The Work Behind the Vows

Have you ever tried to step in and help your overwhelmed spouse, only to realize you accidentally made things worse? Or maybe you've asked, "What can I do to help?" and watched them get even more stressed out? In the final episode of their series on the "invisible load" of marriage, Julanda and Words tackle the ultimate question: How do we actually carry the weight together? Th...

Have you ever found yourself carrying a massive responsibility in your marriage and wondered... Wait, who decided this was my job?! In this episode of The Work Behind the Vows, Julanda and Words continue their series on the "invisible load" of marriage, tackling the spicy topic of gender roles, household responsibilities, and how they actually divide tasks in their own relationship. From J...

Have you ever looked at your spouse relaxing and thought, "Must be nice," while you are mentally calculating the grocery list, the kids' school schedule, and the upcoming bills? In this episode of The Work Behind the Vows, Words and Julanda dive deep into the "invisible load" carried in a marriage. We all easily recognize visible work cooking, cleaning, or paying the mortgage b...

Welcome back to The Work Behind the Vows! In today's highly requested episode, Where's Taylor and Julanda get incredibly real about their own journey of rebuilding connection after betrayal. From navigating the pain of infidelity early in their relationship to the daily choices required to maintain a healthy covenant, they break down exactly what it takes to heal. We dive deep into the dif...

Are you stuck in the "roommate phase"? If your conversations consist entirely of kids, schedules, and daily tasks, it is time to dig deeper! In the final episode of our Communication series on The Work Behind the Vows, Horace and Yolanda Taylor break down how to move past the monotony and get back to those butterfly feelings you had when you were dating. We are talking all about emotional...

Conflict is inevitable, but how you fight says everything about the health of your marriage. In this episode of The Work Behind the Vows, Horace and Yolanda Taylor are breaking down what happens when tensions rise and how to navigate disagreements without destroying your connection. If you are tired of the same old arguments (yes, we’re still talking about the socks!), it’s time to figure out your...

Stop arguing and start connecting! In this episode of The Work Behind the Vows, Horace and Julanda Taylor dive deep into what healthy communication actually looks like in a marriage. If you’re tired of feeling unheard or constantly triggering defensiveness in your spouse, this episode is for you. We are breaking down the words that build trust, the importance of addressing issues "when there i...

Studies show that if you improve something by just 1%, you can achieve massive results. Your marriage is no different! You don’t need a huge, sweeping overhaul to fix your relationship—sometimes, it’s a hundred million tiny little things that create a lasting impact. Welcome back to The Work Behind the Vows with Words and Julanda Taylor! In this episode, the finale of our "Marriage Under the M...

Most marriages don't blow up overnight over one huge issue. They usually fade out slowly because of tiny, everyday habits that go unchecked until it's too late. Welcome back to Episode 23 of the Work Behind the Vows podcast! We officially beat the odds and passed the average podcast lifespan, and we are incredibly grateful you are rocking with us on this journey. 🙏🏾 For Part 3 of our &#3...

Does it feel like you and your spouse are just roommates? After 17 years of marriage and working with hundreds of couples, we discovered a hard truth: it’s not the massive arguments that lead to an over 50% divorce rate. It’s the "little paper cuts" , the small, everyday interactions that cause couples to slowly drift apart. Today on The Work Behind The Vows, Words and Julanda Taylor are p...

Have you ever started an argument over something as simple as a dirty sock on the floor, and 30 minutes later you're fighting about something that happened three years ago? We are taught that communication is the ultimate key to a happy marriage, but what if you're communicating about the wrong things? In this episode of The Work Behind The Vows, Julanda and Words put their own marriage un...

We often think marriage will fix our loneliness, heal our trauma, or resolve our insecurities. The reality? Marriage doesn't cure the battle with self; it amplifies it. In this episode of The Work Behind The Vows, Julanda and Words share letters to their younger selves, exposing the biggest myths about tying the knot. We discuss why you can't abandon your personal healing just because you...

