You Finishing Well

When does a lesson finally stick? In this episode of You Finishing Well , Tim Owen talks about the point where real change begins—when we become sufficiently disturbed enough to stop repeating the same mistakes. Whether you’re dating, divorced, remarried, or already married, this episode challenges you to take an honest look at yourself. What needs to change? What are you hiding? What do you need...

Why did I write my book and start this podcast series? Because I failed in my first marriage and eventually realized something hard: much of the problem was me.  In this episode of You Finishing Well , I talk about selfishness, impatience, unhealthy patterns, and the importance of becoming the right person before obsessing over finding the right person.  Whether you’re dating or already married, s...

If you are dating with marriage in mind, you need to look deeper than feelings and chemistry. Do you believe the same things about God? Are you equally yoked? Do you both see marriage as a covenant? Do you share enough values, interests, goals, and ways of living to build a life you will still enjoy decades from now? In this episode, we talk about why the foundation matters long before marriage, w...

What’s the most important question to ask yourself when you’re dating? And what’s the most important question if you’re already married? It turns out they’re remarkably similar — and most of us never stop to ask either one. In this first episode, Tim introduces the framework at the heart of the whole series: the Marriage Pyramid — four foundational ingredients to an extraordinary marriage, first d...

What actually makes a marriage last — until death parts you? And if you are dating, how do you know they are the right one and that you will not experience heartbreak in the future?  After almost thirty years of marriage and decades of counseling couples, Tim and Wendy have found that an extraordinary marriage comes down to just four foundational ingredients. They call it the Marriage Pyramid. The...

Releasing someone isn’t the failure of your love.  Sometimes it’s the honest end of it. This episode is for anyone carrying a name that puts a weight in their chest, the family member, the friend, the one who won’t turn the lens around.  We’ll find the difference between a fortress and a filter, look at the father who let the prodigal go and still kept the porch light on, and discover that guardin...

Most people want saving. Almost nobody wants hell, if it’s real.  But calling Jesus Lord is a completely different decision, because now you have to change, follow Him, and learn to fall in love with Him.  Tim shares about a relative he dearly loves who says plainly, “I just don’t have the faith to believe such a story.” Smart. Successful. Wise. And to them, the cross is foolishness.  If you can’t...

Why does it seem like the same conflict keeps resurfacing no matter how many times you try to fix it?  In this episode, Tim explores why what feels minor to you can feel enormous to someone else, and why real repair takes both people, not just one.  Drawing from Scripture, honest self-examination, and hard-won counseling experience, Tim unpacks what it actually means to love, forgive, and rebuild...

When do you speak up, and when do you stay silent?  Jesus said to first remove the log from your own eye before helping someone with the speck in theirs. In this episode, we explore the tension of loving people who seem blind to their own patterns and mistakes.  We’ll talk about hurt, wisdom, relationships, and why some people are firefighters—showing up in a crisis—while others are gardeners who...

Have you ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same patterns — even when you know better?  Maybe the problem isn’t the obvious sins. Maybe it’s the ditches on either side of the road you actually want to be on.  In this episode, Tim unpacks a simple saying that diagnoses one of the most common struggles in the human experience: for every mile of road, there are two miles of ditches.  And the...

What if you were completely convinced God was about to bless your life — and you were dead wrong? That’s the story of a man named Micah in Judges 17. He built a shrine. He hired a priest. He used all the right religious language. And he stood back and said, “Now I know the Lord will be good to me.” And the story just… stops. No blessing. No resolution. Just a man with a homemade religion — and eve...

What if the thing quietly destroying your life doesn’t look dangerous at all? Samson was set apart by God before birth, supernaturally gifted, called to something extraordinary. But he had a pattern of drifting toward what felt good and assuming God’s strength would cover him no matter how far he wandered. It did, until it didn’t.  In this episode, Tim Owen walks through one of the most sobering s...

Have you ever caught yourself saying — or heard someone close to you say — “the universe has my back”?  What if the universe doesn’t actually know your name?  This episode takes a honest, compassionate look at why so many people are reaching toward something cosmic, what they’re really searching for, and why the answer they’re looking for is far more personal than they think. Check out our YouTube...

