Be Your Own Life Coach Podcast

Why do we assume everything must be 50/50 to be fair? In this episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , Bretagne and Anike explore the important difference between fairness and equality—and why healthy relationships aren’t built by keeping score. From household responsibilities and emotional labor to parenting, careers, and family dynamics, you’ll learn how your strengths, circumstances, and personal va...

Happy first day of fall! 🍂 In this solo episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , we’re using the fall equinox as a reminder to pause, reflect, and check in with the season of life we’re actually in. We’ll talk about what it really means to find balance, why letting go can be an important part of growth, and how to stop expecting yourself to operate the same way in every season of life. If you’ve been...

Have you ever hesitated while pouring coffee—only to create the exact spill you were trying to avoid? Sometimes life works the same way. In this solo episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , Bretagne explores the difference between thoughtful preparation and fear-based hesitation. Whether you’re considering a promotion, starting a project, having a difficult conversation or making an important life dec...

Have you ever been told, “You’re not listening to me,” even though you heard every word? There’s a big difference between hearing someone and truly listening to understand them. In this episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , we’re breaking down the art of active listening and why becoming a better listener can transform your relationships, communication, and ability to connect with the people around...

What if self-care isn’t always a bubble bath, a massage, or taking a day off? Sometimes the most powerful form of self-care is having the conversation you’ve been avoiding. In this episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , we’re talking about self-advocacy—how to speak up for yourself, set healthy boundaries, ask for what you need, and have difficult conversations even when they feel uncomfortable. We e...

What if your bad mood doesn’t mean something is wrong with your life, your relationship, your job—or with you? Sometimes, the problem isn’t that something is wrong. Something might simply be missing. In this episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , we explore how to stop immediately creating a story around uncomfortable emotions and start getting curious about what those feelings might actually be comm...

A powerful day doesn’t change your life. What you do afterward does. The Lion’s Gate Portal may have inspired you to journal, set intentions, visualize your future, ask for signs, or get clear about what you want. But once the energy shifts and the excitement fades, a much more important question remains: Now what? In this episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , we’re talking about what happens after...

What if the biggest thief in your life isn't a major tragedy... but a thousand tiny paper cuts? A rude comment. A traffic jam. A forgotten text. A sink full of dishes. An eye roll. None of these moments are life-changing on their own, but together they quietly steal your peace, your joy, and your emotional energy. In this episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , we're diving into why our brains...

What if confidence, communication, creativity, better habits, and even a new identity were not fixed traits—but skills you could learn? In this episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , Bretagne and Anike explore the science of how to learn anything faster . They break down neuroplasticity, memory formation, embodied cognition, attention, repetition, and the simple learning strategies that help your bra...

Why do we get so defensive when someone tells us we're wrong? Why does admitting a mistake feel so uncomfortable—even when we know we messed up? In this episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , we dive into the psychology behind accountability and explore why owning your mistakes can feel like a threat to your identity. We discuss cognitive dissonance, the role of the ego, the difference between gu...

Have you been feeling more emotional than usual? You're not imagining it. Between Cancer season, Mercury retrograde, and the Cancer New Moon, many of us have been revisiting old emotions, relationship patterns, and conversations we thought we'd already healed. But what if these difficult moments aren't setbacks? What if they're invitations to grow? In this heartfelt solo episode, I...

In this week's episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , Bretagne and Anike dive into The Second Agreement: Don't Take Anything Personally —not from a textbook, but through real conversations, real emotions, and real coaching. Together, we share vulnerable stories about conversations with our husbands, the thoughts that immediately followed, and how easy it is to spiral when we assume someone el...

Emotional Fitness: Why Smart People Make Emotionally Dumb Decisions (And How to Build Emotional Intelligence) Why do brilliant people make terrible emotional decisions? Some of the smartest people in the world have built billion-dollar companies, revolutionized industries, won championships, and changed history—yet many have also struggled with relationships, communication, self-control, and emoti...

