Support, Protect, Empower - The Project Purpose Podcast

Creating a Safe Space to Share Our Experiences on Violence & Trauma | Baseline Tenets of Empathy I want to start off by thanking everyone who has taken the time to listen to my experience, and for holding space for me while I spoke vulnerably, about my experience being stalked for the last four years. As we continue to engage in dialogue, I just ask that we be intentional with how we position...

Speaking Up & Speaking Out About My 4-Year Strong Stalking Nightmare: UofT Professor & RCMP Officer I spoke out about how I've spent the last four years to-date getting stalked by my professor University of Toronto's Rotman's School of Management, Scott Rutherford. I was also vocal about meeting an RCMP officer who contributed to the silencing campaign, Alex Lamb. I spoke candi...

When those Who Serve & Protect, Seek to Smear and Silence Your Voice | My 4-Year Stalking Nightmare In the same year, fateful 2020, I made the choice to go no contact with abusive family members, and ended up needing to go on the run because of a stalker. While most people will speak on being stalked by a stranger or a romantic partner -- the stalker that has persecuted me for the last four ye...

Silence Doesn't Support Your Well-Being | My UofT Professor Continues to Get Away with Stalking Me Does anyone else hope that if they say nothing and do nothing, that problems might magically disappear? That was my hope. All to say, 4 years later and I've come to the realization that I was wrong. When it comes to matters of safety - silence is never the answer. It's never an easy decis...

How Gender, Attractiveness & Intelligence (Mis)Inform Our Expectations of Each Other's Agreeability Everyday we navigate a sea of strangers. If any of them are lucky enough to catch your attention, one of the first narratives you'll craft about the unsuspecting stranger speaks to your estimation of how agreeable they might be. Which serves to inform you on how much you think you'll...

Learning to Say "No" Without Apologizing | Developing the Muscle to Decline & Honour Your Boundaries A lot of people struggle with the word no. Whether it's to say no, when they're not in the mood - or even more alarming, the individuals who take issue with hearing no. Much of culture & society has provided so many different vehicles to teach us the virtues of agreeabilit...

How Inner Alignment Increases the Quality of Our Choices | Decisions that Shield Us from Undue Harm You know that saying, short-term pain long-term gain? Well, what they didn't tell you is that it does not work well in reverse. That is when your focus is on short-term gain... it almost always results in long-term pain - and who wants that? Many of us feel that valuing now, means discounting th...

Understanding your Relationship with Learning | Trusting the Process If/When Mastery Isn't a Given It feels good to be knowledgeable in a given area 😊. Being the subject matter expert in a given topic is an opportunity to lend insight, support, and perspective for ongoing developments within your area of expertise. Many of us have such deep knowledge in a given area, we forgot that getting to...

3 Tendencies to Remove from Our Self-Care Toolkit | Power in Aligning Our Decisions to Our Beliefs Many of us engage in self-sacrificing behaviours because we've been taught that we'll be held in higher esteem if we do so. So for the sake of the whole we tolerate mistreatment, we allow our feelings to be invalidated, and we stay quiet. We are silent in situations where we want to be vocal,...

3 Ways to Incorporate Self-Care Into Your Day | Treating Self-Care as a Lifestyle and Not a Reward A lot of times we think of self-care and we think about those moments where we spoil ourselves once in a while. It's time we stop thinking of self-care within the frame of treating ourselves to something special, or spoiling ourselves. Self-care needs to be a priority for you and your well-being....

Understanding Trauma-Informed Conscientiousness | How Survival Changes the Way We Choose to Show Up An instant has the power to change someone. Surviving trauma, regardless of your survivor's story, will shift the way you view the people, places, and situations in your life. Most importantly, surviving trauma will change the way you orient, and the way that you show up as you find your balance...

Creating a Safety Plan When Going No Contact with Toxic Relationships | Learning to Prioritize Self Planning before action (when possible) is a critical step not to be taken lightly when going no contact. Breaking free from toxic relationships will be the best choice you'll ever make for yourself, while also being a difficult decision to execute without a plan. Power is never lost without a ba...

