You're Welcome with Hilary Rushford

How do you show yourself grace in decision making? How do you MAKE big decisions around where to live, career, family? Answering your Q's and sharing some of my personal story on these topics. 8 Q's + Actions to Consider: Zoom out to 10 years and beyond. What do you want to be true at 70? Do the regret test. If you do or don't do this, might you regret it? Give yourself grace if you don't have an...

I've noticed something in myself and my Elegant Excellence Mastermind students over the past year. Colleagues and coaches have confirmed it for me, and it's a growing passion for me to help us break through it. Today the doors open for my brand new course Creative Business Accelerator, with a limited time window to also join my Elegant Excellence Mastermind for the last 6 months of 2020. Join me o...

I asked on IG Stories how you're feeling amidst our global conversation on racism and racial equity. The most common answers were: Ashamed, horrified, devastated at how much I didn't know I didn't know. Overwhelmed. I feel pressure to speak, but to not misspeak; shamed for being silent, judged for misspeaking, I'm frozen. Guilty that I want Instagram to be the place I escape from the anxiety of my...

Who made the first move, what's our best dating advice? You submitted Q's for Jeremy, who's making his podcast debut! Interested in our proposal and wedding stories ? __________ My brand new course for entrepreneurs and aspiring opens this month in June! Get on the waitlist so you don't miss the limited first window. Have follow-up Q's or another topic you'd love to hear on the pod? Would love to...

Do you reach out to friends more than they reach out to you? Do you think most people probably have more social plans (pre-coronavirus) than you do? Who are we reaching out to more/less these days and why? I gathered these Q's into a series of surveys on IG Stories and put the insights into today's episode. Our hearts crave more connection. We're all yearning to hear from one another more. So why...

We had big beautiful visions for our 2020 on January 1. A new decade, a new season. We'd just launched the Elegant Excellence Goals Journal. Then before Q1 was even over they had completely changed with a global pandemic. We don't know when it will be over, what normal looks or feels like, which freedom and choice we do or don't have. Making plans feels exhausting. Without them we're aimless, diso...

As I've been reading over your DMs, and we've been chatting through my IG Stories, there's something I want to say. If you're feeling tired, overwhelmed, discouraged, in need of a break, or unsure, this is for you. By the way, I've felt all of those things myself and on the rare times that a friend knows me well enough to speak this into my life, it's such a blessing. If you think this message wou...

Are you enjoying your closet more or less in this season? And why? I asked this question on Instagram and your responses came into 11 areas. Whether positive feelings we want to KEEP after this season, or negative ones where we might have more choice to CHANGE than we realize, I'm breaking them down. So many of my lessons came back to the heart behind my style class, Style & Styleability, that I d...

The most powerful tool I've used to change my life, that's still helping me through coronavirus, in entrepreneurship, in my friendships...all the things! For a quick visual: C T F A R C T F A R That's all. Simple, yet shockingly powerful. Go deeper with these additional podcast episodes (I re-listen to my own episodes ALL the time! Just because we've heard it, doesn't mean we are living it!): Ep 2...

Today's concept of Third Circle Grief has blessed my life for the last few years as I came up with it to process my own experiences. Sharing it, only recently on Instagram, the response was overwhelming as 90% said you too are experiencing this, you just didn't have language for it. What it is, what it means, and how to process it. A few other gems from this episode: Ep #26 How to Be A Good Friend...

I feel I should be getting more done during this time. Sound familiar? I feel I should be more productive, creative, rested. The "should's" are piling up during this time and rather than simply swatting them away with a "show yourself more grace," I think we have a powerful opportunity to ask why. What would happen if we did not, in fact, do these things on the "should list"? And deepest of all, h...

If you're unsure what your special gift is, how to stand out in your industry, or succeed doing something you're naturally brilliant at -- I've got a story for you! I recorded this conversation with my dad over Christmas, and it has the hope and big-picture-dreaming I feel we all need in this challenging season of coronavirus and recession. Right now, many of us are scared or stuck, in our work an...

