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Todd and Cathy discuss Jon Krakauer’s book Missoula: Rape and the Justice System in a College Town and the documentary the Bystander Momen t (ZPR and The Tribe Men’s Group are hosting a free screening of this movie at the Elmhurst Public Library on July 9 th at 7 pm). They discuss the statistics and trauma of sexual assault, and the why it’s important to talk to our kids about entitlement, desire,...

To celebrate their 500 th episode and 8 years of podcasting, Todd and Cathy talk with their daughters Jacey (16), Camryn (14), and Skylar (11) about their experiences with “zen” parenting, and discuss the issues confronting teens and pre-teens today. Todd and Cathy also announce the launch of their new podcast, Pop Culturing – they discuss movies, tv shows and books, and break down key momen...

Cathy and Todd discuss some questions that Lori Gottlieb addresses in her book, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone , and share their own experiences with being the practitioner and the patient. Time Stamps 1:07 Thrifty McSavesalot 3:05 Maybe you should talk to someone 5:22 Do patients ever bore you? 15:06 Are there clients you don’t like? 17:32 What are you like outside the office? 26:22 Welco...

Cathy and Todd discuss how fatherhood is being redefined and expanded as we learn more about ourselves and gender, Team Zen, Taylor Swift and much more… Time Stamps 4:24 Team Zen Clip 6:40 Cleo Wade quote on fathers 24:42 Welcomb- Lice & Removal Kit 45:00 Painting or remodeling needs?   Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid  Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon...

Cathy and Todd discuss Sheryl Paul’s book The Wisdom of Anxiety, and why anxiety is an opportunity to be curious rather than afraid. They discuss how compassion, stillness, and gratitude play a role in understanding and coping with anxiety, and why anxiety is a wound and a messenger. They also discuss the Equal Rights Amendment and how it hasn’t yet been ratified by 38 states. Time Stamps 2:54 Joh...

Todd and Cathy discuss Sister Joan Chittister and her new book The Time is Now: A Call to Uncommon Courage. They discuss civil discourse, why we get our loves out of order, and why we yearn for the genuine. They discuss why self-care is the first step toward bettering our partnerships, parenting, and engagement in community and activism. Time Stamps 20:21 Is your computer backed up?  No?  Checkout...

Todd and Cathy talk with Gemma Hartley, author of Fed Up. They discuss emotional labor, how it affects partnership and parenting, and why it needs to be an evolving and ongoing conversation. Gemma will be taking questions during our Team Zen talk on June 4 th – click here to join Team Zen and participate. Time Stamps 1:49 What is emotional labor? 6:08 “Tell me what to do.”  Helping vs...

Cathy and Todd discuss why the new laws in Alabama and other states strip women of their reproductive and human rights. They discuss how we have to take a wider view and not assume everyone has access to the same resources or education. They discuss how men make these decisions but remove themselves from what should be legislated or criminalized, and how we could refocus our energy to educate and...

Cathy and Todd discuss girls and stress and play clips from Rich Roll’s interview with Under Pressure author Lisa Damour . They also discuss the conflict between James Charles and Tati Westbrook, and how to talk to boys about being a bystander. Time Stamps 1:06 Tribe Men’s Group https://tribemensgroup.org/ 2:40 Bystander Moment Screening on July 9 th –  View Trailer Here 3:50 Women’s Reprodu...

Cathy and Todd talk with Former New York Times reporter KJ Dell’Antonio about her book How to be a Happier Parent. They discuss some common issues that challenge parents, and explore how to decrease the stress and find more joy. Time Stamps Painting or remodeling needs?   Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid  Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” fo...

Todd and Cathy discuss how people and organizations are both light and dark, and why it’s important to recognize this in ourselves. They discuss the You Tube Original Show Cobra Kai , specifically the nostalgia and surprises, and how all the characters are multidimensional and imperfect. They also share Carol Cadwalladr’s TED Talk where she calls out the Titans of Tech and Ricky Henderson’s Baseba...

Cathy and Todd discuss a sports psychologist Dr. Michael Gervais interview on Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard.  They discuss the difference between being the best and being your best. Time Stamps 4:42 Don’t tell your kids they can be president 13:55 Being the best vs being your best 18:38 Friday Night Lights clip 23:42 Ricky Henderson 26:54 Dax on #metoo 38:10 Painting or remodeling needs? ...

Cathy and Todd discuss how to give ourselves permission to change or try something new. They share some wisdom from Oprah’s new book The Path Made Clear , and discuss why trusting and honoring ourselves can strengthen our relationships. Time Stamps 0:23 Painting or remodeling needs?   Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid  Don Wall Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon cod...