Have you ever wondered if you married the right person? Not because you want out, but just because marriage got harder than you expected! Welcome back to another episode of The Work Behind the Vows ! Today, Words and Julanda are breaking down 5 clear signs you married the right person. We’re talking about what it looks like when life gets messy, how a good spouse responds in turbulence, and why tr...

Have you ever looked at a couple and thought, "If anybody is going to make it, it’s them" only to find out they are getting a divorce? Welcome back to another episode of The Work Behind the Vows with Words and Julanda Taylor! Today, we are having a heavy but necessary conversation about the celebrity couples we thought would make it, and the splits that shocked us to our core. We’re talkin...

We've all seen the picture-perfect celebrity couples online and thought, "I want what they have." But do we really know what it takes to build a marriage that lasts? In this episode of The Work Behind the Vows , Words and Julanda Taylor settle into their new studio for a fun, honest conversation about what "couple goals" should actually mean. Together, they unpack the differenc...

Marriage isn't strengthened by occasional grand gestures. It's strengthened by consistent daily choices. In this episode we discuss the practical rhythms, rituals, and routines that help couples stay connected through every season of marriage. From daily check-ins and weekly marriage meetings to prayer, conflict resolution, and intentional family time, they share real examples from their o...

A lot of couples pray for a better marriage but won't do the work to become better people. In this episode of The Work Behind The Vows , Words & Julanda explore the spiritual work required to build a healthy, God-centered marriage. From conviction and repentance to prayer and obedience, they discuss what happens when God begins addressing your heart instead of your spouse's behavior. T...

Most marriage problems don't start with communication. They start with emotions that haven't been processed. In this episode of The Work Behind The Vows, Words and Julanda Taylor discuss the role emotional regulation plays in healthy relationships and why learning to manage your emotions may be one of the most important forms of relationship work you'll ever do. Together they unpack: T...

Everyone wants a strong marriage. Few people are willing to do the work required to build one. In this episode Words and Julanda dive into one of the biggest misconceptions in marriage: the belief that healthy relationships are built on a perfect 50/50 split. The reality? Marriage isn't about keeping score. It's about two whole people continually showing up, growing, communicating, healing...

Episode 11 of The Work Behind The Vows is one of the deepest conversations yet. Not every marriage problem starts with cheating, betrayal, or some huge explosive moment. Oftentimes, the real damage starts with the conversations couples never have. In this episode, Words and Julanda unpack what happens when spouses stop being emotionally honest in their marriage. They talk about the pressure to “ke...

What if the biggest struggles in your marriage didn’t actually start in your marriage? In Episode 10 of The Work Behind The Vows , Words and Julanda unpack the lessons marriage taught them that nobody prepared them for — lessons about healing, communication, accountability, grace, vulnerability, and purpose. This conversation goes far beyond surface-level relationship advice. They explore how chil...

Most couples struggle because they’re working from the wrong blueprint. That’s where this conversation begins. In this episode, Words and Julanda introduce a new series focused on one central question: Why do couples say they want healing… but avoid the work required to get it? And the answer isn’t surface-level. It’s rooted in the beliefs people bring into marriage, especially the beliefs that so...

Disconnection doesn’t always look like conflict. Sometimes it looks like silence. Like proximity without presence. Like two people sitting right next to each other…both mentally somewhere else. That’s where this conversation lives. In this episode, Words and Julanda wrap up the series by focusing on what it actually takes to move from constant digital engagement to real, intentional connection. Th...

Every couple talks about trust and why it’s a non-negotiable. But not every couple talks about what actually protects that trust. That’s exactly where this conversation picks up. In this episode, Words and Julanda dig into one word that can either strengthen a marriage or slowly break it down: Boundaries. This episode kicks off with real-life moments that most couples recognize but don’t always ad...

Being married online comes with a question nobody really prepares you for: What do you share… and what do you keep for yourselves? In this episode, Words and Julanda give real life instead of a perfect formula. They start with the everyday tension most couples feel, but don’t always talk about: One person wants to post the moment. The other is wondering why it’s even being recorded. From unapprove...