Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Comedian Ketra Long joins Nicole to tell the story about how she got caught cheating twice in her relationship. She also shares the time she convinced Ne-Yo to come see her stand-up show, which she proceeded to absolutely bomb . Ketra teaches Nicole how she manages to get flown out of the country for expensive dates, plus talks about her first kiss and first fingering.  This is a wild episode, fol...

Co-star Aaron Jennings ( Grand Crew ) and Nicole discuss grade school romances, talking finances with your partner, the benefits of dating an older man, and that iconic Oscar #slap.  Aaron shares a wild date story involving a stalking ex-boyfriend, a gang member, and a gun. Plus, Nicole's crazy neighbor pays her a visit at 3:00AM. For more Aaron Jennings, stream Grand Crew on Peacock, and the upco...

Co-star Grasie Mercedes ( Grand Crew, Access Hollywood ) reflects on her 14-year relationship and the breakthrough she had in therapy which led to her divorce. They also discuss getting back into the dating scene at a later age, why white men love drinking milk, and what it means to Afro-Latina. Plus, Nicole shares her rave review for a Broadway show which featured many exposed dicks.   Black Live...

Stripper and exotic entertainer Vanity Jay chats with Nicole about all things stripping and sex work. She shares the complicated nature of dating both customers and strippers from clubs, the time she accidentally burned herself lighting her pussy on fire, and the challenges of dating a jealous partner. Plus, they help give advice to a listener seeking sex position recommendations for their partner...

Comedian and writer Sudi Green ( SNL, I Love That For You ) joins Nicole to discuss their awkward encounters with celebrities, having baby fever,  and farting in bed with your lover. Sudi shares a horrible hookup story where her partner was into "intense sex", but failed to preform. Nicole realizes she's horny for magic. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different thin...

Drag queen and reigning Miss Congeniality Kornbread "The Snack" Jeté ( RuPaul's Drag Race S14 ) joins Nicole for a live episode, where they discuss her favorite kind of dick, the bad jobs she had before drag, and the men in prison who are contacting Nicole. Then, they answer audience questions about their favorite sex toys, the weirdest compliment they've gotten on a date, and blowjob tips. For mo...

Drag queen icon Raja Gemini (winner of Drag Race S3) joins Nicole to discuss the stress of competing in the first all-winners season of RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars , why she keep her relationship off social media,  and shares all of her firsts - first kiss, handjob, and relationship. Plus, the story of why they got fired from MAC cosmetics, and how meeting RuPaul lead them to a job working on Ame...

Comedian Taylor Tomlinson chats with Nicole about using Instagram to document her panic attacks, coping with anxiety, and the time she was accused for being a catfish. Meanwhile, Nicole slept with a man who thought Black people were aliens. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr....

The hilarious Judy Gold joins Nicole to chat about the challenges of dating a therapist, her experience being selected as one of Time Out New York's Most Eligible Singles , the ethics of writing jokes about your partner, and the benefits of being married but living apart.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follo...

Comedian and friend Drew Lynch ( America's Got Talent S10 ) chats with Nicole about a harrowing bee incident they had together on tour, managing high levels of anxiety, and why female comics have such a hard time attracting men. Plus, Nicole's horny for emo Batman, and explains why she loves giving blowjobs so much. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things yo...

Actress Tika Sumpter ( Sonic The Hedgehog 1 & 2 ) recounts the times that boys have left her for her best friend, losing her expensive engagement ring, and meeting her partner on a Tyler Perry set.  Nicole realizes she has abandonment issues, and campaigns to be cast in Sonic the Hedgehog 3.  We're running low on dirty messages! Write Nicole something nasty and send it to whywontyoudatemepodca...

Actress Stephanie Beatriz ( Encanto, Brooklyn Nine-Nine ) chats with Nicole about leaving a 9 year relationship, dealing with bisexual erasure, and explains the scam behind the cult-like Twin Flames dating platform. Nicole recounts her wild experience hosting the Critics' Choice awards. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to whywontyoudatemep...

