Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

When children are involved in high conflict divorces, often additional experts are brought in regardless of your legal approach.  Today we speak with a heart centered attorney who represents children in high conflict divorces.  You will learn when an attorney for the child or guardian ad litem is needed.  We discuss how that decision is made and by whom, how the attorney is chosen and paid for and...

Geri was the primary parent for the entirety of her children's lives. During the four years of their court battle, dad never took the boys for an overnight...not even once. Yet she lost custody in an expensive, drawn out court battle. Listen as one woman tells her journey of heartbreak and healing, her court ruling on custody and the grief, personal growth and gifts that followed. FOR MORE INFORMA...

I used to believe that high conflict divorce and mediation were mutually exclusive, that only amicable couples can mediate their divorce. I was wrong! Listen as Susan Guthrie, Esq. shares how mediation can and does work in high conflict situations. We talk about what you need to know, how to choose the right mediator, other professionals to add to your support team, and how mediation can be signif...

Stephanie faced infidelity and broken trust during her marriage. As she began coaching, she realized her patterns and part in the disillusion of her marriage. Her work led her to healthier communication and behaviors in all her relationships. Listen as she shares her fears, struggles and the unexpected treasures found through coaching and leaning into her faith in God. FOR MORE INFORMATION ON JBD...

The decision to stay in your marriage or leave involves a host of complex thoughts and emotions that often leave you stuck and confused. Living in a high conflict marriage makes the decision even harder. While it may be obvious to your friends and family, that you should leave, it is significantly more complicated for you. Your spouse's voice is loud in your head, their accusations and belittling...

Clint reached out for divorce coaching support early on. He could tell he was drowning in an emotional storm and needed help. At first, the conversations were about conflict with his STBX and what was upsetting about her behavior/ Over the course of a few months, Clint began to notice and take responsibility for his part in the difficulties in the relationship. Clint's kids were and are his first...

While navigating divorce, fear of the unknown often drives us to replace our uncertainty with a catastrophic worst case scenario about our future. However, our greatest fears rarely come true. Today's session is designed to provide you with hope and encouragement as you hear one woman's journey from fear and overwhelm to a post divorce life that is very different from what she feared. Tune in as s...

The psychological impact of living with a HCP crushes your self esteem often leaving you, the spouse insecure, reactive and bitter. Dr. Gayle Reed shares how forgiveness is a healing balm for the spouse of the HCP. She explains the traumatic impact of verbal and emotional abuse and the psychological defenses you use to manage the resulting anger, pain and confusion. While forgiveness seems to be f...

Today's episode is dedicated to your healing journey. Those of us who marry HCPs have our part in the dysfunction as we discussed in episode 2 - Divorcing A Narcissist: The Personality Disorders and Dysfunctional Dance of High Conflict Marriages. We are excited to have Ross Rosenberg with us again today to share deeply effective strategies for healing from codependency, a self love deficiency diso...

As we began discussing in our last episode, communicating with a high conflict personality (HCP) is often frustrating and fruitless, and leaves us feeling angry, exhausted and unheard. Today's episode offers a unique and powerful approach to communicating with a narcissist that enables you to protect your interests without conflict or drama! This strategy neutralizes combative and emotionally char...

Today's powerful episode gives you the strategies and tools needed to communicate more effectively with your spouse's high conflict personality. You have been struggling with criticism, deflection, blaming and black and white thinking. You have doubted your own version of reality, lost your self esteem and tried time and again to reason with your spouse to no end. What you didn't know was that com...

You kids have been experiencing conflict throughout the marriage, even if you think you have 'hidden' it from them. Now that a decision has been made to divorce, tensions will only rise. It is all the more important to focus on protecting your children now while navigating a high conflict divorce. Deciding when, how and what to tell the kids about the divorce is just the beginning. Figuring out ho...

Entering the legal process of any divorce feels frightening and overwhelming. For those entering high conflict divorce, the fear and confusion is escalated due to years of living in a dysfunctional marriage and the complexities involved when divorcing a high conflict personality. There is often a greater need to be in the court system due to the power imbalance in the relationship, the lack of tra...

Living with a narcissist is 'crazy making'. Understanding your role in the ongoing insanity is vital in order to create lasting change. In order to navigate your divorce effectively and strategically and emerge confident and renewed, it is essential that you keep your focus on that which you have power over...your thoughts, feelings and behavior. Today's episode invites you into a 'coaching experi...

If you have lost yourself amidst your marriage with a narcissist, today's show will reveal and explain much about the insanity you have been living with. It is vital to understand the traits of the pathological narcissist and your role as a codependent in order to emotionally heal and change behaviors that have kept you stuck in your unhealthy marriage. Our guest, psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg, c...

High conflict personalities drive high conflict divorces. If you have been married to and are divorcing this type of personality, today's show helps you to understand the traits common to this personality type. You will begin to understand your spouse's inability to manage his/her emotions, their black and white thinking, extreme behaviors and tendency to blame are common to his/her personality an...

The wide array of logistical details and emotional tensions surrounding co parenting post divorce can be a minefield for unnecessary conflict. It's hard enough to parent while living under the same roof due to all the details of our children's busy lives. When parenting under separate roofs, managing all the details of your shared parenting schedule, tracking extracurricular activities along with...

In the early stages of divorce we experience a powerful emotional sting. Coming to terms with the fact that divorce IS part of your reality often happens when you begin to tell others about it. Today we discuss telling your spouse, children, family, friends and others. We look at the fears and resistance that arises and the questions that you want to ask yourself prior to telling. Being clear on w...

Today's show acknowledges the tender emotions you experience while negotiating custody. We encourage you to notice the nightmare stories that create fear and tension, derailing your negotiations. Our guest, Josh Hecht, shares strategies to cut through the acrimony, negotiate for both the current and the long term needs of your children, and insure that you consider the nitty gritty details to guar...

As you enter divorce negotiations it is imperative that you have a good handle on your financial picture and the value each asset represents. The fear and uncertainty of what your financial reality will be post-divorce plagues everyone. Getting educated and enlisting professionals to support you in negotiating a win-win settlement is vital. Today's guest Jaime Goodman a CDFA (Certified Divorce Fin...

In today's show we discuss how to choose the best legal approach with your children's mental and emotional health front and center. Children can experience significant emotional damage as a result of divorce, but they don't have to. While it is understandable that you want to fight for your fair share of time with the kids, we want you to understand the risks that accompany a legal fight wherein c...

Most people considering divorce expect that they will have to 'litigate' in order to legally divorce. There is also a lot of criticism around the litigation process. Listen in as Wendy Samuelson, Esq. shares the benefits and protections of working within the courts to divorce. Wendy shares what litigating means, how the process typically unfolds and when and how it can offer protection and support...

Today's show focuses on your children and how you can parent through divorce in a way that protects them from the animosity between you and your spouse and honors their rights. We talk with Dr. Mark Banschick, a child psychiatrist who share the negative impact and long term affects children experience when parents do not protect them from the hostility. Dr. Banschick discusses why we tend to act o...

Understanding the Divorce Landscape takes a big picture look at what you are facing as you enter the world of divorce. We share tips that support you to effectively take control of your part of the divorce process, the one part of the process that you have direct control over. You will hear what to educate yourself about in advance of making significant decisions, the importance of prioritizing yo...

One of the most important decisions you make in the early stages of divorce is the legal approach that will be most effective for your circumstances. You may find that each attorney you interview states that their approach is the right one for you. It can be overwhelming and scary to sort out what the different legal avenues are and how to discern what is best for you and your spouse. Today we tal...