Wrestling with the Inner Man

Deception doesn’t usually kick the door down. It whispers, flatters, quotes Scripture just a little crooked, and then watches us sprint through the maze. That’s why this conversation with Tom Snow hit so hard for us: the fight isn’t only “out there” in culture, it’s right here in the mind, where competing voices battle for our attention every day. Tom shares his personal story of trauma, miraculou...

Your life can look successful on the outside while your mind is drowning on the inside. I sit down with Kirk Kuykendall, a Houston energy executive and father of three, to talk about what happens when anxiety, grief, and family fracture start writing the story in your head and you believe you’re alone in it. Kirk walks us through the “fragmented glass” moments that shaped him: his parents’ divorce...

If you’ve ever hit a milestone you prayed for and still felt restless afterward, you’re not broken, you’re hungry in a way success cannot fix. We talk about that hunger from the inside out, starting with a blunt question: are we living our daily lives through the lens of eternity, or are we spending all our energy choosing the seat and missing the show? I’m joined by award-winning author, theologi...

Force gets results fast and breaks things quietly. Power moves slower, stays present, and builds something that lasts and that difference shows up everywhere from marriage arguments to leadership decisions to the private battles men fight alone. We sit down with Garth Haslem, author of Power Over Force and founder of Manalizing, to get specific about what “real power” actually looks like in a man’...

Loving your enemies sounds simple until you’re face to face with betrayal, disrespect, or the kind of hurt that doesn’t go away. We sit with Luke 6:32–36 and ask the uncomfortable question it raises for every Christian man: am I really living by the mercy I claim to have received, or am I still letting my flesh call the shots when I feel wronged? If you’ve ever thought, “I can’t love that person a...

Truth doesn’t usually get rejected because it’s obviously false. It gets rejected because it gets repackaged, renamed, and blended with just enough Bible language to feel familiar. That’s the tension we sit with here, especially as we mark America’s founding ideals while admitting how many of us have grown intellectually lazy, outsourcing conviction to feeds, algorithms, and talking heads. We’re j...

Betrayal, disaster, career loss, family crisis, the slow grind of grief, they all create the same gut-level question: why, and what do I do with this pain now? I sit down with Tony Stoltzfus, a veteran Christian coach and author who has spent decades helping leaders navigate painful transitions, to talk about why “try harder” and pure self-discipline often fail when the real struggle is happening...

“Separation of church and state” gets thrown around like a trump card, but most of us have never been shown where that idea actually comes from, what the First Amendment really says, and why the founders cared so much about protecting religious liberty. We’re heading into a major national anniversary, so we slow down and do something rare: we trace the history instead of repeating the slogan.  We...

He chased success hard enough to build a global career and still ended up empty. Mitch Guinn joins us to tell the truth about what it looked like to spend years hunting for acceptance in all the wrong places: performance, sex, alcohol, and the constant need to be seen as “a man.” The cost was real: three marriages, five daughters growing up with an often absent father, and a level of guilt that ne...

A kid doesn’t need a perfect dad, but they do need a present one, and the window to shape a heart doesn’t stay soft forever. Father’s Day sets the tone with a simple poem, “The Sculptor,” and it lands like a warning and a gift: the impressions we leave on our sons and daughters tend to last. If you’ve ever looked at middle school years and thought, I don’t have the tools for this, you’re not alone...

A lot of men carry a quiet ache they can’t quite name, then spend decades trying to outrun it with work, wins, and willpower. On this Father’s Day, we sit with that ache head-on: the father wound, the craving for approval, and the lifelong impact of a dad who is physically present but emotionally absent. We don’t treat it like a psychology trend or a sentimental story. We treat it like spiritual w...

A single email during COVID turned into a paternity test, a flight to an empty LAX, and a face-to-face meeting with a 46-year-old son Rick Wertz never knew existed. That’s the kind of story that sounds impossible until you hear the details, and it opens a bigger question many men carry quietly: what do you do with the father-wound, the love deficit, and the years you can’t get back? We sit down wi...

