The Mental Healness Podcast

As a diagnosed narcissist, I'm going live to answer the question adult children of narcissistic parents are afraid to ask did your narcissist parent ever truly love you? In this live stream, we'll break down narcissistic abuse in childhood, trauma bonding, covert narcissism, and why narcissistic parents use their children as pawns instead of loving them unconditionally. If you're heali...

When a toxic, control-obsessed person realizes they no longer have power over you, everything changes. In this video, we break down exactly how they react when they sense you're walking away — from sudden rage and smear campaigns to desperate hoovering attempts and playing the victim. If you've been in a relationship where you felt confused, manipulated, or emotionally drained, this video...

What does it mean when an abuser or a controlling person completely cuts you out of their life for good? In this video, Lee Hammock breaks down the brutal psychological reality of the final discard. You’ll learn the exact mechanics of why a toxic individual goes completely cold, why they strip away your closure, and how they use a sudden, cruel exit as the ultimate punishment. We dive deep into wh...

Why does it feel like there is an absolute epidemic of abusers, controlling people, and narcissistic individuals in the world today? In this video, Lee Hammock tackles the heavy question of why so many people are displaying high-conflict, manipulative traits. We pull back the curtain on the modern reward systems that validate superficial charm, why a complete lack of personal accountability is tur...

How do you take the power away from an abuser, a narcissist or a controlling person who seems to dominate your entire life? In this video, I talk about the psychological shift required to make a toxic person completely powerless. You’ll learn why their authority over you is entirely dependent on your emotional reactions, and how practicing total indifference shuts down their manipulation engine. W...

Why do abusers and controlling people refuse to give your stuff back after a breakup? In this video, Lee Hammock exposes the sinister tactics behind why toxic people hold your personal belongings hostage. You’ll learn how an abusive person uses your clothes, electronics, or even important documents as an invisible tether to keep you locked into their lives and keep access to you. We dive deep into...

Five years is a long time to live a lie. But it hurts even deeper when your own friend is the one defending the behavior. In this story time, we look at Rhonda’s experience dating her friend's brother. When the family prioritizes protecting a toxic pattern over protecting the target, the behavior never stops. You aren't just fighting one person; you are fighting an entire system of excuses...

Understanding why you feel paralyzed and unable to leave an abusive person is the first step toward freedom. In this video, Lee Hammock explains the psychological "glue" that keeps people stuck in cycles with controlling people. We dive deep into trauma bonding, intermittent reinforcement, and the fear of the unknown that toxic people weaponize to keep you compliant. If you feel like you...

My man finally understands what women mean when they talk about experiencing narcissism after dealing with his first narcissistic friend. This video dives into his experience, highlighting the signs of narcissism and the challenges of encountering toxic people. It's a raw reaction to how narcissistic abuse impacts friendships, giving my unfiltered perspective. Connect with Lee: My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Have you ever head of PUFFER FISHING? In this video, Lee Hammock breaks down the exact mechanics of this toxic behavior and explains why abusers and controlling people suddenly turn freezing cold the exact moment a relationship becomes emotionally real. I take a deep dive into how toxic individuals act deeply affectionate and attentive at first, only to "puff up" their defenses, lash out...

What happens when your childhood is marked by extreme survival, only for you to unconsciously recreate that exact nightmare in your adult marriage? In this profoundly raw and unfiltered episode, author, creator, and survivor Grace Sandra joins Lee Hammock to unpack the terrifying reality of severe trauma bonds, narcissistic abuse, and ultimate resilience. Grace bravely opens up about surviving a c...

When a toxic, abusive, or controlling ex tells you that they "miss" you, it can completely destabilize your healing process. Your brain wants to believe that they have finally realized your worth, but the behavioral reality is much darker. In this video, I break down the exact psychology of what happens when an abuser starts to miss you. We discuss the concept of a validation deficit, wh...

