You’re Probably Right

What if your best was not the problem? In this episode of You’re Probably Right, MCM talks about rejection, effort, self-blame, and the painful realization that more love, more loyalty, more patience, or more hard work does not always change another person’s decision. This is not only about romantic rejection. It is about the person who pulls away before they explain why. The friend who stops call...

Why do some people stop being themselves the moment they finally get something—or someone—they’re afraid to lose? In this episode of You’re Probably Right, MCM explores what happens when fear quietly takes over and your life starts revolving around keeping, managing, protecting, or not losing a person, relationship, dream, or outcome. This is a reflective episode about attachment, self-abandonment...

How do you know if someone is actually safe to love? Not just attractive. Not just exciting. Not just interested. Safe. One of the biggest mistakes people make in dating is believing that because someone likes them, they must also be capable of loving them well. Those are not the same thing. In this episode of You’re Probably Right, MCM explores why so many people stop evaluating a person the mome...

Why do some people keep choosing dismissive avoidant partners, even after recognizing the same painful pattern? In this deeply personal episode of You’re Probably Right, MCM examines why emotionally unavailable partners can feel so irresistible in the beginning. The constant communication, rapid self disclosure, intense attraction, thoughtful gestures, and feeling of being specially chosen can cre...

In Episode 358 of You're Probably Right, we continue one of the biggest conversations this podcast has ever started. Women have become comfortable telling men exactly what they want:A provider. A protector. A leader. A man with ambition. A man who earns well. A man who can build a future. But here's the question very few people ask:Are those expectations built for the average man... or for a versi...

How many people get a vote in your relationship? In Episode 359, MCM examines how friends, family, exes, coworkers, group chats and social media can influence private relationship decisions, damage trust and make reconciliation more difficult. This episode explores relationship interference, unwanted advice, couple communication, emotional boundaries, privacy versus secrecy, family influence and t...

In this episode of You’re Probably Right, MCM breaks down 20 ways people get trapped in one sided relationships, situationships, and unhealthy emotional attachments. This is for the person who keeps giving, explaining, paying, forgiving, waiting, and trying to prove their worth to someone who keeps pulling away. It is about anxious attachment, emotional labour, fear, overgiving, financial strain,...

Most people say they want love, but very few people have actually decided what they are looking for in a life partner. In this episode, Michael C. Murray breaks down one of the most important questions in modern dating: how do you know whether someone is actually worth building a life with? This conversation is not about finding a perfect person. It is about learning how to think clearly before yo...

Sometimes the hardest truth is not that you were confused. It is that you knew something was wrong earlier than you wanted to admit. In this episode of You’re Probably Right, MCM breaks down why people stay in relationships, jobs, friendships, family roles, and life situations long after the pattern has already shown them the truth. This is not about blaming people for being hurt. It is about unde...

Episode 354: Relationship Economics, How Good People Go Emotionally BankruptWhat if relationships had an economy? What if every conversation, every sacrifice, every act of patience, every thoughtful gift, every moment of intimacy, and every second chance was a deposit into an emotional bank account? And what if the person you're investing in isn't using the same currency? In this episode, MCM intr...

What happens when someone leaves the relationship, changes the relationship, or quietly downgrades the relationship, but still expects access to you afterward? Not commitment. Not accountability. Not reconciliation. Just access. In this episode of You're Probably Right, MCM takes an honest look at one of the most confusing and frustrating dynamics many people experience after a breakup, rejection,...

Being a nice guy is not the problem. Sacrifice is not the problem. The problem is giving covenant-level commitment to someone who does not share covenant-level convictions. In this episode, MCM breaks down why many men feel used, unappreciated, and exhausted in relationships. Not because they loved too much, but because they failed to properly vet who they were loving. This episode is about the di...

Episode 351: Why Are We All So Replaceable Now? Ghosting. Situationships. Breadcrumbing. Monkey barring. Orbiting. Ghostlighting. Modern dating seems to invent a new word every week, but what if all of these behaviours are really pointing to the same problem? In this episode, MCM explores a theory that might explain why commitment feels harder than ever before. What if modern dating has become sam...

What do you do when someone who hurt you tries to come back around? This episode is not about marriage. Marriage is a different covenant, a different commitment, and a different agreement before God. This conversation is about dating, talking, situationships, and relationships that never reached that level. In Episode 350, MCM breaks down the question many people search when an old person returns:...

In Episode 349 of You’re Probably Right, I answer a question a lot of people ask but rarely answer honestly:What does the average man really want from a woman? Not the rich man. Not the celebrity. Not the womanizer. Not the man with endless options. The average working man. The regular man with bills, pressure, responsibility, fatigue, and limited room for error. This episode breaks down The Big F...

I once knew a guy who mistook a rare feeling for proof, and it almost cost him his self-respect. This episode is for the people who give deeply once they believe something matters. The people who remember details. The people who attach meaning to moments. The people who are not stupid, not weak, not desperate, but maybe too willing to believe that intensity must be pointing toward character. Becau...

In this episode of You’re Probably Right Podcast, I reflect on what happens when you look back at an old version of yourself and realize you were not as worthless, hopeless, unattractive, or broken as you felt at the time. This is a personal rumination about weight loss, old Smule recordings, self image, deep sadness, being treated like your value depended on someone else’s approval, and the painf...

In Episode 346 of You’re Probably Right, I talk about the difference between missing a person and missing a moment. Sometimes you are not really trying to get them back. You are trying to get back to the one stretch of time where life felt rare, electric, and almost impossible. The look. The chemistry. The feeling. The peak. And once you have touched something like that, it can take a long time to...

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Episode 344 of You’re Probably Right Podcast is a spoken-word cultural reflection on what happens when Black men are desired, chosen, and pursued not as full human beings, but as myths. This episode goes into colour, culture, country of origin, body, voice, masculinity, sexuality, fantasy, performance, and the hidden cost of being wanted in ways that still do not see the man clearly. Because some...

Episode 343 of You’re Probably Right Podcast is not a soft conversation. It is not padded. It is not dressed up. I got right into it. This is a spoken-word style episode about why respect matters more than people think, why love without respect becomes dangerous, and why so many people stay in situations where they are wanted, used, desired, touched, remembered, and even cared about in fragments,...

Episode 342 of You’re Probably Right Podcast asks why some emotional moments do not just fade. They replay. Not as ideas, but as scenes. A look. A sentence. A silence. A soft moment that felt real. A cold moment that wiped it away. In this episode, Mike breaks down why some minds keep reopening emotional stories that never got a clean ending, why replay can become hope in disguise, and why unfinis...

Episode 341 of You’re Probably Right Podcast closes out the A Match Made in Hell series by asking the deeper question most people never get to: not just what happened, not just what label fits, but what fruit did the bond actually produce. This episode moves past the usual modern language of trauma, attachment, avoidance, narcissism, and emotional unavailability, and asks what those patterns revea...

Episode 340 of You’re Probably Right Podcast continues the A Match Made in Hell series with a deep look at the vague, self-protective, selectively intimate person. This is the kind of person who can do warmth, chemistry, closeness, eye contact, private vulnerability, and emotional access in the moment, but struggles with clarity, consistency, accountability, repair, and clean endings. That is what...

A Match Made in Hell, Part 4: Why You Still Want Them After Their Behaviour Already Answered YouWhy do you still want one more moment with someone who already showed you where you stand? In this episode of You’re Probably Right Podcast, we break down the painful psychology behind unclear relationships, mixed signals, emotional ambiguity, situationships, shame, overgiving, and why the person who wa...