The Dildorks

This week we’re discussing the ways service kink manifests in our relationships currently, and what our biggest service-related fantasies are. Teacher/Student Fantasies | Sexual Service | Day-to-Day Service | Initiating Service | Caregiver/Little | “Good Girl” Feeling | Dopamine Machine | Learning to Receive | Gratitude & Feedback | GSRM Coaching | Anticipatory Service | Good Service | Clarifying...

Sex toys for penises are seldom discussed, compared to their vulva-focused counterparts, so this week we’re shining a light on our favorite toys for dicks and how to use them!   Stigma | Sexual Economics | Coolness | Simple vs. Complex | First Toy | Tenga Egg | Fleshlight Quickshot | Fleshlight STU | Penis Vibrators | Fun Factory Manta | Hot Octopuss Pulse | Cobra Libre | Magic Wand Rechargeable |...

How can we use the idea of “archetypes” in our kink scenes? This week we’re discussing some of our favorite kinky archetypes and how we incorporate them into our play.   What Are Kinky Archetypes? | No Punishment | Benefits vs. Limitations | Media Influences | Fanfiction | Submissive Archetypes | Teacher/Student | Masochists | Attractive Archetypes | Honorifics | Headspace | Non-Gendered Archetype...

A lot of people combine sex with alcohol, but how can one do so in the safest and kindest way possible? This week we’re discussing the important intricacies of sex while tipsy.   Harm Reduction | Consent | Arousal & Sensitivity | Lowered Inhibitions | First Dates | Intentionality | Booze vs. Weed | Chaturbate Profile Templates | Non-Drinker | Hangover Advice | Advantages | Pre-Negotiation | Flirti...

Happy new year! This week we’re reflecting on our sex and kink adventures from 2021, and setting goals for 2022.   Our Holidays | This Year vs. Last Year | New Things | Things We Did Less Of | Toys & Products | Best Sex | Last Year’s Goals | Chaturbate Bio Design | Next Year’s Goals | Fantasies | Silliest Sex Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show...

Happy holidays! We’re finishing off the year by answering some questions about penis size, lesbian sex, sex work, and other sexy miscellany.   Scissoring | Dick Size Comparison | A-Spot Dicks | First Time with a SW | Chaturbate Profile Templates | Waiting for Marriage | Medical Issue | Medical Arousal Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get...

We’re still pontificating about sexting! In this week’s episode, we share our thoughts on sending and receiving nudes, sexting in public, being a polite sexter, and more.   Re-Reading Sexts | Sexting Etiquette | Stepping Away | Parentheticals | Masturbating vs. Not | Photo Consent | Text-Friendly Kinks | Public Play | IRL Awkwardness | Taking Nudes | Asking for Compliments | Partner Doesn’t Like I...

Now more than ever, sexting is a key way many people are expressing their sexualities. This week, we share our current thoughts on, and approaches to, sexting!   Skeleton Game | Assessing Sext Compatibility | Kink vs. Vanilla | Getting Sexy | Initiation & Consent | HotCherry | Dealbreakers | Face-Slapping | Subs & Bottoms | Parentheticals | Emojis Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Fin...

If you know what figging is, then you know that this episode where we got figged during the recording is gonna be a wild one. If you don’t know what figging is… prepare to find out!   Introductions | History | Method | First Impressions | Anal vs. Vaginal | Kinks to Combine It With | Safety | Transference | Snapping Off | Fermentation | The Enhanced Male | Magic Wand Rechargeable | Fun Factory Man...

This week, we’re answering more listener questions about consensual non-consent!   More Negotiation Questions | Evaluating Limits | More Real | HUSTLER Hollywood | Rose Gold Butt Plug | Strap U Siren Harness | Guilt | CNC for Survivors | Kink-Aware Professionals | Public Play Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Disc...

Consensual non-consent is a controversial kink, so this week we’re talking about how to do it in the safest, hottest, and kindest ways possible.   Definitions | Safewords | Saying No | Medical Play | Intoxication Play | Agency & Oppression | Vetting Partners | Negotiation Questions | Playing Safely Without Safewords | Stakes | In-Character Safewords | Hustler Hollywood | Master Series Petite Stain...

This week we’re discussing sleepy sex: how to do it safely and consensually, why it’s kinky as heck, and what additions can make it even kinkier.   Definition | Consent | What’s Hot About It? | Morning vs. Night | Negotiation | Intimacy & Connection | Hustler Hollywood | Packer Gear Harness | Inya the Rose | “Just Laying There” | Topping vs. Bottoming | Sex Toys | Inducing Sleepiness | Safewords |...

Many people wish they were better at dirty talk, so this week we’re discussing some of our favorite dirty-talk tips and tricks!   Revisiting | Separate vs. Integrated | Top vs. Bottom | Why Do We Like It? | Anxiety | How to Do It | Hypnosis | Leveling Up | Reading Aloud | Trying Stuff Out | Improv Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get acce...

