The Sage Sorority

57 episodes. Identity, love, friendship, philosophy, grief, reinvention, quitting, starting over, loneliness, ambition — and everything in between. This week we're picking up right where we left off. Consider this your orientation to The Sage Sorority, part two. We're covering episodes 26 through 55 — the second chapter of the show, where things got sharper, deeper, and a little more daring. Wheth...

If someone just sent you this episode, welcome. You landed in exactly the right place. This is The Sage Sorority - the podcast that feels less like advice from above and more like the group chat with your most thoughtful friend. Sharp, warm, honest, and always talking to your intelligence, never over it. In this episode, Shantel takes you back through the first 25 episodes of the show (!!!) Not as...

Looking for the foundations? Start with episode 33, How to Be More Interesting Part 1. BTW, consider this the definitive version of episode 033 (!!!) also, I kept saying episode 054, lol sorry! This is episode 055! Most of us are living interesting lives and telling them in the most boring way possible. Part two of one of The Sage Sorority's most popular episodes ever is finally here, and this one...

A few weeks ago I was at a workshop and someone gave me the most annoyingly simple piece of advice I'd ever heard. I asked a published author and paid speaker how to become a published author and paid speaker. She said: speak and write. That's it. I laughed, because I knew she was right. And because I'd been doing both for ten years and still waiting for someone to make it official. This episode i...

Join us IRL: The Gathering — Wine, Women & Conversation Thursday, March 5th | 6pm | London 🎟️ [ https://luma.com/w6fxpy9w ] One year of The Sage Sorority (!!!) 🤍 In this episode, we're unpacking the "high standards" discourse - when your standards are protecting you, and when they might actually be fear in disguise. We're talking attraction, compatibility, capacity, and the questions you need...

We use "jealousy" as a catch-all for anything that feels gross and competitive. But envy and jealousy are actually two completely different experiences. One is giving you useful information about what you want. The other? That's fear wearing a really convincing disguise. Today we're unpacking both, how they show up in friendships (the part nobody talks about), and what to actually do when you feel...

You've been doing everything right—the apps, the events, saying yes to every invite—and you're exhausted. What if the advice to "put yourself out there" is actually making things worse? This week we're talking about the difference between being available and being magnetic, why effort and outcome aren't always correlated in relationships, and when strategic retreat might be the smarter move for yo...

Welcome back to The Sage Sorority. Episode 050 (WOW!) is an Ask a Sage: an AMA-style episode where I answer your anonymous questions (link down below for submission). The questions that came through this time weren't really asking what to do. They were asking how to know. How to read people. How to tell if what you're seeing is the real thing. In this episode, we're covering: → How do you tell the...

Episode 049: The Only Dating Advice You Need January is the busiest month for dating apps and also the peak month for breakups. So before you swipe, I want to give you the one piece of advice I think actually matters. My theory? The only dating advice a woman really needs is knowing when to walk away. That's it. Everything else stems from that. In this episode, I'm talking about why women are cond...

Tomorrow is Quitter's Day y'all! The second Friday of January when 80% of people abandon their New Year's resolutions (crazy!) ...and while the internet is gearing up to tell you to push through, I'm offering a different perspective. What if those resolutions were never yours to begin with? What if the most aligned thing you can do this year is quit the goals that don't actually belong to you? Tod...

Happy New Year, and welcome to 2026. In this episode, Shantel shares an honest New Year’s Day reflection using a “Roses & Thorns” review of 2025, inspired by Tinx and her recent Roses & Thorns episode. The format is simple: a rose is what worked, grew, or surprised you, and a thorn is what hurt, stalled, disappointed you, or stayed unresolved. Shantel walks through her own Roses & Thor...

Christmas Day can bring up more than we expect sometimes... joy, sadness, nostalgia, loneliness, relief and reflection, sometimes all at once (!!!) In this Christmas Day episode of The Sage Sorority , Shantel shares a quiet, honest reflection for women who may be spending Christmas alone or feeling alone, even while surrounded by people. This is not an episode about fixing, reframing or necessaril...