Millions of people are forming their beliefs about eternity based on someone else’s near-death experience.  It feels real. It sounds peaceful. But feelings are not the standard for what happens after you die — God’s Word is.  In this episode, Tim Owen walks through what Jesus, Paul, and the Scriptures actually say about the moment after death. The answer is immediate, it is final, and it changes e...

Your fears, your calendar, and your bank account are telling a story about what you truly worship.  In this episode, Tim Owen walks through one of the most sobering warnings in Scripture and brings it home to a simple, life-changing question: are you organized around what’s temporary — or what lasts forever?  Because there’s an altar worth building. And it changes everything.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ Check...

What does it actually take to forget God?  Less than you think. In this episode of You Finishing Well, Tim Owen unpacks one of the quietest and most dangerous spiritual traps we face — not atheism, not rebellion, but simple, comfortable forgetfulness.  Drawing from Moses’ final warning to Israel in Deuteronomy and a raw, unforgettable moment in Luke 7, Tim explores why blessing so easily becomes b...

What happens to you the moment after you die?  It’s the question most of us spend our entire lives avoiding — but it’s the one that matters most. In this episode, Tim walks through the words Jesus spoke in Luke chapter 6, unpacking what is arguably the greatest life wisdom ever spoken. But this is more than a better way to live — it points straight at eternity and asks the one question that good l...

Most marriages don’t end with a blowup — they end with a slow fade.  In this episode, Tim Owen gets brutally honest about what actually destroys relationships, what quietly holds them together, and the four foundational things most couples were never taught.  He draws from his own failed marriage, years of counseling real couples, and decades of biblical study to get at the root of why so many rel...

Are you doing the right things for the wrong reasons?  In this episode, Tim Owen tackles one of the most uncomfortable questions a person can face — the gap between what you show the world and what’s actually going on inside.  Using real stories from Scripture, Tim exposes the danger of external obedience with internal rebellion, and challenges you to ask the one question that changes everything: ...

We trained for almost everything that matters in life — reading, writing, careers, cooking, even driving.  So why do we insist on winging the things that matter most?  Relationships. Character. How we love, parent, and grow into the people we were designed to be. In this episode, Tim Owen shares how memorizing 13 VHS sales tapes under threat of being fired turned him into a Fortune 500 Corporate T...

What if the busiest person you know is also the most absent? We wear our schedules like a badge of honor — but at what cost?  In this episode, Tim shares real stories of real people who ran out of “later,” a practical tool for evaluating the six most important areas of your life, and the five words a dying man said that changed everything. If your calendar is full but your soul feels empty, this o...

Your Body Is Not the Last Word What should a person with a serious, life-threatening diagnosis be thinking and feeling? And what about the people who love them — the spouse, the adult child, the friend who doesn’t know what to say but showed up anyway?  In this episode, Tim Owen gets honest about what he’s learned from the inside — from his own battles with prostate cancer and leukemia, from sitti...

What does an obscure Old Testament law about mixed fabric have to do with your dinner conversation last night? More than you think. In this episode, Tim digs into why we argue theology where we feel resistant — and what it really means to be set apart in rooms that weren’t expecting you. Challenging for believers. Intriguing for everyone else. Check out our YouTube Channel “You Finishing Well” and...

You think you’re hard to figure out. You’re not. Your words, your money, your friends — and even your isolation — are broadcasting exactly who you are whether you mean to or not. In this episode, Tim Owen unpacks what Jesus, the apostle Paul, and Christian psychiatrist Dr. Curt Thompson all agree on: the interior life always finds a way to the surface. And the most penetrating scan available isn’t...

What God Sees That You’ve Stopped Looking At Most of us have something we’ve gotten really good at ignoring. Not a headline-worthy failure — just something quiet. Something we manage instead of address. Something that lives just beneath the surface. In this episode, Tim Owen takes an unexpected detour through Leviticus 13 and finds a spiritual principle that cuts straight to the heart of how hones...