Adventurous Polyamory

Send a text We be loyal scouting polyamorists! Note: the mic on this new iPad is very sensitive; you can hear my dog gently snoring in the background. Visit me on Patreon for the wilder stuff: patreon.com/AdventurousPolyamory Get in touch: unlimitedheartcoaching@gmail.com IG: unlimitedheartfreedom Support the show

Send a text In the jungle, the mighty jungle, the cougar hunts tonight. The Beauty Myth, by Naomi Wolfe. I am not kidding, it’s a blockbuster of a book. How Stella Got Her Groove Back,  by Terry McMillan. I believe there is also a movie based on this novel. I do not ref this in the episode but it's quite apropos. Read my noble words: https://wordpress.com/home/unlimitedheartcoaching.com Visit...

Send a text First star to the right, and on til morning. Are you Peter Pan, never growing up? Get in touch: unlimitedheartcoaching@gmail.com IG: unlimitedheartfreedom Fancy Jargon: Metamour: your sweetie's other sweetie. Solo Polyamory: when you are polyamorous but you have no "primary" partner or nesting partner. You alone are running your love life. Support the show

Send a text NOOOO!! Not. . . the sex towels!!! John Gottman, who coined the phrase "the 4 horsemen of relationship apocalypse," has written several books, including Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, and The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. His work did not save my marriage. However it did improve my other relationships.  Read my noble words: https://wordpress.com/home/unlimitedhea...

Send a text There's no pirates in this episode. Sorry. But there are a lot of red and yellow flags. Shout out to the awesome guys who do the Waving The Red Flag podcast! It's got nothing to do with this episode! But I just love them. Read my noble words: https://wordpress.com/home/unlimitedheartcoaching.com Visit me on Patreon for the wilder stuff: patreon.com/AdventurousPolyamory Get in...

Send a text I kissed a girl and I liked it. Or did I? Did she? WTH just happened here anyway? Here’s a couple handy articles about comp-het, performative bisexuality, and hegemonic masculinity for those who want a deeper dive: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compulsory_heterosexuality https://www.bitchmedia.org/post/visibility-performing-bisexuality-katy-perry-lowndes-music-feminism https://en.wikip...

Send a text Peg-Leg Pete is IN THE HOUSE yo. Shout out to Anita Wagner, in whose MeetUp I posted my first event waaaay back in 2014. Read my noble words: https://wordpress.com/home/unlimitedheartcoaching.com Visit me on Patreon for the wilder stuff: patreon.com/AdventurousPolyamory Get in touch: unlimitedheartcoaching@gmail.com IG: unlimitedheartfreedom Fancy Jargon: I like to make up names for pe...

Send a text Divine fire, Old Scratch, racism, rudeness gets the results it truly deserves. It’s Bible time, y’all! The text I reference is 2 Kings 1.2-1.18. The translation I prefer is the Jewish Theological Seminary translation. I do not currently have a favorite New Testament to recommend, as I have not developed enough expertise in that text to give myself airs just yet.  Read my noble words: h...

Send a text Baby, I need your lovin/Got to have all your lovin/Baby I need your lovin toniiiiightt Read my noble words: https://wordpress.com/home/unlimitedheartcoaching.com Visit me on Patreon for the wilder stuff: patreon.com/AdventurousPolyamory Get in touch: unlimitedheartcoaching@gmail.com IG: unlimitedheartfreedom Fancy Jargon: Not this month. Go look up St. Valentine though. He is not that...

Send a text There's no Robinson Caruso to give you the D on this island. Worst island ever.  Read my noble words: https://wordpress.com/home/unlimitedheartcoaching.com Get in touch: unlimitedheartcoaching@gmail.com IG: unlimitedheartfreedom Fancy Jargon: Not this month.  The Amazon, for new folks, is my boyfriend John's other girlfriend. I adore her. Support the show

Send a text John & I look back and forward together. And make jokes. Read my noble words: https://wordpress.com/home/unlimitedheartcoaching.com Get in touch: unlimitedheartcoaching@gmail.com IG: unlimitedheartfreedom Fancy Jargon:  "Shmuel" is the original Hebrew pronunciation of the name "Samuel." Support the show

Send a text This week is pretty heavy. Bear with me. Death is a door we all have to pass through eventually. Read my noble words: https://wordpress.com/home/unlimitedheartcoaching.com Get in touch: unlimitedheartcoaching@gmail.com IG: unlimitedheartfreedom Fancy Jargon:  Polycule, meaning the extended family unit of polyamorous relationships including your own partners, their partners, the partner...