Comedian Donnell Rawlings ( Chappelle's Show, Winning Time: The Rise of the Lakers Dynasty ) chats with Nicole about the powers of having a WAP, why successful Black women have the hardest time in relationships, being a throat goat, and hottest locations to meet new people. Meanwhile, Nicole gets her tiddy caught in a car window. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty...

Comedian, actress and YouTuber star Lilly Singh ( A Little Late with Lilly Singh, Dollface ) chats with Nicole about April Fools' Day pranks, setting up a vision board in her shower, her experience hosting a late night talk show,  and offers her tip for getting dates on Raya. Meanwhile, Nicole tries to apply to the Soho house.  Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty m...

If there’s anyone who loves mindless gossip more than Nicole, it’s her good pal Solomon Georgio. In fact, it’s the subject of his brand new podcast from Team Coco, The Juice ! On The Juice, Solomon sources only the finest gossip stories about regular folks doing crazy s**t — no celeb headlines here! Each week he’s joined by hilarious guests such as Conan, Ira Madison III, Atsuko Okatsuka, and yes,...

Actress Raven Goodwin ( Single Black Female, SMILF ) shares her worst first dates, the adorable story behind her picnic proposal, what she planned for her bachelorette party, and how dating long distance helped strengthen the love in her relationship. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to hav...

Oh my god, it’s happening. Twins Darcey and Stacy Silva (TLC's 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days, Darcey & Stacey ) are here! They chat with Nicole about how they were separately cast on the reality tv show, getting divorced on the same day, their plastic surgery journey, and TOM! Darcey also announces her split with Georgi, and Stacey shares details about the model who snuck into her husband'...

Drag king Tenderoni (Winner of The Drag Queen of the Year Pageant 2021) chats with Nicole about why they love older women, the challenges of performing as a drag king on your period, the scandalous story behind how they met their 12-year partner, and shares tips on how to be a flirt. Plus, Nicole reads some cringey dating app pick-up lines she's received.  Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? W...

Danielle Pinnock ( Young Sheldon, Ghosts ) and Nicole get mistaken for each other... a lot.  The comedian and writer chats with Nicole about the different actors they get confused for, the grueling process of booking an acting job, and the very strange story behind how Danielle's wedding ended up taking place in a hospital ICU.  Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty...

Comedian and motivational speaker Jackie Fabulous joins Nicole to chat about negotiating prenups, how to gently give direction during sex, finding the funny in your flaws, and how to appear more desirable by looking less horny. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com f...

Comedian Moses Storm lived in an art exhibit where he would sleep, shit, and had sex in front of an audience.  He navigates trying to find love while exhibiting, and being raided by Operation Fashion Police. Moses and Nicole also talk about shooting sex scenes for TV, preparing bits for dates, and the hookup culture on Birthright. Check out Moses's new comedy special, Trash White now on HBO Max! C...

Actress Shalita Grant ( You , NCIS: New Orleans ) talks to Nicole about her life dating an MMA fighter, her straight sex phrase, the moment she realized she was a natural at lesbian sex, and how her interest in polygamous relationships lead to her love of pole dancing. Nicole shares her blowjob trick that works every time.  Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you...

Comedian Gina Yashere ( The Daily Show, Bob Hearts Abishola ) chats with Nicole about the adorable meet-cute story behind meeting her girlfriend at a women's festival. She also discusses the process behind working with Chuck Lorre to co-create the sitcom Bob Hearts Abishola, her non-confrontation approach to hiring a diverse writers' room, and how Different Strokes inspired her dream to come to Am...

Actor and comedian Lamorne Morris ( New Girl, Woke) is here! Lamorne teaches Nicole about the importance of playing hard to get, and how to act unavailable to attract a man. They read a listener's story about a date who ditched them at the bar to go buy wet wipes and take a shit. Plus, is TikTok now the hottest new app to find a relationship? Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and...

Comedian and actress Abbi Jacobson ( Broad City, The Mitchells vs the Machines ) and Nicole go over a list of ways to make a man commit - is the advice solid or is it all just mind games? Plus, Abbi shares how she met her co-star Ilana Glazer, and their combined failure trying to ask out men over Facebook. She also shares her Raya success story, and her empowering message she sends when asking som...