Helpful Ways to Cope with Helplessness | Challenging Limiting Beliefs and Harnessing Inner Alignment We've all at some point experienced a sense of helplessness. Whether it was a result of our sense of our own ability to perform or to execute, or if it was being faced with a situation that seems beyond our ability to cope. We're never as helpless as we think. Helplessness can be learned th...

How to Avoid an Identity Crisis by Reframing Your Sense of Self | Finding Growth in Life Transitions Not every moment is created equal. All to say, we can expect that pivotal moments will both challenge and inform our evolving sense of self, often in unexpected ways. Sometimes the only thing that is painfully clear, is that we aren't, and no longer identify with who we once were. Oftentimes du...

Extract the Value from Diversity | How Differences in our Problem Solving Abilities Change the Game All of us have a quirk, belief, or interest that makes us different. Oftentimes we spend so much time minimizing the differences that we have from one another, trying to blend in - that we lose sight of our own uniqueness. We hear the word diversity and we immediately think, "other." We as...

Seeing the Value in What Sets Us Apart | Why Develop the Skill to Build Connections on Differences? Many of us learned at a young age to be wary of what and whom, was different. While the differences that we were cautioned about will differ based on our lived experiences, the outcome is the same. We've learned to fear what is foreign to us. Which often translates as fearing what stands to cont...

Developing Mental Mastery | 3 Building Blocks that Discipline Your Mind Against Intrusive Thinking There are tactical tips that you can put into practice that will enable you to manage through intrusive thoughts. It simply takes practice. Just like you wouldn't expect to cultivate strength without building muscle, or expect to eat healthier without a fitness plan, you cannot expect to develop...

Learning to Quiet Intrusive Thoughts | How to Reclaim Power Knowing that You are Not Your Thoughts Maybe people don't recognize the distance that exists between them and the thoughts they entertain. We judge and criticize ourselves for thoughts that we know are not welcomed. Truth is, unless we're consciously following a stream of thinking, thoughts reserve the right to just pop into our h...

The Power of Kindness in Attracting the Energy You Want & Counting the Energy that Doesn't Serve You Energy Management requires you to tap in the energy that serves you best. Rarely has anyone successfully navigated through life operating through a fear-based model, because we attract the energy we focus on. Which means we need to discipline ourselves to focus on what we want, rather than...

What to do When Feeling Intimidated? | Dos & Don'ts that Maintain Alignment With Your Highest Self What's the best way to respond to intimidation? Rise. Rise to the occasion. Whether it's an exciting new opportunity, a new hobby or activity that you're curious about, or whether it's your (un)friendly neighbourhood bully, intimidation is the feeling that is calling you to st...

Never mistake being new to the conversation as a translation as having nothing of value to contribute to the conversation - especially when the opposite is so true. Any questions? Send us an email: inquiries@spe-projectpurpose.com #education #silenceisviolence #speakup 0:00 - 2:30 - Intro 2:30 - 9:30 Being New to the Conversation 9:30 - Wrap Up Any questions? Send us an email: inquiries@spe-projec...

Developing the Courage to Speak Up | Leveraging Your Voice on Concerns & Issues that Matter to You Many of us shut ourselves down before anyone else has the opportunity to criticize us. We are in effect, our own worse critic and discount the contribution we stand to make on conversations that require a diversity of perspectives. There are many global issues take place that require all of us to...

Why Protecting Your Feelings Enables Authenticity | How Objectivity of Care Creates Healthy Distance Not caring is a form of self-care. To be specific, not giving everyone and the opinions they have, equal care and consideration is a key skill to enable you to preserve your mental health. In a world where cancel culture reigns supreme, it is difficult to deny the power of a word, belief, or opinio...

Focusing on Being Comfortable in Your Own Skin & Disregarding the Projections of Shame from Others A tell-tale sign that someone is operating from a place of shame? It's blame. Or, more often, the assumptions, criticisms and judgments that people feel inclined to place on you. When they say that what people have to say about you, gives you more insight into their inner world - that's n...

3 Ways to Tell if You are Ready to Bounce Back from Burn Out | Getting Back to Living on Your Terms You've done the brave thing and given yourself a much needed time-out. For many people, this is a massive, celebratory first step - so when do you jump back in the rink? Often times we find ourselves getting back to the arduous and hectic schedules not because we're ready, but because we are...