Saying the Unsaid

Vanessa + Sarah talk about Vanessa's follow-up appointment with her surgeon as well as some of the parameters-around and utility-of the "frame" in running a process group.  

Vanessa + Sarah discuss a chapter from Louis Ormont's article titled, "Leader's Role in Resolving Resistances to Intimacy in the Group Setting." 

Vanessa + Sarah reflect on the one year anniversary of Joy's death and how her death was a catalyst to prioritize friendship and a Joy-ful life, including their decision to lead process groups together.

Vanessa + Sarah talk about what it means to Say the Unsaid when something bad happens.  A week prior Vanessa was in a bike accident that resulted in a broken jaw in multiple places and multiple broken teeth.  Sarah flew out to accompany her in the hospital pre- and post- reconstructive jaw surgery. 

Vanessa + Sarah describe process groups as a bunch of animal creatures showing up in their precise animal form, learning about themselves and other creatures by putting as much as possible into words.  

Sarah + Vanessa discuss a second component to learning to take what you want in process groups: finding out if your strategy is working.  

Sarah + Vanessa talk about one of the goals of process groups: learning how to take what you want, and coming to see that that "taking" doesn't necessarily mean "taking-away" from others, but can add to their potential vitality, too. 

Vanessa + Sarah talk about one of the reasons someone might want to participate in a Process Group: to see how others perceive them.  

Sarah + Vanessa talk about group as a metal detector for (often unconscious) protector armor.  

Vanessa + Sarah review some of the ways Saying the Unsaid group participants finished the sentence, "Group is like _____________."  (Part two of two.)

Sarah + Vanessa discuss some of the anticipatory excitement and angst of beginning a brand new process group.  

Vanessa + Sarah review some of the ways Saying the Unsaid group participants finished the sentence, "Group is like _____________."  (Part one of two.)

Vanessa describes to Sarah the landscape of spiritual direction and her experience of being a spiritual director and supervisor of spiritual directors.

Sarah + Vanessa realize they have unconscious ingrained habits around not relating to one another in front of groups and how they hope they can do something new.

Sarah + Vanessa try to describe what a process group is, again.

Sarah + Vanessa wonder about what it would be like if marital vows, or friendship/relationship aspirations, were modeled after process group agreements.

Sarah + Vanessa talk about whether process groups can still be beneficial for people who don't seem to have a hard time "saying the unsaid."

Sarah + Vanessa explore the idea that process groups are a place to practice tolerating being disappointed and, possibly even worse, being disappointing.  

Sarah + Vanessa set out to describe process groups and then get distracted by their own embarrassment. 

In their first episode, Sarah + Vanessa talk about why podcasts and process groups are the worst. 

Sarah + Vanessa begin to answer the question, "Should you always Say the Unsaid?"  Spoiler alert: the answer is no.