Are you feeling more or less connected in the past few weeks? I'll share how I'm feeling, as well as some timeless insights into these emotions that can feel all the more relevant in this current reality of sheltering at home for much of the world. This is the final in a three-part series, exploring the NYT best seller Lost Connections: Why You're Depressed and How to Find Hope by Johann Hari. Par...

Why are 87% of us disengaged or enraged with our work? For those who are fellow entrepreneurs, what does this mean when it comes to our own team and employees? This episode is the second in a three-part series, exploring the NYT best seller Lost Connections: Why You're Depressed and How to Find Hope by Johann Hari, and the issues most relevant to us at Dean Street Society. Part one is here: Ep 51:...

Choosing grace and releasing control. That's the message I feel we all need in this challenging season. Both our in-person relationships, and our online ones (where we tend to feel even more loose in our boundaries). Listen in to understand why you're feeling how you are, and make sure you're loving those around you as best you can. With all the heaviness, we need gentleness more than ever! And jo...

I'm feeling like the black duckling these days, the one who doesn't fit in. My experience of Rona (as Jeremy and I are calling this surreal moment) isn't what I'm seeing from most people. The general memes, advice, and game plans … they just aren't ringing true for me. Listen in to see if you relate - or if this is the advice you too need to hear. I would LOVE to hear from you afterward in my IG c...

Links: @HilaryRushford HilaryRushford.com/podvip Consider this our happy hour via Zoom friend. (wink) I'm pausing the episode I had scheduled for today for a personal chat about our travels and experience over the last few weeks as we found ourselves in Mexico just before everything happened at home in the US and New York. Including the very surprising place we ended up, where I'm recording this o...

Links: @HilaryRushford HilaryRushford.com/podvip Exploring the 7-9 causes and antidotes inside the groundbreaking New York Time's Best Selling book, "Lost Connections: Why You're Depressed and How to Find Hope" by Johann Hari. This episode is the first in a three-part series, exploring the issues he teaches that I find most relevant to us at Dean Street Society. Whether you or somebody you know ha...

Whether 25 or 58, I received so many replies when I began to discuss how we feel around our age. Starting a business, getting married, having a baby, whatever the life milestone or decision it's clear there is far more we have in common than different, wherever our present age. A few Q's to journal on or discuss with a girlfriend, your mother, or daughter this week: Notice culture prizes youth, bu...

It's taken me a year to speak out on this topic, but in doing so I feel lighter, safer, and stronger. I'm confident this will leave you feeling the same in your online and in person relationships, with more compassion for all, especially anyone willing to vulnerably share their life with you. UPDATE: Between recording and publishing, I realized there were some additional steps I could take to be e...

Be even more empowered over your dreams with today's action-inspiring episode. Although I love dreaming + wishing, I'm all about action + making small shifts towards accomplishing those goals. Are you workshopping your life? Try not coming at it from an "either/ or" perspective, as having a "yes/and" mentality can open up even more possibilities! Clarity comes from action. You don't need to know e...

Why do we love + loathe this place we spend so much time? After a few friends went on a "social media fast" for January and reported being happier… while also confessing that despite that they didn't want to give it up… I started to ponder if there's a middle ground. Listen in for ideas on how to slow your roll, literally. (wink) Plus spring clean your feed, consider your motives, reevaluate what...

Wake up feeling more empowered and less behind. In my constant pursuit of being more of an Essentialist, I started a morning routine to get into a daily rhythm. I share my biggest takeaways on how to be more accountable to myself and starting my day more gracefully mindful. Other resources: Ep 35:A Week in the Life BTS My Daily Schedule Ep 39: Welcome to the Royal 20's! >>Free Paid To Be Creative...

What if you don't have enough money, time, or don't know how to do something you want in your life? Whether that's start a business, get out of debt, care for an aging parent, or heal racial inequality? I asked one of my colleagues, Marie Forleo, to join us today after having read her new book, Everything is Figuroutable. Her advice was so applicable, yet compelling, and seemed to help with so man...

To live a life that's extraordinary, with ease. This is what it is to be an essentialist. After reading the book Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less four times in the last five years, I share my 5 most powerful takeaways on how to stop trying to make too much happen, and only do what truly brings me the most joy. You have to know what you want, have a vision TO aspire to. You have to cho...