Send a text We have met the enemy, and he is us. Read my noble words: https://wordpress.com/home/unlimitedheartcoaching.com Get in touch: unlimitedheartcoaching@gmail.com IG: unlimitedheartfreedom Fancy Jargon: Polycule: a portmanteau of “polyamory” and “molecule,” intended to express the idea of a larger family/romantic unit. This may take any number of configurations and does not necessarily mea...

Send a text Who’s in charge of what? And why is it pissing me off so much? Read my noble words: https://wordpress.com/home/unlimitedheartcoaching.com Get in touch: unlimitedheartcoaching@gmail.com IG: unlimitedheartfreedom Fancy Jargon: Primary bedroom: we used to call this the master bedroom. But then we realized that the idea of masters is highly problematic. And that historically, the bedroom o...

Send a text Dead-naming! Divine wrath! A bit of casual blasphemy! John and I talked so much on this topic and of course there was about 45 minutes of stuff I couldn’t even use because I suck at technology. This episode is not specifically about only polyamory; I think it’s time to normalize all of us having access to our own faiths and not tolerate anyone pushing us out of something that truly bel...

Send a text I don't play games. OR DO I? Link to  The Yoopers' Second Week of Deer Camp: https://youtu.be/3Q57eWfaZmM Read my noble words: https://wordpress.com/home/unlimitedheartcoaching.com Get in touch: unlimitedheartcoaching@gmail.com IG: unlimitedheartfreedom Support the show

Send a text You can take the girl out of the ivory tower, but you can’t take the ivory tower out of the girl, as it turns out. In this episode I veer into radical territory. Shout out to my autocorrect which actually knew how to spell "bourgeoisie" If you want to hear a more nuanced discussion about cleaning your sweetie’s place, the Benjamin Franklin effect, and all that sort of thing,...

Send a text You can't be in polyamory long before you start hearing about the veto. Let's take a closer look at this contentious tactic. References: Here’s Jocko Willink giving an epically manly TED Talk: https://youtu.be/ljqra3BcqWM *I am a giant fan of Jocko. However, sadly, embracing his doctrine of taking full responsibility still did not save my marriage. Perhaps I’d have been a bit...

Send a text Honestly it's possible this episode was just an excuse for me to say "butts" a lot. Books: Folks, This Ain’t Normal, by Joel Salatin. He’s written a bunch but this is the one I read and it ranges over a very broad swath of subjects.  The Art of War, by Sun Tzu. I bet we’ll be revisiting this bad boy soon. And for the young at heart, I recommend Maurice Sendak's book...

Send a text Can we call modern polyamory a matriarchal system? Who's really "ruling" the pride anyway? Contact me: unlimitedheartcoaching@gmail.com IG: unlimitedheartfreedom Books referenced in this episode: Sex At Dawn, by Cacilda Jetha and Cristopher Ryan. I admit with shame that I do not know how to pronounce the first author's name and so I chose not to mangle it out loud i...

Send a text Because you should be like NASA, and only get busy with people who are as smart as physicists and as sexy as astronauts. Get in touch: Email: unlimitedheartcoaching@gmail.com IG: unlimitedheartfreedom Support the show

Send a text A pithy rundown of some polyamory dynamics to avoid. CW: emotional abuse Get in touch with me: unlimitedheartcoaching@gmail.com IG: unlimitedheartfreedom Support the show

Send a text This week I'm here to give you the dope about the BIG D. It's been a while coming y'all. Contact me: unilimitedheartcoaching@gmail.com IG: unlimitedheartfreedom Contact Mike Sinay the Awesome Divorce Lawyer (MD Local peeps only) msinay@familylawattys.com Tell him I sent ya! Support the show

Send a text The most beautiful buzzsaw you'll ever cram your face into. Has ANYONE succeeded at this quest? Get in touch:  Unlimitedheartcoaching@gmail.com IG: unlimitedheartfreedom Support the show

Send a text It's been a wild month and my mind is kind of all over. Here you are, my thoughts on our constant visibility in polyamory and life in general. Get in touch: unlimitedheartcoaching@gmail.com IG: unlimitedheartfreedom Support the show