Finding Yourself in Motherhood

 We're wired to label everything that happens to us — good, bad, disaster, blessing — often within seconds. But what if that instinct is exactly what keeps us anxious, reactive, and stuck?  In this episode, I share two small stories from my own week. In the first, I left my bag in my husband's car — the one I needed for my pickleball class — and had to swing by his work to grab it, makin...

Today I discussed all the emotions I had surrounding sending my sons on missions. I talk about how we often resist the emotions that don't feel great and we don't allow them to teach us and help us grow. We also use our cell phones to avoid an awkward situations that might cause us to feel an uncomfortable emotion. When we learn to embrace all emotions we have a more complete and incredi...

Today I discussed several of the common thoughts we have around money. I talk about how these thoughts can keep us stuck and make it hard to have a good relationship with money. Two examples are "rich people are greedy" and "there is never enough." I gave examples of Dolly Parton and Kurt Warner to debunk the first thought and then show examples of how there is plenty of money...

Today I talk about expectations vs reality. I give two examples of going through something hard with two of my boys. I show how to close the gap between your expectations and reality in order to clean up the dirty pain that is unnecessary. It is also important to allow ourselves to feel the clean pain that comes along with hard times. I end talking about mourning with those who mourn and how we ca...

Today I discuss how hard things happen in life. We often go through great lengths to try to prevent hard things from happening. I tell a story about a surrogate Mom refusing to have an abortion once she found out the baby she was carrying had a serious heart condition called Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome. I also talked about how my son was born with this same condition so I understand the comple...

I'm back after a long summer break! Today I talked about how we often look to the past and judge how we showed up in life. I talked about how I felt like we had wasted a lot of time in July and how that thought just wasn't serving me. Once I changed my thought I was able to be more creative and come up with some ideas on ways we could serve others. I was able to end our summer vacation w...

What if the biggest thing standing between you and the life you want isn't your talent, your circumstances, or your past — but the way you think about your own abilities? In this episode, we dive into some of the most powerful ideas from Carol Dweck's groundbreaking book Mindset , and explore how a simple shift in perspective can change the way you work, learn, fail, and love. We cover:...

Today's episode focused on some of my thoughts surrounding Mother's Day. I first discuss how Mother's Day can be tricky especially for people who don't feel like they have a good relationship with their own Mom. I give some ideas on some small ways to improve that relationship. Then, I talk about how this day is tricky for some Mom's because they don't believe they ar...

 Are you a worrier? Do you find yourself mentally living in a future full of problems that haven't happened yet — and may never happen? In this episode, we're talking about the very important difference between worrying about the future and preparing for it. Preparation empowers you. Worry just steals your joy. I'm sharing a very personal story about my own struggle with worry over...

Have you ever caught yourself in a thought and immediately decided it meant something was wrong with you? In this episode, we're talking about one of the most common ways women misuse the CTFAR model — and it's not what you'd expect. Instead of using it as the awareness tool it's meant to be, we turn it into a weapon against ourselves. We judge the thought, feel worse, and stuf...

"In the Bible the Israelites witnessed miracle after miracle — and still they complained. Sound familiar? In this episode, we're talking about why we murmur, how it keeps us stuck, and some things you can do to break the habit and start living with more gratitude and peace." 

Have you ever found out about plans you weren't included in and felt that familiar sting? Being left out hurts — but it doesn't have to define you. In this episode, we're breaking down five practical things you can do to feel more included in your relationships and community, and why being intentional about how you show up for others makes all the difference. We also dig into why ex...

Today I talked about a few experiences I've had recently that had me thinking about circumstances. I share how I received a compliment and how it seemed like an automatic reaction to feel happy but when I slowed it down, I realized it was a choice I had to feel happy. Then I shared how when my husband was grouchy, I was struggling to not be grouchy too. Again it felt like an automatic reactio...

I'm back with three more powerful tools to help you feel better from the inside out!  First, we'll talk about the impact of the word "should" — why it quietly creates guilt, shame, and resentment, and what happens when you start removing it from your vocabulary. Next, we'll explore the power of setting goals and how having a clear direction gives you purpose, motivation, a...

 Feeling better isn't just about thinking positive thoughts — it's about learning how to work with your mind instead of against it. In this episode, we dive into three foundational tools to help you improve your emotional well-being and start feeling better from the inside out.  We'll explore how becoming more aware of your thoughts — and being intentional about them — can completel...

 What if everything you've ever believed about your personality isn't actually a fact — it's just a thought you've never questioned? In this episode, we're diving deep into what personality really is, where it comes from, and why so many of us use it as a reason to stay exactly where we are. We'll talk about personality tests, the labels we put on ourselves as mothers...

In this episode I discuss the idea of making wrong decisions. We often argue with reality when we label a decision as the wrong decision and wish we could go back and change the past. Instead we can learn from the decisions we have made and stop labeling them as wrong. They are always great learning experiences. That's the reason we are here on earth anyway, to learn and to grow.

We all know the relief of cracking open a manual (or going to the YouTube or AI) and finding the fix you need to something that wasn't work correctly — but what happens when we start expecting the people in our lives to come with one too? In this episode, I share how a simple freezer troubleshooting moment got me thinking about the invisible rulebooks we carry around for everyone we know. We&...

When someone hurts us deeply, we often think the hardest part is forgiving them. But what if the real struggle is something else entirely? In this episode, we explore the shame-blame cycle that keeps us stuck — and why forgiving yourself might be the very first step toward forgiving anyone else. If you've ever felt like you "should" be over something by now, or if you've judged...

We all know holding grudges hurts us more than anyone else, so why is it so hard to let them go? In this episode, I explore the paradox of grudges through two powerful metaphors: sheep resisting being sheared even though they'll feel so much lighter afterward, and my daughter's fear of having a painful sliver removed. Just like the sheep and my daughter, we often cling to what hurts us b...

Ready to stop giving your power away? This week I'm reteaching you the CTFAR model—a simple but powerful tool that shows you exactly how you're surrendering your agency and how to reclaim it. Through four relatable scenarios (a mother-in-law who you find judgmental, a child's failing grade, a husband on the couch, and sisters gossiping about your messy house), I'll show you how...

A war was fought in heaven over your agency. People throughout history have died for freedom and choice. Yet we give our agency away every day through grudges and blame. Discover what agency really means, why it's sacred, and how you might be surrendering your power without realizing it. 

In today's episode, I discuss the story in the Book of Mormon about the tree of life and how the fruit of the tree represents the love of God. The scriptures describe it as the "most desirable above all things" and the "most joyous to the soul." I discuss how knowing these things and truly internalizing them brings true confidence. Having confidence helps us show up as our...

Have you ever struggled to believe that Christ's Atonement truly covers your mistakes? While we know intellectually that "infinite means infinite," applying forgiveness to ourselves can feel impossible—especially when our brains convince us that feeling terrible is the only way to prove we've changed. In this episode, we explore why self-forgiveness feels so difficult and how s...

Once you understand that your thoughts are optional and create your emotions, it's tempting to think you should just change every thought that causes negative feelings. But when we struggle to change certain thoughts, we often judge ourselves—layering negative emotion on top of negative emotion. In this episode, I share why curiosity, not judgment, is the key to real transformation. You'...