We Can Do Hard Things

How to end a relationship lovingly, how to love an addict, and how to keep surprising yourself in midlife (buy the tap dancing shoes). Plus, why Cheryl decided to cut down her drinking.  For our past episodes with Cheryl, listen to Episode 118 Cheryl Strayed: Don’t Let Your Dreams Ruin Your Life and Episode 119 It’s Okay to Want What You Want: Cheryl Strayed as Dear Sugar. For the Amanda episode C...

1. How to finally discover what turns us on, how to discuss turn-offs – and how to create “sex menus” with our partners. 2. The real reason so many of us don’t feel like having sex.  3. How to ask for more sex – and how to turn it down without hurting your partner.  4. Orgasm – why it’s not the whole shebang – and what to do if we’ve been faking it.  5. Glennon and Abby engage in an exercise to pr...

Two silent sex queens & Abby invite sex therapist Vanessa Marin onto the pod and into their bedrooms to discuss:  1. Practical, concrete tips for how to get over your discomfort and talk about sex with your partner – and how Vanessa’s advice is currently working for Glennon and Abby.   2. Why women tend to struggle receiving during sex – and how hustle culture shows up in the bedroom. 3. How to ac...

Glennon takes us along on her “exile walk” to share how recovery’s going and some new found wisdom that will help us all including:  1. How to shut off the mind and stop over-intellectualizing to allow space for other parts and memories to rise up. 2. Acknowledging that nobody’s “fine” – and we’re all either transforming or transmitting our pain.  3. Glennon's interaction with a young surfer that...

MICHELLE OBAMA! 1. How to develop the one tool that has sustained Mrs. Obama throughout her entire life. 2. How to identify whether you’re deeply satisfied or deeply stuck – and how to reach for the goal of living “comfortably afraid.” 3. What we never knew about Mrs. Obama’s incredible father, Fraser C. Robinson III, and how he shaped her life.  4. How to avoid what Mrs. Obama calls, “Getting los...

Pioneering sports journalist – the brilliant, hilarious, badass Sarah Spain – joins us to reflect on: 1. One of our most popular episodes – Episode 147: The Episode That Wasn’t – when we ended an interview after the guest was disrespectful to our team member; 2. The constant indignities and inequities in male-dominated fields; 3. To report or not to report harassment – and what actually happens wh...

1. When is it too late to cancel on someone? 2. How do we split the bill? 3. Text messages: What NOT to do, and is there time-induced amnesty? 4. Phone calls in public: Hell no, or do what you wish? 5. Once and for all: Can we agree on how we all get off the plane?  Today, Abby – whose mom sent her to etiquette school to learn to be a “lady” – and Glennon and Amanda – whose mom did not – discuss t...

In Part 2 of this Abby conversation, Abby shared the greatest gift she’s ever received. In this Part 3, we dive into: exactly what happened that magical morning from Abby, Glennon, and Amanda’s perspective; Craig’s reaction; and why it was that singular moment that Abby finally felt fully loved and chosen. If you haven’t listened to Part 1, check it out here: Episode 188 Abby Wambach: Will I Ever...

In Part 2 of our deeply personal interview with Abby, she reveals for the first time: 1. Her romance with an unrequited love – someone who strung her along hopelessly for years; 2. Her anguish and rebirth after being arrested; 3. Her sense of loss when being crowned FIFA Player of the Year;  4. Her divorce after fighting for marriage equality – inside her own family and on the public stage; and  5...

This is the one!   Our favorite person on the planet – Abby Wambach – is going deep, answering the questions that we all have, but that only Glennon and Amanda can ask.   Abby shares, in an intensely new and courageous way, about her lifelong pursuit of love – including her complicated relationships with her mom, soccer, her first marriage, queerness, and her “shadow self” – and why she has questi...

1. How to listen to the signals our bodies give us, and other concrete strategies to hold on to being human. 2. The healing power of honoring and reconnecting with our little girl selves and with our Mother Earth. 3. How, if all else fails, we can practice presence and embodiment by talking to a house plant.   4. The traumatizing effect of purity culture, colonization, and assimilation, and how to...

GLORIA STEINEM – who dedicates her life to ensuring we know that we are not broken, but were born into a system intended to break us – lives in the DNA of millions who are giving birth to movements or to themselves. She reminds us why there’s nothing more radical than telling the truth of our lives, and listening to the truth of others’ lives.  She reminds us that leaving our lives unlived is no b...

