Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

I am so excited to chat with today's guest about her 3 A's to Conscious CoParenting. How you VIEW your child and their behavior, your ability to self regulate amidst the storm and the skill of presence and responsiveness as you address your child's behavior is a brilliantly powerful way to parent…yet by no means easy. Today's Guest, Mikki Gardner walks us through the 3 A's, the importance of each...

Tammy shares her personal and professional experiences related to divorce in this episode. She grew up as a child of divorce with an absentee father, living in poverty and experiencing physical and emotional neglect as a result. Having no contact or support from her father, Tammy's mother worked 3 jobs to make ends meet, making her unavailable physically, mentally and emotionally while struggling...

Learn how you can parent through divorce in a way that protects your children from the animosity between you and your spouse and honors their rights. Dr. Mark Banschick, a child psychiatrist shares the negative impact and long term affects children experience when parents do not protect them from the hostility. Dr. Banschick discusses why we tend to act out and react in front of our children witho...

If you found divorce and coparenting with your ex challenging, today's guests share the added complexities in merging two families where the children can fall into mine, yours and ultimately ours. After 2 decades of coaching Step Parents, today's guests share the secret (and vital necessity) to becoming effective parenting partners. They talk about the "culture clash" of parenting as we all have s...

Your finances are certain to change during and after divorce and therefore raise fear in just about everyone facing this transition. Today we speak with Elizabeth Polizzi, a financial expert who specializes in strategizing around the finances of divorce. She discusses how vital it is to be informed and educated in order to negotiate the best possible settlement. In this straightforward talk, Eliza...

Effective co-parenting requires keeping the children front and center – they are all that matters now. This requires letting go of conflict, competition, resentments about the marriage, and hostility toward the other parent. While divorce itself is not harmful to children, ongoing conflict between their parents is. Your marriage has ended, but your roles and responsibilities as parents have not. C...

After your divorce is finalized, it is so important when stepping off the divorce battlefield, to put down your weapons, take off your coat of armor and begin the process of navigating your post divorce life. When co parenting is a part of that life, it is so easy to slip back into old patterns of arguing, blame and accusation. It can feel like nothing has changed except you are now under two roof...

Trish reached out for coaching post divorce. She had already done so much work even prior to finding out about her spouse's infidelity that became the beginning of the end of a 17 year marriage. With three children ages 11-18, Trish faced a harsh wake up call. She had been running on auto pilot, doing almost all the work of the household and raising the kids and her spouse was always 'out working'...

Once you decide to divorce, the question of who to tell, when and how much can be overwhelming. In the early stages of divorce we experience a powerful emotional sting. Coming to terms with the fact that divorce IS part of your reality often happens when you begin to tell others about it. When telling your spouse, children, family, friends and others about your divorce fear and resistance arises....

We often talk about a child centered divorce and while one or both parents may make every effort to do so, there is trauma for our children in the transition of divorce. Today we are going to look at our kids' 'bad behavior', what parents so often do under stress when frustrated with your kids and a N.I.C.E. framework that today's guest teaches that enables you to support you child's needs while s...

Today Karen and KP examine the emotion of Anger. We explore it's value, why so many of us are afraid of it and how it can both inform and guide us in ways that can bring value. Understanding the root of our relationship with anger informs our conflict oriented, conflict resistant or conflict neutral approach to disagreements. The book, "Dance Of Anger" by Dr. Harriet Lerner describes anger as "a s...

Living with your soon-to-be-ex under the same roof while navigating divorce is incredibly challenging. Holding onto your peace may seem impossible. The most effective way of approaching this challenge is creating healthy boundaries and refining your communication and problem solving skills. Dr. Dan Thomason explains how easy it is to get caught in arguments about how you are communicating and to l...

This episode kicks off our All Things Parenting series discussing The Secret to Effective Single Parenting During and Post Divorce. Today's expert navigated a 12 year custody battle and wrote a powerful book for single mom's entitled, When Momma's Happy, Everyone's Happy. We're about to explore emotional triggers, personal power and the inner work necessary to stay centered and present while consc...

Mediation is a non-adversarial approach to divorcing outside of the court system. It is often considered a less expensive approach and is most definitely a less adversarial approach to divorce. Yet it isn't for everyone. If you have a high conflict marriage with a lack of ability to communicate, compromise, be transparent and keep the kids central in your decisions, mediation might not be the righ...

We wrap up our Divorce and The Family Held Business Series with a critically important piece that is often overlooked or attended to only at the end of the divorce. In the chaos of negotiations and the emotional turmoil that accompanies divorce, there are critical conversations and decisions that need to be made around the business of your estate. Everything from changing beneficiaries and ensurin...

A common place people feel stuck in indecision is whether to continue trying to mend their marriage or to end it. In this podcast, Karen and Carrie talk about the limiting thoughts and behaviors that keep you stuck in indecision, what it costs you to stay there indefinitely, and some ways to start moving forward. The first thing is to give yourself permission to know what you know. How do you do t...

Collaborative divorce is the newest 'kid on the block' when it comes to divorce. It is a process in which you and your spouse commit to staying out of the court system and working in a spirit of creative problem solving, transparency and trust. Beth Dalena, Esq. shares what a Collaborative Divorce looks like and who is a good couple candidate and who is not. We also explore the emotional, legal an...

One of the complexities involved in Divorce with a Family Business is the real estate holdings beyond the family residence. While many affluent families, in addition to their primary residence have vacation homes, when dealing with a family business, commercial real estate is often involved adding complexities to the overall financial picture. In either case, a residential or commercial appraiser...

Jodi recently emerged from a 2 year high conflict divorce. She and her family were integrally involved in a local community of faith and she shares how her practice of devotionals and prayer were a regular part of her life. Jodi shares how her faith at first kept her stuck in an unhealthy marriage as she believed that no matter how bad, God would fix things and divorce was not an option. Over time...

Most people considering divorce assume that they have to 'litigate' in order to legally divorce. Today's episode explains what the court approach is and what it is not. Just because you divorce through the court system doesn't mean you will ever go to trial and litigate your divorce. There is also a lot of criticism around divorce court and attorneys that operate withint the court approach, "litig...

Today we are focusing more on the family finances, the red flags of fraud, and potential inappropriate spending common ways people try to hide money and how you, as the spouse of the business owner can begin to figure this and when you want to consider hiring a forensic accountant. Tracy Coenen has been investigating fraud for more than 25 years, but she didn't always want to be a forensic account...

One of the most important decisions you make in the early stages of divorce is the legal approach that will be most effective for your circumstances. You may find that each attorney you interview states that their approach is the right one for you. It can be overwhelming and scary to sort out what the different legal avenues are and how to discern what is best for you and your spouse. Today we tal...

When it comes to dollars and sense there is much for the affluent wife to understand. However, it is your mindset that drives your success, not your understanding of the financial complexities which is why I asked Olivia Summerhill to speak to you! Olivia has a very specialized niche… She helps affluent women preserve and enhance their lifestyle after divorce, helping them gain control of their mo...

The Divorce Landscape provides a 'bird's eye view' of your journey ahead as you enter the world of divorce. We guide you through what areas to educate yourself about in advance of making significant decisions, the importance of prioritizing your efforts, and how to maintain your sanity by focusing on those things you have the ability to influence. This episode and those that follow it are designed...

One of the most important steps in navigating a divorce that involves a family business is analyzing the value of the business - this requires a Business Valuation expert. Once their job is complete, if there is any concern around 'hidden money', a Forensic Evaluator would be hired to do a deeper dive into the company's books to unearth where the money has been going and determine if any nefarious...