Me and We

Bonnie and Mallika explore how we can use key moments to shift from generalizations to specific experiences, "in the moment" experience. And how do we let our "Goldilocks" part have space to feel "I don't like it like this! It's not exactly how I want it."  Mallika shares her real life context of having a new puppy and the challenges it's bringing up wi...

 In this episode, Bonnie and Mallika launch in with 5 specific dependency needs, how they feel in our being, and why they are important in our relationships! Some of us didn't have certain needs met when we were young. All of us, in some way, experience in us (or in other) "the dependent self." Sometimes we get into a place where "trauma meets trauma", and more than knowin...

We are NOT here to say that it's a skill to act out our revenge and retaliatory impulse. BUT it is a skill to allow the impulse and feeling without acting it out. This impulse is healthy! Bonnie and Mallika discuss how to gain wisdom from this impulse, that many have shut off access to. And how this impulse is related to our dependency on each other to know that we matter.  Bonnie's book...

When we start feeling like our context (work, partnership, etc) is not good enough and there must be something better, we often get pulled into thinking about action: do I say, or do I go? There is suffering here, in the ambivalence of action. How do we shift out of suffering . . . given that this IS my context . . . what is this a good enough context for ? What goal can we meet here in this conte...

How are we stronger in the broken places?  How can we embrace our trauma, and claim the strengths and resources we have developed because of our traumas?  Our creative system has developed the perfect responses to our context and to our traumas. What beauty and strength can we see in ourselves and our patterns?  Bonnie's book is available in paperback! "Me And We: Finding Your Voice and...

It's helpful to look at 3 channels which our energy might be in:  Willing Wanting  Committing  We often find ourselves in a dynamic with our partners of "more interest" and "less interest." This is a HARD place to be, and helpful to have ways to work with this dynamic.  Whoever has less interest, has more power.  In this Building Block, Bonnie and Mallika define and explor...

BONUS EPISODE - Here in the United States, we are in the middle of a particular heightened context right now, October 2024. Can you stay with your experience in this episode? Can you get some clarity on the frames and skills?  In this episode, Bonnie and Mallika use this current context to walk through Building Blocks 1-5.  BB 1 - Seeing Systems BB 2 - Accepting Perfection BB 3 - Accessing Emotion...

How can we use our aggression that arises in conflict to "box" others and ourselves into a place of choice, a dilemma?  How can we work with our differences in energy/desire?  We are not suggesting you go out and try this one right away. Take some time to practice it with yourself! Where can you find (within yourself) a dilemma, a place of choice between what you've chosen to DO and...

Send in your own questions for us to work with on a future Listener Questions episode. MeandWePodcast@gmail.com A candid and conversational episode where Bonnie and Mallika respond to 4 listener questions.  Topics covered:  - The difference between fear and anxiety  - Resonating with other's in their loss of someone important  - Internalizing resources from others  - Getting out of political...

In a world where personal growth often feels like a solitary endeavor, the new podcast, "Me & We," is here to revolutionize how we view self-improvement and relationships. Hosted by the insightful duo Bonnie Macbride and Mallika Bush, this fresh and compelling show invites you to explore how developing your "me" can profoundly influence your "we." "Me & W...

How do we zoom out to see the whole systems we are part of, the "we?"  How does seeing the system help us have more fun and satisfaction?  What about when it's not feeling fun and satisfying?  Join Bonnie Macbride and Mallika Bush in this episode to learn about "Seeing Systems," staying on the horse, looking at context and more!  Bonnie's book is available in paperbac...

In today's teaching, Bonnie and Mallika discuss the frame/tool "Fork In The Road."  This tool helps us catch the moment where we "fall off the horse" and start suffering more. This is a pivotal moment, and one that can be of great help to be more aware of! When we catch ourselves at the fork-in-the-road, we have an opportunity to check with ourselves, and ask, "Am I h...

In this shorter episode, Bonnie and Mallika explain and explore the use of recognizing the reality of the contexts we are in.  Bonnie's book is available in paperback! "Me And We: Finding Your Voice and Influencing Relational Interactions" Find out more about our work: Bonnie's Website: bonniemacbride.com Mallika's Website: rootedrelationships.com Thank you to Jessica Cars...

Intro - what is this show all about? Is this show meant for you? You're listening to the preview feed.  This episode is part of the "Me & We Audio Course" which is launching soon!  You can listen here to parts of each episode to see if you want to enroll in the course.  Bonnie's book is available in paperback! "Me And We: Finding Your Voice and Influencing Relational I...