We saw the film WOMEN TALKING and we couldn’t rest until we had the chance to speak with the genius who wrote, directed, and is nominated for an Oscar for it: Sarah Polley.  This conversation is about hope, survival, imagination, and revolution. It’s about burning it all down and building from the ashes.  Please listen to this conversation and then please watch the film. You will be powerfully cha...

1. Why no one talks about the complicated feelings of freedom after the death of a toxic loved one. 2. How Jennette’s mom enforced extreme calorie restriction to control and bond with Jennette, and the moment her body finally said, No. 3. What led Jennette to step away from acting after her iCarly stardom, and why she doesn’t think “resilient” is a compliment. 4. How Jennette found herself still “...

1. Hard-won, joyful, practical wisdom from Bozoma’s exuberant life, and her lessons on how to overcome after enduring excruciating loss. 2. How big love and life can be when we are brave enough to be fierce and tender.  3. The rarely talked-about confusion and fear that often come with pregnancy.  4. Why love isn’t enough — and we all deserve a community surrounding our love. 5. Why Boz gave her h...

Glennon shares what she’s learning in therapy and what she feels we all could benefit from knowing – especially about wanting, yearning, fixing, and the next right thing.  If talk about eating disorders and mental illness helps: Listen today. If it triggers: Skip today. CW // eating disorders If you have an eating disorder, you may find the National Alliance for Eating Disorders a helpful resource...

In this Bonus episode, Amanda answers your follow-up questions: 1. How do you take care of the person who takes care of everyone else? 2. How do you find peace and closure when you will never know the story of what really happened? 3. The weird way Amanda can only relax when her husband gets fired up. 4. The strategy that now grounds Amanda when she is most activated and afraid.

1. Practical ways to make a friend and become what Dr. Franco calls a “Super-friend.” 2. How to address issues with a friend even if you hate conflict. 3. Why expressing anger is more likely to deepen a relationship than destroy it. 4. How we need to express vulnerability to make friends – but first, what the hell is vulnerability? 5. Destroying the unhelpful myth that friendship happens organical...

1. How your attachment style determines how you make – or don’t make – friends and becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. 2. How Dr. Franco’s work helped Glennon make healthy adult friendships over the past year. 3. Why we’re lonelier than ever – and how that loneliness can make us sick. 4. Why platonic friendships are beneficial to the health of our romantic partnerships.  5. Learning to “trust the...

In this bonus episode, Glennon shares her “Sort Your Mail” rules for dealing with the inevitable criticisms you will receive from daring to say anything, do anything, or be anything. Learn to sort your mail so you can keep showing up!

Glennon and Abby interview their favorite person and co-host: Amanda Doyle! Examining the relationships, decisions, and travels that led her to today – from hitchhiking across Ireland, to prosecuting child sex offenders in Rwanda, to making the biggest decision of her life in an Ethiopian airport – they dive into Amanda’s lifelong fear of the ordinary. About Amanda: Amanda Doyle is Glennon Doyle’s...

Today we’re talking about how to build healthy relationships — with ourselves and others — after enduring toxic relationships with both. 1. Signs of emotional toxicity in romantic relationships – and what finally made Lily get out of her unhealthy relationship. 2. How to begin reprogramming your brain after leaving a toxic relationship in order to trust yourself and other people again. 3. The proc...

We can do hard things, and yet, sometimes we can try easier. Glennon, Abby, Amanda – and the Pod Squad! — share the strategies they’ve used to suffer less – giving us simple Life Hacks for relationships, home, tech, travel, and saving time.

1. Big and small ideas for what to let go of — so that we can all live freer this year. 2. The thinking trap that prevents us from creating new habits.  3. The heaven of resigning from the role of everybody’s problem solver.  4. What to say when folks say something offensive – so you don’t have “walk-away regret.” 5. How to know if you are an “overfunctioner” in a relationship – and how to change...

1. Mae, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda each explore their sexuality by delving into what sexually attracts each of them.  2. The sex-positive way Mae’s parents taught them about sex – and orgasm(!) – and how they never made assumptions about Mae's sexuality.  3. Gender as creative expression and a way to have fun. 4. Simple ways to switch up the monotony of routine; to transform boredom into exploratio...