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758. Instead of reacting with fight, flight, or freeze, some parents respond with fawning, a pattern of people-pleasing and appeasement in the face of conflict. As a fawning parent, you might prioritize maintaining harmony and avoid confrontation, even if it means sacrificing your own needs or values. This can make it difficult to assert boundaries, collaborate, or hold space for your child's emot...

712. Is your child a picky eater or are you dealing with something more serious? Dr. Nanika Coor explains four common eating disorders and how parents can help kids who are struggling with eating disturbances.  Find a transcript here. Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243. Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter ,...

656. In parenting and in life, you will experience countless challenging and upsetting situations that you just can't change. Radical acceptance can help you cope. Dr. Nanika Coor explains what radical acceptance is, how it can help when parenting gets hard, and 7 steps to putting it into action. Find a transcript here. Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com...

701. Hoping to make some positive change in your parent-child relationship in the new year? Dr. Nanika Coor offers some ways to move toward becoming a more connected parent this year!  Find a transcript here. Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243. Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter , or subscribe to the Quick...

816. Should you help your family set New Year’s resolutions, or does that pressure do more harm than good? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor explores how to approach the new year through the idea of right relationship, offering parents grounded ways to reflect, reset, and grow together without shame, coercion, or perfectionism. Links:  www.brooklynparenttherapy.com https://www.instagram.com/bkparen...

728. Nonviolent communication, or NVC, is a communication strategy—and also a lens through which you can look at life—that can be used to connect with others and resolve conflict in a respectful and compassionate way. Find a transcript here. Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243. Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Tw...

815. Why do kids sometimes get defensive, shut down, or lash out after they’ve made a mistake, broken a rule or hurt someone’s feelings? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor explains how to compassionately help children notice their impact without shame, while helping them take meaningful steps toward repairing relationship ruptures through the action-based making of amends.  Sources: McCloud, C. (201...

814. Is making sure your child isn’t a doormat feel fraught with worry about them being “too aggressive”? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor guides parents through the foundational skills of respectful self-advocacy and how to cultivate them in your child, helping your child move through social challenges with more self-understanding and ease. Related Project Parenthood Episodes: Navigating the "cri...

Have you ever felt embarrassed because your child forgot to say "thank you"? This week, Dr. Nanika Coor answers a listener email and gives you 8 tips for helping your child develop gratitude. (Originally published November 21, 2021.) Project Parenthood is hosted by Dr. Nanika Coor. Find a transcript here.  Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voi...

813. Does your child’s screen use spark tension when you get together with extended family? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor unpacks why family gatherings can amplify digital-device disagreements and how understanding your child’s needs can help you set boundaries with more clarity and calm. Learn how to protect your child’s unique needs and stay connected when opinions collide. Related Project Pa...

812. In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor explains how unresolved relational trauma can fuel a parent's reactive anger, and how understanding your own nervous system can help you respond to your child in more connected, calm, and intentional ways. Sources: https://cptsdfoundation.org/what-is-complex-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-cptsd/   Related Project Parenthood Episodes: How to Manage Your Anger a...

811. When your ADHD child is struggling, do you worry they’re acting out on purpose? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor unpacks the concept of executive function deficits in young people, and how shifting your perspective from "won't" to "can't" can help you respond to big emotions and challenging routines with more compassion and connection. Related Project Parenthood Episodes: Should you punish yo...

Do your mornings feel like chaos on repeat? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor guides parents through creating calmer, more connected morning routines - even when executive function challenges, sibling conflict, and real-life pressures make smooth starts feel impossible. Learn practical tools for cooperation, compassion, and ease before your day even gets going. Related Project Parenthood Episodes:...

809. Why does the urge to intervene feel so overwhelming? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor unpacks the anxiety and external pressures that fuel your need to "fix" your child's life - and how noticing your own internal experience can help you respond with respectful, connected, and liberating presence instead. Find a transcript here. Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickandd...

808. Why does asking about your child's day often result in a frustrating "Fine" or "Nothing"? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor unpacks why kids of all ages sometimes don’t share much, what can lie beneath parent-child conversational disconnection, and how to build micro-rituals that foster more collaborative and connected communication. Find a transcript here. Have a parenting question? Email Dr....

807. Have you ever worried that your child’s “laziness” means they’ll never reach their potential? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor explores how internalized messages shape the way you understand motivation, and how you can replace frustration with curiosity and compassion, helping you and your child  thrive with more connection and self-trust. Sources: Laziness Does Not Exist By Devon Price Relat...

806. Why does playing with your child sometimes feel more draining than delightful? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor unpacks why shared play can stir up old wounds from your own upbringing—and how noticing those tender spots can help you respond with more connection, presence, and ease, even when it feels hard.  Sources: Raising a Secure Child: How Circle of Security Parenting Can Help You Nurture...

805. Have you ever worried that wanting your child to be “great” might actually come from oppressive messages you’ve absorbed? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor explores how internalized ideas of excellence can show up in parenting, especially for BIPOC folks and parents raising marginalized kids—and offers compassionate reframes to help you nurture your child’s worth and liberation.  Find a transc...

804. Does your PDA (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy) kiddo lash out at their siblings leaving you feeling helpless and stressed? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor explains what’s really happening beneath the surface of PDA meltdowns and why they often target siblings. She shares internal practices to steady yourself, external strategies to protect kids, and compassionate ways to reframe these intense...

802. In this episode Dr. Nanika Coor explores how parents can balance safety and independence as tweens begin traveling to and from school on their own. Learn why this milestone can feel so stressful, what factors influence a child’s readiness, and how to prepare together without resorting to fear or control.  Find a transcript here. Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickand...

802. In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor and psychologist Dr. Kahlila Robinson tackle the challenging topic of self-regulation for kids. They offer compassionate advice for parents on how to shift from seeing a child's emotional outburst as "misbehavior" to seeing it as a sign they're struggling, and discuss how to use repair moments to strengthen your relationship. Find a full transcript here. Have...

801. In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor guides parents navigate back-to-school stressors with the Heard, Hugged, Helped framework. This episode offers parents a roadmap for decoding their child's needs to respond skillfully, not react regretfully. Discover how to use co-regulation and conscious choices to build trust and connection during tough transitions. Find a full transcript here. Have a parent...

Dr. Nanika Coor welcomes Dr. Khadijah Cyril, a licensed psychologist specializing in children's mental health, to Project Parenthood. Dr. Cyril shares insights on racial and cultural identity development, emphasizing the importance of fostering a positive self-image in children. The conversation covers methodologies like cognitive behavioral therapy, stages of racial identity development from Dr....

In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor guides parents through a common and confusing challenge: when kids seem to reject emotional intimacy and vulnerability. Learn about the cultural and social factors that contribute to this "aversion to mushy feelings" and get a "toolkit" of five practical, compassionate strategies. Find out how to model healthy emotional expression, use language that externalizes fe...

In this episode, Dr. Coor offers guidance for parents raising boys to reject toxic masculinity. Learn how to challenge limiting stereotypes, foster emotional openness, model healthy behavior, and navigate external pressures so you can raise sons who embrace authentic and compassionate expressions of masculinity. Find a full transcript here. Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@q...