What if your body was never meant to be an ornament? For years we've been taught to view our bodies as something to decorate, compare, criticize, and perfect. We stare into the mirror asking, Do I look good enough? Am I attractive enough? Why doesn't my body look the way it used to? But what if we've been asking the wrong questions? In this powerful episode of Be Your Own Life Coach ,...

Anger isn't the problem. It's the messenger. Have you ever found yourself furious over something that happened years ago? Do certain people still make your blood boil? Have you ever exploded over something small and wondered, "Why am I so angry?" In this episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , Bretagne and Anike explore the hidden emotions beneath anger and why anger is often a signa...

BYOLC S2 E32 Have you ever replayed an embarrassing moment in your mind for days—or even years—while everyone else forgot it happened five minutes later? In this episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , Bretagne explores the psychology of embarrassment, why awkward moments feel so intense, and how to stop letting cringe-worthy memories steal your confidence. From tripping in public and sending texts to...

Are your thoughts helping you build the life you want—or holding you back? BYOLC S2 E31 In this episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , Bretagne and Anike explore the science, psychology, and real-life impact of positive thinking. From overcoming negativity and breaking limiting thought patterns to understanding the brain's natural negativity bias, you'll discover why positivity is far more th...

BYOLC S2 E30 Feeling stuck in your career? Wondering if you should quit your job, change industries, start a business, or simply push through burnout? In this episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , we’re talking about what happens when you reach a career crossroads and every option feels uncertain. Maybe your current job no longer aligns with who you are. Maybe you’re exhausted from the pressure to a...

BYOLC S2 E29 Have you been seeing 11:11 everywhere lately? Repeating numbers, synchronicities, meaningful coincidences, or signs that feel too specific to ignore? In this episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , we dive into the psychology, spirituality, and emotional meaning behind angel numbers, signs from the universe, intuition, manifestation, and synchronicity. We explore why humans naturally sear...

BYOLC S2 E28 In this powerful episode of Be Your Own Life Coach Podcast, we explore the deeper meaning behind purpose, fulfillment, identity, and personal growth. So many people believe their “why” should be tied to a career or a single life mission, but your why is much bigger than your job title. It is the deeper force shaping how you love, lead, heal, grow, set boundaries, build relationships,...

BYOLC S2 E27 Take Up Space: Why You’re Meant to Be Seen | Confidence, Authenticity & Personal Growth What if the life you want is waiting on the other side of you being fully seen? In this powerful episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , we’re breaking down the truth about “taking up space”—and why it’s not selfish, dramatic, or “too much”… it’s necessary. So many of us were taught to shrink. To b...

BYOLC S2 E26 Why is play so important for mental health, creativity, happiness, and learning? In this episode of Be Your Own Life Coach, we explore the psychology of play and why children naturally learn through play while many adults forget its power. Discover how play reduces stress, boosts creativity, strengthens relationships, improves resilience, and helps adults feel alive again. If life has...

BYOLC S2 E25 What if one of the happiest parts of your vacation happens before you ever leave? What if the best part of Christmas is the excitement leading up to it? In this uplifting episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , we explore the science and psychology of anticipation—and why having something to look forward to can increase happiness, motivation, and emotional well-being. Research in positive...

BYOLC S2 E24 Have you ever felt like you’re the one thing standing in your own way? Things start going well… you’re making progress… you’re getting close to something you really want—and then somehow, you pull back. You procrastinate. You overthink. You stop showing up the way you were. In this episode, we’re diving into self-sabotage—what it really is, why it happens, and how it quietly shows up...

BYOLC S2 E23 What if the thoughts in your mind… aren’t actually telling you the truth? In this episode, we explore The Fifth Agreement by Don Miguel Ruiz and Don Jose Ruiz: Be skeptical, but learn to listen. Building on the foundation of The Four Agreements , this conversation shifts from how you behave… to how you perceive reality . Because even when you’re doing everything “right”… You can still...