join me on this episode as I paint you a picture of what's a...

Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and returning home to yourself. In today’s episode, we’re diving into three powerful questions that illuminate just how deeply our nervous systems are wired to protect us, even when those protections...

#359: Have you been taught that your safety, belonging, and love were conditional? That they could only be earned by contorting yourself into someone else's idea of enough? This week, I’m inviting you to step away from the pressure of resolutions and into a different kind of conversation for the new year. One that's about reclaiming the parts of you that have been quietly set aside. The parts of y...

Tenderoni Hotline #13: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, the segment where we explore the soft and spacious path of healing, nervous system care, and returning home to yourself. In today’s episode, I’m offering you a different kind of New Year’s message. Not one about resolutions or becoming a better version of yourself, but one about remembering who you already are. This e...

#358: This week, we're stepping into the winter solstice with a special gift - a collection of powerful moments from past episodes that capture the heart of what Feminist Wellness is all about.  Whether you're celebrating the holidays, marking Yule, or simply taking a breath in this midwinter moment, this episode invites you to pause and come home to yourself through what I call a kitten step...

Tenderoni Hotline #12: Hello, my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline. Today’s episode is a true gift, a clarifying, empowering, and deeply nerdy deep dive into all things perimenopause , hormones, and how to actually get the support you deserve. I’m joined by my dear friend and longtime women’s health advocate, Mariza Snyder , for a conversation that every midlife woman (and every clin...

#357: How much time do you spend managing other people's emotions? You know what I mean – smoothing over conflict at family dinners, tiptoeing around your partner's mood, or endlessly reshuffling your schedule for coworkers. It's exhausting. But what if reclaiming your energy could be as simple as lighting a candle? I know it sounds too easy. Maybe even a little witchy woo. But here's the truth: r...

Tenderoni Hotline #11: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and returning home to yourself. In today’s episode, we’re diving into three listener questions that so many of us face, especially during the holiday season when old patterns an...

#356: Does the thought of holiday gatherings make your chest tighten? Maybe you're the one who always accidentally says the wrong thing. Or maybe you're the one fielding invasive questions about your relationship status, body, or life choices for the 473rd time. Either way, you're not alone. In this episode, I'm addressing something that happens at every family gathering: those seemingly innocent...

Tenderoni Hotline #10: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and coming home to yourself. In today’s episode, we’re doing something a little different and a lot of fun. I’m joined by my dear friend and fellow coach Sara Fisk for a warm, t...

#355: We need to talk about burnout - and not just the kind that comes from working too many hours or answering emails at 10 p.m. This week, I'm addressing that bone-deep exhaustion that's become the background noise of so many of our lives, where your body feels like it's moving through wet cement and everything feels like way too much. I'm talking about the burnout that happens even on maternity...

Tenderoni Hotline #9: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and returning home to yourself. In today’s episode, we’re exploring two questions that are as vulnerable as they are common, and I know so many of you will see yourselves in them...

#354: You know that feeling when your mom rearranges the table you just set, or your uncle makes that comment about your career, and suddenly you're spiraling?  That's the first arrow - the hurt. The second arrow is all the stories your mind creates about how “she always does this” or “nothing I do is right.” But there's a third arrow that I haven't found anyone really talking about, and it's...

Tenderoni Hotline #8: This week on Feminist Wellness, I’m joined by the wise and wonderful Mary Jelkovsky, author, podcast host, and founder of Mary’s Cup of Tea, for a deep and playful conversation on healing emotional outsourcing, letting go of perfectionism, and reclaiming your self-worth. We explore how so many of us were conditioned to earn love by being agreeable, productive, or self-sacrifi...

#353: My love, it’s that time of year again. The holidays are coming, and so are the family dynamics that can send your nervous system into overdrive. If you find that walking into your family home instantly turns you into your teenage self, you’re not alone… and you're not imagining it. Your nervous system is time-traveling. The smell of gravy, the sound of that one family laugh, your dad's after...

Tenderoni Hotline #7: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of The Feminist Wellness Podcast, where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and reclaiming your self-trust. In today’s episode, we’re diving into two deeply relatable questions that so many of us carry quietly. First, what’s really going on when you can...

#352: Ever catch yourself saying "yes" to something while your soul is screaming "absolutely not”? Maybe it's baking three dozen cupcakes for the office party when you're already running on fumes. Or RSVPing to an event that makes your spirit shrivel like a forgotten grape. Here's what might surprise you: these exhausting habits that I’ve coined emotional outsourcing aren’t character flaws . They'...

Tenderoni Hotline #6: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of The Feminist Wellness Podcast, where I answer your most heartfelt questions about healing, nervous system care, and coming home to yourself. In today’s episode, we’re answering two beautiful and important questions from our community. First, we’re talking about what to do with a lifetime...

#351: Do you ever find yourself reminding your partner about their doctor's appointments (again)? Researching options for your adult child because they might get overwhelmed? Managing the family group chat so no one gets upset? You tell yourself you're being helpful, caring, responsible. That this is how you show love. But what if I told you that this kind of behavior is actually inherently disres...

Tenderoni Hotline #5: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of The Feminist Wellness Podcast, where I answer your most heartfelt questions about healing, nervous system care, and coming home to yourself. In today’s episode, we’re talking about something so many of us feel but rarely name out loud: Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). If the darker mon...

#350: Most of us know about vampires - they can't enter your home unless you invite them in. But what's even more fascinating is they don't just ask once. They keep asking, they keep pressing, they keep finding new ways to try to make you say yes. Because they know that most people, if pressed, will eventually cave. The less literal vampires in our everyday lives are the largely loving, well-meani...

Tenderoni Hotline #4: Hello my love! Welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline , our cozy corner of the Feminist Wellness podcast where I answer your most tender, honest, and heartfelt questions about healing, self-trust, and nervous system care. In today’s episode, we’re exploring what happens when you finally find the courage to speak your truth, only to be met with defensiveness, blame, or long exp...

#349: Your partner twists your words, denies what happened, and somehow you walk away from conversations feeling like the villain. If you're dealing with an emotionally immature partner, this pattern might feel painfully familiar. Living with an emotionally immature partner can feel like trying to navigate a wilderness without a compass, where your reasonable needs get labeled as "too sensitive" a...