Married to Addiction

Sounds like an oxymoron, doesn't it? How can you grow when you feel like you're constantly being pulled under by a tidal wave?? I was there for SO long. Just angry and resentful and trying to get through the days.  Growing in my faith or in any other kind of way was the furthest thing from my mind. But now that I'm on the other side of it I can see so clearly how much it ended up chang...

'My husband keeps choosing alcohol over me.' That is what I thought for a long time and it drastically affected my marriage, my approach to my husband's addiction, and my psyche. This is a common thought for wives of alcoholics, but today I want to share with you why I now 100% believe that choice as it relates to alcoholism is a myth. In this episode I'll talk about how I arrived...

I didn't want to hear it!!! The notion that *I* needed 'help' or recovery was downright ridiculous to me when my husband was deep in addiction. But then things got harder and harder for me. I started having trouble at work, physical issues, and full-blown mental breakdowns. I finally realized that I was sick too. In this episode we will talk about three signs that you need recovery too...

We all know that we should try to 'love as Jesus loved', but I don't think there is any circumstance that makes that more difficult than being married to an alcoholic. Between the defensiveness and empty promises and personality changes, our addicted husband came sometimes make feeling love or compassion a true challenge. But how do we do that in spite of all that? And why should we ev...

We hear we should do things like 'accept what we cannot change', 'detach with love' and 'create healthy boundaries'. But when you're stuck in the middle of the storm of addiction with someone it can feel almost impossible to do those things sometimes. That's because there is a super critical step that needs to come BEFORE we try to do those things, but no one ever t...

One of the statements that I think is SO true for most wives of alcoholics is 'You don't know what you don't know.'. I did everything wrong for the first couple of years that my husband was struggling with addiction. But I absolutely did not know that at the time!  I thought I was 'helping', and I tried a million different things and a million different tactics. After learn...

I asked myself a lot of questions at the beginning of my journey as the wife of an alcoholic. Did my husband really have a problem with alcohol or was I just being over-sensitive? Were the things that I was noticing fairly common, or not so much? Had I just become more aware of how much he was drinking, or had it actually increased? Just how much was 'a lot' of alcohol per day? Did other p...

If you're like me maybe you've looked into some of the resources and organizations that offer help for family members of alcoholics, but they've missed the mark for you in one way or another. That's how Married to Addiction was born. I created it to 'fill in the gaps' that I found elsewhere.  In this episode I'll let you know how Married to Addiction is different, and h...

I'm so thrilled to bring the 'Married to Addiction' podcast to you.  It is for the wife of an alcoholic by the wife of an alcoholic, and my prayer is that it will serve as a great source of encouragement, support, and help for you. In this initial episode I will be giving you a brief intro into who I am, as well as a bit about my story and what you can expect from this podcast going fo...