Ever been turned on by receiving or giving praise? This week we’re discussing the ins and outs of praise kink!   Mean 4 Pay | What is Praise Kink? | Kink vs. Preference | The Power of Kink | Feedback for Tops | Praise vs. Service | Love Languages & Trauma | Brain Chemistry | Motivator & Reward | Calm & Connection | Praise as Humiliation | Types of Scenes | First Times | Solo Praise | Non-Gendered...

Fisting is an oft-misunderstood sex act, so this week we’re discussing the mechanics and philosophy of this much-revered form of hand sex.   Misconceptions | Muscle Tone | Brain & Pain | Fisting Technique | Pain from Topping | G-Spot | Closing the Fist | Extra Stimulation | Numbing Lube | Discomfort | Does It Feel Good? | Crying | Toy Training | Intoxicants | Fist Size | Lube & Gloves | Arousal &...

This week we’re answering sex advice requests from Reddit about masturbation, threesomes, vaginas, hookup etiquette, and more!   Jerking Off After Sex | Didn’t Come | Partner Doesn’t Masturbate | Massage Boners | Vagina Disgust | Threesome Inequality | First-Date BJ Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, month...

Kate’s debut book 101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do is launching in one week, so this week Bex interviews her about the writing process, the philosophy of the book, and how she hopes readers will use it!   Long Title | Why? | Experience Level | Narrowing It Down | Extreme Stuff | Intoxication & Sleepy Sex | Research | Fetishwear | Fragrances | Illustrations | How to Use the Book | Pen Choice | Hard...

This week we’re talking with Mx. Nillin , a sex blogger, educator, and erotica author, about their upcoming anthology of trans and non-binary erotica, Heckin’ Lewd !   Fanfiction | Heckin’ Lewd | Nillin’s Erotica Journey | Personal Experiences vs. Fiction | Blogging vs. Erotica | Own Voices | Trauma & Violence | Trans Representation | What is Trans Sex Like? | Aromanticism | Demisexuality | Sex St...

Bex just got back from Dark Odyssey kink camp, so in this episode he regales us with kinky stories and offers advice for folks considering going in future!   Con Drop | What is Kink Camp? | Shyness & Anxiety | Interesting Outfits | The Hunt | Suspension Scene | Swing Sex | Birdcages & Sarcophagi | COVID Precautions | Socializing Again | What to Bring | Camping Newbies | Demographics Credits: Music...

Many people worry about their sexual hygiene and grooming, so this week we’re answering listener questions on these sensitive topics!   Good vs. Bad Smells | Armpit Worship | Washing a Vagina | Don’t Like Their Taste | Anal Prep | Hygiene Supplies | Shaving the Butt | Kinky Shaving | Sweat Fetish | Toilet Paper Bits | “Pedophilic” Accusations | Injury or Illness | UTIs After Sex Credits: Music by...

Lots of people have learned new things about their gender and identity during the pandemic, so this week we’re discussing how to re-enter the dating scene as a newly-out trans person.   Pandemic Self-Reflection | Returning to Dating | Taking Time Off | Managing Expectations | New Gender Roles | Media Models | Second Puberty | Other Trans Folks | Dating Cis People | Boundaries & Comfort | Practicin...

With the recent news about OnlyFans fresh in our minds, this week we’re discussing sex work stigma, financial issues in the sex industry, and how to be a good customer to online sex workers.   OnlyFans | Supporting SWs Now | No Money Required | Sex Work Stigma | Becoming Their Favorite | Custom Clip Communication | Patreon Update | Are They Into It? | APAG Union | September 1st Banking Action Cred...

This week we’re joined by sex blogger and tarot reader Wendy Phillips of The Wench Works . We chat about blogging, self-esteem, and the intersections of kink and spirituality – and Wendy gives us each a heartfelt tarot reading about self-love.   The Wench Works | Sexy Tarot Spreads | Self-Reflection | Developing Self-Love | Post-Pandemic Prep | Tarot Decks | Reading for Bex | AudioDesires.com | Ki...

Our guest this week is the sex educator and author Allison Moon! Her wonderful new book, Getting It , inspired this deep-dive discussion of casual sex.   Getting It | Different Approach to Casual Sex | Gendered Assumptions | Communicating Desires | Modelling Behaviors | Is It Empowering? | Setting an Intention | Is Sex Inherently Good? | Platonic Touch | Hookup Apps | In-Person Attraction | Saying...

We’re celebrating our 250th episode by doing something a little different this week: our partners, Ashe and Matt, put us in the hotseat to interview us about our show’s evolution, what we’ve learned these past 250 episodes, and more!   How It All Started | Lessons from Guests | Changes Since Episode 1 | Dream Guests | Behind the Scenes | More Kink Talk | Another Format | Fan Interactions | Best Th...