Dr. Judy WT"Freud"

Satanic ritual abuse is one of the, if not THE horrific forms of abuse. In many cases it is multigenerational and the victim are groomed by their own families which are groomed by their families. Association is a common way of handling pain including associative identity disorder and psychosis. Unprocessed trauma is so deep that many people erect so many defense mechanism and they never get to cau...

Some people are symptoms bares of their family's. They are groomed to be people pleasers. Children are groomed to be people pleasure and also encoded with them horrible messages such as "I am not good enough," or "I am a bad person and don't deserve to live." In order to release the toxic feeling of guilt it is important to go back to the cause. Don't implode, don't explode, unload. Self reflect a...

Even when we can not control our global systems gone wrong, we can be the cause of healing individual which will then allow us to help ourselves and thus evolve other people. By self correcting, and looking in the truth mirror, we can begin to focus on identifying childhood wounds that have shadowed over us and have created us to break down. It is only through our individual healing that we can be...

In order to keep the focus off the narcissistic abusive person, they will blame shift on to you. This is a great way for them to avoid taking responsibility for their abusive behavior and induce you to question yourself. The best way you can prevent yourself from falling victim to their "tricks" is to psycho educate yourself about this narcissistic system as a terrible system gone wrong that affec...

Guilting and shaming are ways to control and manipulate and divert the attention away from the narcissist victim. One way the narcissist will do this is by offering up fake apology that people buy into, that often times lead people into feeling they did something wrong. instead of vice versa. Genuine apologies include a sincere effort to make things right, "I am sorry" is just not enough. Taking t...

Parents have to earn the right to be honored. If they provide you with the emotional and physical nutrients to help you thrive, they deserve to be honored. If they are abusive, neglectful, and unemphatic, don't feel bad about not honoring them. Honor them to the level that you feel is right for you, there are no right answers and in some cases, light connect, no connect, and low connect is appreci...

In these trying times, it is best to concentrate on being the light rather than fighting the darkness. We have splintered off and fractured our humanity and now it is time for use to heal individually to heal globally. It does not take much, yielding in traffic, showing empathy to others that are tired or lonely or hungry. Lets work on ourselves individual to bring it to others and to use our curs...

Enablers of bad behaviors often times come from families that normalize bad behavior. When we are in a toxic environment we sometimes don't know we are in this toxic environment. Part of getting conscious and stopping this enabling behavior is identifying the blueprint that sets us up for tolerating it. It is important as a first attempt to direct our attention towards the behavior as oppose to th...

When your primary caregivers do not create safety and secure attachment, it lays a foundation for a system gone wrong. Parents that enroll their children in becoming parentified adult children will associate love with being smothered and controlled and can easy become love avoidant. Children who have been emotionally abandoned are more prone to become love addicts. Toxic bonds are formed when in t...

In order for us to heal globally, we must heal individually. When we are in the consciousness of selfishness and apathy, we can not create synergy and global healing. Apathy is created when parents put their own needs before the needs of their children. It is a system gone wrong. This system gone wrong creates narcissistic injuries and psychopathic breakdowns. we need to realize that we are all in...

There is a difference between healthy entitlement and unhealthy entitlement. When children get their needs met, and feel OK about asking for their needs, they grow up in an environment of healthy entitlement. When children grow up either spoiled or deprived, they end up getting their needs met by controlling and empowering over others through aggressive or passive aggressive needs. Unhealthy entit...

Anything can reopen a narcissistic childhood wound; a sight, a smell, a dirty look, or name calling. When old wounds are reopening, negative core beliefs, such as: I am not lovable, I am stupid, I don't matter, I'm powerless, is reactivated. Unless we get to the root cause of the problem and dismantle the lies of these negative core beliefs, we can not truly heal at the causal level. Once we face...

An act of omission is usually what a parent doesn't do for the child. An act of commission is what a parent does do for a child. The commission in this case is physical abuse, and emotional abuse. People fail to recognize that just cause acts of omission do not leave bruises, that there are not scares. Often time the bruise is internal and sometimes gets internalized and creates self destruction i...

The demise of narcissism is based on healing. When we are healed we no longer want to play the game. A victim or preparator. Other peoples pain is no longer a gain and perceptually addicted to pain is no longer needed. Toxic bonds are not easy to break, telling people to just get over it and move on is the antithesis of being their enlightened witness. The physical or emotional abuse is painful en...

Some of us look grown up, but inside we are not. Developmental arrest can occur as a result of childhood wounds/trauma. When we don't have healthy parenting and healthy dependence, it is impossible to mature and develop, separate, individuate, and become strong and autonomous. Emotional immaturity creates chaos because internally the person feels dis-regulated and chaotic. resorting to defense mec...

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When we are wounded on a micro level, these wounds express on a macro scale. The reverse of that is true. When we treat each other with human indignity, we create paranoia, angry, and when our voices are not heard to, attuned to, and empathized with; we tend to up the ante into projections and explosions. When we find pathways to healing and connection and mirror each other, we are the light that...

Trust develops in the first few months or years of life. We are lucky enough to primary caregivers who are emphatic, nurturing, and attuned to our feelings, we will develop a sense of trust in ourselves and in the world. When we are wounded in childhood, trust is broken and we can either withdraw or continue to repeat bad patterns of trusting people who hurt and betray us. Once trust is broken, it...

Sometime people choose ineffectual therapists because they are repeating dysfunctional relationships from their family origin. After all, a therapeutic relationship is a relationship and if you have had a poor pattern of choosing dysfunctional relationships in general, please do your research before you choose your healer. A good therapist should a be a good fit for you, someone you feel comfortab...

In order to be vulnerable to narcissist abuse, we must be groomed to need outside validation. When are primary care givers attune to our emotional needs and leave us wanting for mirroring and attunement, we become desperate for this experience. When we lack good boundaries, people can penetrate our emotional walls in order to use and manipulate our need to feel important and be loved. In order to...

Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping it will kill your enemies." -Nelson Mandala. When we trade, it is natural to feel resentment and to have revenge fantasies of that person. IN those times it is important to have an enlightened witness to talk to so that they can act. The ABC's in resentment play out when for example: three people are friends and one friend betrays another, the betrayed...

Covid-19 is real. People are coming down with the virus and some are getting dreadfully ill and even dying. This is the time where we are easily triggered and because of this external threat we fill even more threatened internal as well. The paranoia and the feelings of hopefuls are just some symptoms that many are experiencing. It is normal given the circumstances. What we need at this time is to...

We are all in this together. This is the time to increase our level of empathy and self reflect and self correct so that we can be bigger givers to others. This is the time to we will wish that we took more advantage of the time . I invite you all to take advantage of learning the mind map so that you can have better peace within and share that peace with others. During this time it is important t...