The Hardcore Therapist

Send us Fan Mail Today on The Hardcore Therapist , I’m joined by Vennie from South Florida hardcore outfit Spit Truth , a band gearing up to drop their new EP Good For You this fall. Known for their raw energy and unapologetic honesty, Spit Truth will also be taking their sound on the road with a Texas tour this coming March. At the center of it all is Iraldes Jose Abreu (pronounced ee-RAHL-des ho...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I explore one of the most common — and misunderstood — emotional experiences: feeling lonely even when you’re not alone.  Drawing from neuroscience, attachment theory, and her work as a therapist, she breaks down why this happens, how modern culture reinforces disconnection, and what you can do to rebuild genuine emotional intimacy. If you’ve ever wondered why bei...

Send us Fan Mail Today on The Hardcore Therapist , I’m joined by someone whose bass lines have been the backbone of some of the most influential punk and hardcore records of the last few decades. Michael Cotterman has played in legendary bands like Kid Dynamite, The Loved Ones, Title Tracks, Partyline, and his latest project, Laughing Matter. He was the touring bassist with Trial by Fire, No justi...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist , IIdives deep into the conversations couples therapists must be having about sexual health — and why avoiding them keeps partners disconnected, resentful, and misunderstood. Drawing from functional mental health, relationship science, and clinical experience, I explores the emotional, physiological, and psychological layers of sexual well...

Send us Fan Mail On today’s episode of The Hardcore Therapist Podcast, I’m thrilled to be joined by two incredible guests — Viggy Ram and RJ Rabe from the Bay Area melodic hardcore band Drought. Their debut LP, Souvenir, dropped on July 18th through Iodine Recordings, recorded by the legendary Jack Shirley. Souvenir is a powerful 13-track journey that blends hardcore aggression with melody, drawin...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever wondered if you’re truly “chill”  or if you’ve just stopped feeling altogether? In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist Podcast I breaks down the difference between emotional calm and emotional numbness a trauma response that often masquerades as being easygoing, detached, or “unbothered.” Drawing from the work of Bessel van der Kolk, Pete Walker, Stephen Porges, a...

Send us Fan Mail Today on The Hardcore Therapist Podcast, we’re joined by a truly unique guest whose roots run deep in both hardcore and sacred sound. Akincana Krishna grew up in New York immersed in music, first as a multi-instrumentalist and later as a bassist in bands like Glassjaw and As Kindred Spirits, taking that raw hardcore energy across the globe. His journey didn’t stop there — in 1998,...

Send us Fan Mail Feeling scatterbrained, overwhelmed, or unable to concentrate? You’re not alone. In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, I dive into why focus is so difficult for adults today—especially those with ADHD—and shares science-backed strategies, treatments, and accommodations that actually work. Learn how to manage distractions, support your brain chemistry, and reclaim your attenti...

Send us Fan Mail Today on the Hardcore Therapist , we’re honored to welcome Steven ‘Steven In Stereo’ Walker,  also known as PositiveSteven , a voice in the YouTube music commentary landscape.  Steven has built a platform where he doesn’t just react to the big hits — he analyzes, dissects, and feels them, often doing full-album takes that bring out structure and subtlety many listeners might miss....

Send us Fan Mail * This episode contains discussions of grooming, sexual abuse, and manipulation  particularly how teenage girls have been exploited in the hardcore and DIY music scenes. If that’s triggering for you, please take care of yourself pause, skip sections, or come back later when you’re ready. Today, we’re diving into one of the hardest but most necessary topics we’ve ever talked about:...

Send us Fan Mail On this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, I was honored to welcome a very special guest—someone whose journey through music, philosophy, and spiritual practice has inspired generations. Vic DiCara is best known as the guitarist for the legendary hardcore bands 108, Inside Out, and Shelter—all of which helped define the spiritual hardcore movement of the '90s. But Vic is far...

Send us Fan Mail Shame can leave us feeling unworthy, isolated, and stuck. In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist , I unpacks the shame cycle—why it happens, how it affects your life, and practical tools to break free. Learn how to recognize shame, practice self-compassion, challenge shame-based beliefs, and reconnect through vulnerability so you can start feeling worthy again. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Today on The Hardcore Therapist , I’m honored to welcome J. Navarro. If you know anything about the punk and ska scene, you know his name—frontman of The Suicide Machines, Break Anchor, Hellmouth, J. Navarro & The Traitors, Roosevelt's Inaugural Parade, and more. A longtime force in music, Jay has never stopped creating and pushing boundaries. I’ve had the privilege of kn...