Why does the person you are with desperately try to keep you from ever interacting with or meeting their ex? If they claim the ex is simply "crazy" but go to extreme lengths to make sure your worlds never collide, there is a dark strategic reason behind the secrecy. In this video, I break down the behavioral mechanics of why controlling and abusive people isolate you from their past rela...

What actually happens inside the mind of an abusive or controlling individual when you implement permanent no contact? Many survivors wonder if their absence is felt, or if the toxic person simply moves on without a care. In this video, I break down the cold behavioral mechanics of how an abuser handles absolute silence. We discuss the initial phase of disbelief, the panic that sets in when they r...

Why do we intentionally look for things we know will hurt us? If you find yourself constantly typing your toxic ex's name into a search bar to check up on their new life, you are engaging in "pain shopping."In this video, I break down the behavioral psychology behind why survivors spy on their abusers online. We discuss the reality behind their curated posts, why your brain craves th...

Have you ever experienced a situation where your keys, phone, or wallet constantly vanish, only for your partner to magically find them minutes later? This is not accidental clumsiness—it is a calculated behavioral setup designed to make you question your own memory. In this video, we break down the psychology of the "savior setup," why abusive people manufacture chaos to play the hero,...

What happens when a toxic relationship and life's heaviest struggles push you to the literal edge? In this raw and unfiltered episode of The Mental Healness Podcast, life and business coach Talmadge Spicer joins Lee Hammock to share his powerful journey of survival. Talmadge opens up about the exact night he stood on a parking deck, ready to end it all, and the precise mindset shift that saved...

The ultimate threat to an abusive or controlling person isn't your anger—it's your indifference. As long as you are angry, you are still emotionally invested in the struggle. But the moment you stop caring, the power dynamic changes entirely. In this Live stream, I am breaking down what happens when you reach the stage of total indifference. We discuss how a toxic person reacts when they c...

He should be kicked out of the military for cheating on his stay at home mom spouse. BUt she isn't going to press the charges against him because it would effect her life and her kid's lives in a negative way. Connect with Lee: My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://courses.mentalhealness.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

One of the hardest lessons in life is learning that you cannot save someone who isn't ready to leave an abusive situation. Long before I started speaking online about toxic relationship dynamics, I had to make the incredibly painful decision to cut off one of my best friends because of the toxic relationship he refused to walk away from. In this video, I share that personal story and break dow...

Cutting off communication with a toxic or abusive person is one of the hardest decisions you will ever make, but it is the only way to reclaim your stability. When you choose to go completely NO CONTACT, you aren't just walking away—you are completely cutting off their ability to manipulate your emotions. In this live, I break down the exact way a lot of abusive people will react when you cut...

Have you ever gone back to an abusive relationship only to find that the behavior became significantly worse almost instantly? There is a specific logic behind why this happens, and it has nothing to do with how much you love them. In this video, I’m explaining the strategy behind why an abusive person punishes you for returning. We discuss why the "mask" never goes back on, how the cycl...

Have you ever noticed that the more you achieve, the less your partner or family member seems to notice? High-conflict personalities often withhold compliments and validation as a calculated move to keep you feeling "less than."In this Live, I'm pulling back the curtain from the inside out to show you why they refuse to acknowledge your wins. We’ll discuss the power dynamics behind t...

Have you ever felt like you were being pushed to your absolute breaking point, only for the other person to remain perfectly calm once you finally snapped? This is called "Reactive Abuse," and it is a calculated setup. In this video, I’m breaking down the "Inside Out" perspective on why an abusive person "pokes the bear" just to watch it explode. We’ll discuss the log...

Do you feel like you’ve "abandoned" them? Are you struggling with the feeling that you’re the "bad guy" for choosing your own mental health? You’re caught in the Empathy Trap. From the inside out, I’m explaining how your conscience is weaponized against you in high-conflict relationships. We’ll cover:Why guilt is a leash used to pull you back in. Accepting the "villain&quo...