The Single Spark with Chantelle the Coach (previously The Single Girl's Guide to Life)

Taken from the inspiration of Episode 4, I share a moment I experienced in my personal development journey, when I started to question everything around me.  And one of the things I had to look back at in my past, to work out where I got this skewed understanding of it from, and actually find out what it really meant was “what is love?”. So today, I’ll share with you the theory from Sternberg that...

Welcome to the BRAND NEW episode of the new era of this podcast, The Single Spark.  We say goodbye to The Single Girl's Guide to Life to welcome in a fresh era the The Single Spark. Don't worry - it doesn't mean we're entirely changing. This is still the podcast for singles, but this time we're in our 30s - Chantelle turned 31 this very week and life in your 30s is very di...

Being in your thirties, you might not think the menopause is on your radar just yet... But imagine approaching your forties, noticing changes in your body, and having no clue what's happening. That's what happened to Marie Frost, our special guest from Nutricore Health, who started experiencing perimenopausal symptoms after having a baby. Join us as Marie bravely shares her deeply person...

Buckle up, because today's episode of Single Girls Guide to Life lays out the complex jounrey of getting divorced in your 20s, with a deep dive into the emotional, legal, and personal growth aspects of navigating through a divorce at this age. I tackle the unique challenges it presents, and the need for the divorcing couple's cooperation for their well-being, whilst sharing the brighter...

What if one day you woke up, and instead of feeling like a lonely singleton, you were absolutely in love with your single life? Today, we take you through my personal journey from navigating the trials and tribulations of the dating scene to stepping into a relationship and eventually becoming a step-mum.  Join us as we crack open my story of evolving from an independent single gal to a step-mum....

Breakups can be incredibly challenging, leaving us feeling lost, hurt, and overwhelmed. In this episode, I want to assure you that you're not alone. Join me as I recount my personal journey, exploring the twists and turns that come with post-breakup life. Together, we'll unpack the heartbreak, confusion, and anger that often accompany a breakup. I'll share practical strategies and i...

Feeling stuck in your love life, or struggling to find the confidence to believe in yourself and your relationships? Join us for our special 100th episode, where I tackle the complex world of self-confidence, trust, and beliefs. I'll debunk the myth that you're "too old" to find love, and help you question and challenge limiting beliefs that have been holding you back. Together...

In this eye-opening episode of The Single Girl's Guide to Life, I challenge the prevalent dating advice that suggests loving yourself first before entering a relationship.  Join me as I explore why the notion of self-love first is inaccurate and potentially limiting in the context of dating.  Delve into the importance of receiving love and validation from others as a crucial aspect of persona...

Welcome to a special episode of The Single Girl's Guide to Life! Today, we're diving deep into the world of single life and tackling the anxiety that comes with it. In honour of Mental Health Awareness Week, we're exploring empowering strategies to manage anxiety and find inner peace. Join me as I share my insights on handling the anxieties of being alone, dating, and the outcomes o...

Are you single and looking for some inspiration to transform your life? In this episode, I've curated a list of 5 must-read books that will help you improve your mindset, gain new perspectives, and develop positive habits around being single. These are hand-selected books, all of which I've read, that will help you in the early stages of becoming single. From addressing your fears around...

In this episode of The Single Girl's Guide to life, I tackle one of the most hotly debated topics in the dating world - the pros and cons of dating a man with kids. I'll be discussing the unique challenges and benefits that come with dating someone who has children from a previous relationship, thanks to my own internal debate when deciding whether to date someone with children, and now...

As a single, millennial woman, you may be questioning the traditional norms around dating and relationships, and wondering if there are alternative options out there. It's important to explore the options as so many of us are given traditional ideas as a default. And polyamory is one such option, and this episode aims to open up the conversation around this fascinating and diverse relationshi...

Marriage is seen as the ultimate expression of love, the biggest commitment you can make to another and the desire and hope that it will last forever. As someone that's been married and divorced in their 20s, and experienced my own parents getting divorced as a child, marriage has been an interesting subject to explore, and the more I've explored and experienced, the more I've felt...

Back when I first started dating, I had to learn ALL the basics. No matter how much dating content you consume, some of the lessons you learn ahead of time can't easily be applied in the moment. There's how you feel, all the "what if"s and you're dealing with the unpredicatbility of another person you don't really know. And as I soon learnt, dealing with not getting a...

Being in a situationship SUCKS! It's confusing, often frustrating and it's so, so painful. You fall into the trap of getting into a routine with the guy you like, and keep refraining from bringing anything up in case he doesn't feel the same way about you back... but he's friendly and flirty, so surely he likes you, but how can you know?! And before you know it, you're kne...

When you're in your 20's, its easy to get caught up in the "everyone else is doing it, so its what I have to do" mentality. You start believing that because everyone is heading towards the same goals as you, that you're doing everything right. In this moment, Chantelle discusess why you don't have to follow the same path as everyone else in life - and how whether or n...

Theories of attachment styles have been around for decades, originally being developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth in the 1950's. They were originally based on the idea that we develop attachment styles based on our early childhood experiences with our caregivers.  But what if it's not just about our early childhood? What if there are other origins for our attachment styles? In thi...

After reflecting on our time during lockdown, which included virtual dating for some, Chantelle shares her observations of how we had the time to prioritise ourselves and how we should continue to apply that in dating. It's easy to lose sight of our own needs and desires in favour of pleasing a potential future partner however, it's crucial to remember that prioritising ourselves is esse...

Leaving a long-term relationship is SCARY. You don't know what's going to happen once you intiate the ending... and as soon as you do, the doubt creeps in. You wonder if you made the right decision. Or you're on the edge of leaving, trying to make sure you make the right decision as to whether to break up with him or not. I'll share some of the more subtle reasons you were righ...

From the very first episode of The Single Girl's Guide to Life, Chantelle explores the mindset shift you need to enjoy your single life and stop obsessing over dating. She dives into the pressure we experience when we're single to get back out there and date when we've only just got ourselves out of a relationship. It seems like everyone associates being in a relationship with being...

With summer just around the corner, many of you single women are excitedly thinking about planning your solo travel adventures, and as a seasoned solo adventurer, something I maintain whether I'm single or in a relationship, I'm here to help you come up with solo ideas to embrace your independence and adventure. In this episode, I'll share practical ideas insights to help you decide...

In this episode of The Single Girl's Gudide to Life, I'll be discussing the 5 compatibility checks that are crucial for building and sustaining a long-lasting relationship that you can look out for in dating. Join me as I delve into the key factors that make a relationship work, from shared values to communication styles, and provide tips for the elements you need to consider early on. W...

In this week's episode, I share my personal journey of transforming my anxious attachment style into a secure one. After becoming a single, millennial  woman following my divorce, I found I struggled with anxiety in my relationships. I would feel an overwhelming sense of worry when I didn't hear responses, and when someone ended a dating phase with me, I'd find it hard to process. M...

Looking for advice on how to move on from a guy you never even officially dated? In this episode, I delve into the power of the no contact rule and how it can help you let go of someone who was never really yours. I'll provide practical tips and strategies for letting go of unrequited love, navigating mixed signals, and overcoming the emotional attachment to someone you never even dated. By f...

In this episode, I explore the many myths and misconceptions that surround the single life. Contrary to popular belief, being single is not a death sentence; it is a lifestyle choice that can be just as fulfilling and rewarding as being in a relationship. And getting into a relationship isn't the silver bullet for success and happiness either! Looking at the work from author and social psycho...