Send us Fan Mail Family ties can be powerful—and painful. In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist , I explores how to decide whether reconciliation or no contact is the healthiest path for you. Learn key signs to look for, questions to ask yourself, and steps to protect your well-being as you navigate this tough decision. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Today on The Hardcore Therapist, I spoke to the artist Christoph Jesus.  Christoph Jesus is the electrifying frontman of Crazy & the Brains, the New Jersey-born band known for blending streetwise lyrics, punk aggression, and yes a xylophone. Whether he’s ripping through a live set or channeling emotion into his writing, Christoph brings honesty, grit, and heart to everything h...

Send us Fan Mail On this episode of The Hardcore Therapist , I breaks down one of the most common questions I gets: “What’s the difference between anxiety and panic—and what do I do in the moment?” You’ll learn how to distinguish key symptoms, understand what’s happening in the body, and explore evidence-based tools like grounding, breathing, and cognitive reframing to help yourself or your client...

Send us Fan Mail On this episode of The Hardcore Therapist , I sit down with bassist Matt Fletcher—known for his work with Shai Hulud , Life Force , and One —for a raw and thoughtful conversation about his journey through music, mental health, and meaning. We talk about what first pulled him into the hardcore scene, growing up in Norman, Oklahoma, and the legendary moment he drove a Camaro across...

Send us Fan Mail Conflict in relationships is unavoidable — but what really determines the health and longevity of a partnership isn’t the fight itself, it’s how we come back together afterward. In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist Podcast, we explore why repair after conflict often matters more than the conflict itself. Drawing on the work of John Gottman, Sue Johnson, and Harville Hendrix,...

Send us Fan Mail Today on The Hardcore Therapist, I’m joined by the incredible Shoshana “Shana” Pederson — a force in both the legal world and the mental health advocacy space. By day, Shana is the  Senior Manager of eData  Specialized Recruiting, where she brings strategy and heart to hiring in one of the nation’s top law firms. But her story doesn’t stop at corporate success. Shana is also the f...

Send us Fan Mail Ever felt yourself go completely blank during an argument? Or noticed you shut down emotionally when conflict comes up with someone you love? You’re not alone. In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist , host Sarah Kuretzky breaks down why we go numb in conflict, how the body’s freeze response works, and why it often shows up most in our closest relationships. Drawing on research...

Send us Fan Mail Today on The Hardcore Therapist,  I’m joined by Reid Chancellor—cartoonist, illustrator, musician, and the author of Hardcore Anxiety , Sad Religion , and Hardcore Happiness . Reid reached out to me, and I’m so glad he did. His work dives deep into the intersections of mental health, punk rock, and personal growth—all told through honest, visually compelling storytelling. Whether...

Send us Fan Mail Generational trauma runs deep—it shows up in silence, in yelling, in shame, and in secrecy. Even when we swear we’ll parent differently, old patterns have a way of sneaking into how we raise our kids, how we love our partners, and even how we talk to ourselves. In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist , Sarah dives into what it really means to say, “The cycle ends with me.” We’ll...

Send us Fan Mail The Hardcore Therapist welcomes Popeye Vogelsang — the unmistakable voice of Farside, the iconic Orange County melodic hardcore band that helped shape the sound of the '90s punk scene. Known for blending raw emotion with introspective lyrics, Popeye carved out a unique space in hardcore music, setting himself apart from the noise with vulnerability and heart. Now leading Call...

Send us Fan Mail Sending your child off to college is one of the biggest transitions we face as parents—and it’s not just their new chapter, it’s ours too. In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist , I share my personal perspective on what it feels like to navigate empty nesting while weaving in insights from Mel Robbins, psychologist Guy Winch, Dr. Rachel Glik, and Dr. Janine Furdella. From the f...

Send us Fan Mail On this episode of The Hardcore Therapist Podcast, I spoke to Drew Maxey. He is a high school English teacher, comic book writer for DC under the name DrewXdeficit, and frontman for the St. Louis hardcore bands, Good Grief, Like Heaven and Time and Pressure . He’s also straight edge and brings a fierce, thoughtful voice to everything he does—on stage, in the classroom, and on the...