Connected Divergents

This episode is all about demand avoidance, my experiences around it and how I approach it in ways that are helpful for my brain (instead of harmful). Demand avoidance is something that I've struggled with since childhood. For me, the experience is an internal cringe combined with a teen-angsty feeling. Very often, demand avoidance for me causes emotional dysregulation and in extremes, meltdowns &...

Procrastination is a nominalization—which means, it's a verb that we conventionally use as a noun. Taking back the "verb" of procrastination allows us to gain insights about what exactly is holding us back & keeping us stuck. The wisdom that lies within our resistance. This was a challenging podcast to record, not because I didn't want to record it, but because I was incredibly emotionally dys...

Hi friends!! On this episode, I talk about how I approach deconstructing old mindsets & values that we learned from our parents/culture/society, but no longer wish to carry because it's not serving us anymore. *AND* how to adopt & embody new mindsets and values by experimenting with our brain to create concrete evidence to grasp onto that this shift does, in fact, serve us better. Listen i...

In this episode, I share a tool I like to call "Storm Journaling" as an act of radical self-acceptance & unshaming when we experience intense emotional dysregulation. Emotional regulation is a part of our Executive Functioning & has a huge impact on the experience of both ADHD & Autism. I've spent so much of my life trying to "fix" my big emotions, when what I really needed was to lear...

What does it mean to be someone who is a "verbal processor?" And how can we lean into this to help ourselves understand our feelings, challenges, wins, and experiences? This is my love letter to verbal processors!

There are two structural facets when it comes to "time blindness," or, the non-linear perception of time that ADHD'ers experience. The first is external / environmental: If we don't see it, it doesn't exist! The second is internal / emotional: We vaguely know what time it is, but we're so ashamed about being late that we throw ourselves into nervous system dysregulation (flight), and it makes us E...

How to embrace your ping-pong spaghetti brain AND get the things done that you care to get done—we embrace our ping-pong spaghetti nature, because this is how our brains are wired. And instead of fighting against it or trying to change it, we work with it instead. Here are my mindsets & tricks for working through projects and tasks in a way that's practical & accessible for neurodivergent...

Unshaming is a critical skill in any self-acceptance journey, and especially an ADHD acceptance journey. In this episode I walk you through 3 steps to unshame any experience. I talk about how shame is pervasive in the neurodivergent experience and why, and how to take power away from shame and take it back for yourself.  Edit: My brain *COMPLETELY FORGOT* how Kristin Neff is actually pretty ableis...

This episode is all about body doubling!! Here's how to make your body doubling sessions more effective by using co-regulation, and strategies to body double *with yourself* if you're an introvert like me.

Here's what to do BEFORE you dive into using traditional ADHD coaching tools: Investigating harm-reductive and de-shaming mindsets for when the novelty wears off for that new tool, that new visual timer, that new planner.

Today I'm talking about my top "mindset downloads" for overcoming perfectionism and how to break away from your all-or-nothing thinking. (And a cute story about the first time I met Shawn, and how he blew me away on our first date!). 

Hi friends! Welcome to the Connected Divergents Podcast. On this episode, I'm talking about the mindsets & perspectives that are essential in order to create sustainable habits when you have ADHD. It's not about forcing yourself to adhere to the neurotypical rules. It's about creating space to honor your brain, and work with your executive dysfunction instead of always fighting against it. Fol...