Todd and Cathy discuss Greg McKeown’s book Essentialism about how we can do less, but better. They discuss how to figure out what’s essential, how to let go of what we no longer need, and how essentialism relates to KonMari and the movie City Slickers. Time Stamps 3:50 Painting or remodeling needs?   Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid  6:14 Essentialism by Greg McKeown 1:00:26 Te...

Cathy and Todd discuss how parenting experts can appear to contradict each other (even when their information is valid), and why we need to know our family and trust our instincts when making parenting decisions. They discuss Gabor Matè’s interview on the Goop podcast , Lori Gottlieb’s interview on NPR’s Fresh Air , and they share MILCK’s #ICANTKEEPQUIET project. Time Stamps 2:53 Marianne Williams...

Todd and Cathy discuss the lessons from the longest study about happiness from the Harvard Study on Adult Development . They discuss Steven Pinker’s data about the world getting better , and what Bill Gates and Warren Buffet both recommend for a happy life. Time Stamps 3:28 Why the “why” is important 6:15 Basics of the Harvard study 19:17  Boogie Wipes – enter coupon code “zen” f...

Cathy and Todd discuss public shaming and why responsibility, humility, and reflection need to be a part of the process. They discuss John Oliver’s interview with Monica Lewinsky and the college admission scandal . Time Stamps 25:26  Boogie Wipes – enter coupon code “zen” for $5.00 off plus free shipping (>$25 order) 39:19 ImPACT Baseline Test – Enter “zen25&#8221...

Cathy and Todd speak about the most impactful moments of this year’s conference. Time Stamps 16:03  Boogie Wipes – enter coupon code “zen” for $5.00 off plus free shipping (>$25 order) 37:44  ImPACT Baseline Test – Enter “zen25” to get 25% off your baseline test. 54:40 Team Zen 55:55 Painting or remodeling needs?   Check out the bald headed beauty Jere...

Todd and Cathy discuss Dax Shepard’s interview with Dr. John Gottman, and discuss his research around marriage, parenting, sex, and the key to longevity. Time Stamps 2:00 Shake Shack 4:38 Dax Shepard/ John Gottman Intro 7:42 Labeling kids 15:40 Differences b/w boys and girls 23:58 Boogie Wipes – enter coupon code “zen” for $5.00 off plus free shipping (>$25 order) 25:59 Tools...

Todd and Cathy discuss why parental self-awareness is essential when our kids are making their life decisions. They discuss how our history plays a role in what we think is best for our kids, and why we need to be clear about what “success” means. They discuss why what worked for us may not work for them, and why staying connected is dependent on honest and vulnerable communication. Time Stamps 5:...

Cathy and Todd discuss the difference between a punitive (inflicting punishment) and restorative perspective (seeking to understand and address what happened to all involved), and why it’s important to recognize how we parent and why. They discuss why a restorative approach necessitates self-awareness and mindfulness, and why our willingness to effectively communicate with our kids about choices w...

Todd and Cathy discuss why focusing on simple allows other things to flow more easily, and why aligning with what feels right allows determination, grit, and curiosity to show up naturally. They discuss why Equifinality (the fact that there are many different pathways to the same outcome) is important to acknowledge when we are making choices for ourselves or for our children. Time Stamps 4:30 Sim...

Cathy and Todd discuss the Superbowl and the most impactful commercials, specifically The Washington Post commercial titled Democracy Dies in Darkness. They discuss how the Justice Department minimized the description of domestic violence and why less information can create more problems. They process Lady Gaga’s deposition for Kesha, the Dirty John Podcast, and why connection and listening are th...

Todd and Cathy discuss the shadow parts of themselves that they pretend aren’t there, and Todd shares an activity where he had to act out the parts he tries hardest to repress. They share why the people who annoy us tend to display traits in ourselves that we don’t want to look at, and why accepting all of our parts keeps us whole and develops our compassion. Time Stamps [2:02] Quick Takes [7:18]...

Todd and Cathy discuss the new American Psychological Association (APA) guidelines for men and boys, and why a Gillette ad about healthy masculinity has drawn so much criticism. Time Stamps: 3:13 Clip from the Better podcast discussing vaping, jeweling, etc.  Dr. John Duffy 8:44 APA guidelines regarding “traditional masculinity” 25:04 ImPACT Baseline Test – Enter “zen25” to get 2...