A lot of men can describe the exact second they heard the words “I’m pregnant” and what happened next, their mind racing through fear, responsibility, and what kind of man they’re going to be. But almost nobody asks the next question out loud: what happens to the father when an abortion happens, and he’s told to stay quiet? That silence can turn into years of shame, drifting, and numbness, even fo...

Debt is not just math, it’s pressure, identity, fear, and the quiet belief that you’re failing the people you love. We start with a hard look at how easy credit, emotional spending, and constant comparison normalize borrowing, then we bring it back to a biblical lens where debt can become bondage and limit the freedom God intends for us. If Proverbs 22:7 has ever felt uncomfortably real, you’re no...

This show is about spiritual warfare in its many forms.  We all are in its midst whether we are aware of it or not.  It is the human condition since the fall in the Garden of Eden. Ephesians 6:12 says: For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realm...

Romans 12:2 says " Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.." A related verse in 2 Corinthians 10:5 says " We demolish arguments and every pretension that sees itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ" This is the most challenging wrestling match we face daily in...

Today we are talking about a second pandemic which has swept through our country and the world at large, it’s called immaturity and it manifests today in no larger way than refusing to accept personal responsibility, especially in the roles God gave men to fulfill. 1 Corinthians 13:11   says, “When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became...

My show is aimed primarily but not exclusively at men.  It is a nonprofit categorized as Christian Education with a focus on the numerous aspects of spiritual warfare that men face daily.  My tagline in the show's intro is: "Because the first fight we face each and every day is the fight between our selfish sinful nature and our Holy Spirit inspired divine nature." The show's g...

Our institutions of higher education have been co-opted by a liberal ideology for decades now that have wedged out belief in God as somehow being naïve and unacceptable to highly scientific minds.  I have had several guests on this show with Ivy league educations that told me if anyone in those advanced degree programs did believe in God it was very well hidden. My guest today is Douglas Ell, auth...

I'm posting this episode on Good Friday ahead of Easter Sunday for 2026. This is the high Holy season of the Christian faith and for most of us, it is our fear and uncertainty of what happens to us when we die that we wrestle most with in deciding to accept Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior. It all comes down to belief in the fact that Jesus died on the cross for all of us to atone for our...

There are many stories in the bible of reluctant people who resist their assignment like Moses and Jonah for example. And many of us today still struggle with our own assignment, but God always seems to have His way with us in the end doesn’t He? My guest today is Dr. James Torkildson, a Clinical Psychologist and seasoned Behavioral Health Professional with a cultural voice that is rooted in Scrip...

Servant leadership is a popular term today to talk about, and Christ himself demonstrated it by washing the disciples’ feet.  As Christians we should be using our spiritual gifts in volunteer service to advance His kingdom here on earth. But have you ever heard of Newton's first law of motion, or the law of inertia? It states that an object at rest remains at rest. And the longer an organizat...

My guest in this episode is Bruce Wawrzyniak. Bruce has had a lengthy career in sports including ten years working for a National Hockey League team, three years as VP/Public Relations at the League office for the National Lacrosse League and then worked for ten-and-a-half years in the Olympic Movement.  Today, Bruce is a Publicist / PR Professional, Podcaster, Author, Speaker, Blogger and special...

It’s early February and we are right smack in the middle of Championship Football Season! College is decided and its Seattle vs New England in the upcoming Super Bowl Congrats to Curt Cignetti and the Indiana Hoosiers on their undefeated season of 16-0 and the school’s first football national championship.  The game had some print dedicated afterwards to the officiating and no calls on some seemin...

Wrestlers, I don't often do solo episodes but sometimes I have more that I want to express as my personal view and this episode is one of those times. The stock market darling for all of 2025 was Nvidia and all things related to AI holdings.  For the first two weeks of this year I have consumed content related to AI that stirred my inner man and made me more aware of the wrestling match I am...