I've been noticing three specific patterns showing up in conversations with women in their 30s and 40s! Patterns around dating, friendships, and how we're actually approaching connection right now. This episode connects some dots you might not have put together yet. Pattern 1: Why meeting new people suddenly feels... different. It's not that we're antisocial. Something else is happening here, and...

This week on The Sisterhood Chronicles, we’re talking about friendship fatigue and friendship compatibility, why so many adult friendships feel draining, confusing or slightly “off”, especially in your 30s and 40s. If you’ve ever felt like the reliable one, the planner, the deep listener, or the “strong friend” in your group and you’re quietly exhausted by it, this episode is for you! I’m breaking...

Welcome to the first episode of December and the final month of 2025 (!!!) Today we’re talking about Soft Girl December : the grounded, grown woman version of softness that helps you move through a loud month with clarity, calm, and intention. December can feel emotionally and socially overwhelming. Plans pile up, money moves fast, expectations rise, and the pressure to “end the year well” can fee...

In today’s episode, I’m sharing the full, unfiltered story of my seven years in London — the quiet beginning, the heartbreak spring, the career resets, the immigration marathon, and the unexpected ways this city has shaped who I’m becoming. If you’re in a season of starting over, moving abroad, rebuilding your life, or simply trying to trust yourself again, this one’s for you. We explore: • The ra...

In this episode of The Sage Sorority , we unpack one of the most important frameworks for modern dating and adult relationships: Attraction vs Compatibility vs Capacity. If you’re a woman in your 30s or 40s navigating dating, partnership, or long-term relationship decisions, this episode is for you. We discuss... • why attraction matters and what it does not tell you • how lifestyle compatibility...

What does philosophy look like when women lead the conversation? In this episode, Shantel opens up a new Sage Sorority series exploring philosophy through a female lens. Unpacking what it really means to “love wisdom” and why so much of traditional philosophy (and self-development) was never built with women in mind. From Aristotle to Audre Lorde, this episode traces how philosophy has evolved and...

sorry, a bit echo-y at some points, no idea what happened there, lol! A lighter, girl-chat-coded AMA with quick-fire Qs up front and meatier reflections at the end. We talk seasons, height, “inactivity” on socials, top 10 products, skincare that actually works, steady happiness and much more! If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a 5-star review on Apple or Spotify — it genuinely helps more wo...

🎙 EPISODE 038 — The Rebrand Era Once you’ve done the inner work, the next step is letting your outer world reflect it. This episode closes out the Autumn Energy series with something tangible... your rebrand era . Not a trend, not a performance but a clear alignment between who you are now and how you move, speak, and show up. We’ll talk about the subtle signals that shape how you’re read in the w...

This week is about getting your actions to match who you actually are now. Not changing everything per se, just making sure your habits reflect the person you've already become. We're covering standards, rhythm, and signals. Basically the small ways you can see growth showing up; in how you talk, what you choose, how you spend your Tuesday. Think of it as a quick check-in before we get into the re...

Autumn’s the season that tells the absolute truth! EG., What’s been growing, what’s faded, what still needs love. This episode is about noticing the results of your effort and also giving yourself permission to start again if you haven’t planted much this year. For me, that’s looked like being more intentional about how I show up on LinkedIn and in real-life networks, and it’s been nice to see tha...

Following last week's Autumn Reset, this episode is about conscious re-entry. Shantel breaks down how to navigate autumn's social season without losing yourself in the chaos (!!!) from avoiding the over scheduling trap to building a social rhythm that actually fills you up. we discuss... Why autumn triggers different social cravings than summer (and the science behind it) The difference between mo...

Autumn isn’t cozy-only. It’s strategy season. In this episode, we kick off The Great Lock-In : the window where city life sharpens, events ramp up, and your best moves (professionally, creatively, socially) actually land. We talk real-world ways to deepen friendships, get visible at work or with your art, and use October/November to plant seeds before December chaos hits. Anchors we hit: Culture s...

Part two of this conversation goes deeper into how we actually express our inner worlds. If part one was about cultivating curiosity, part two is about transmission... storytelling, presence, and the subtle art of charm. It’s about the polish people feel when they walk away thinking, she was magnetic . If you’ve ever wondered how to show up with more spark without performing, this one’s for you! -...