You're Making It Worse

Brent, Eliot and H. Alan ask if gender-bending actors Keiynan Lonsdale, Nico Tortorella, and Ezra Miller are consistently hailed for their boundary-pushing style choices for any other reason besides being hot and thin. Then, stopping by to promote her new podcast GHOSTED by Roz Drezfalez, drag queen Roz Drezfalez grills the guys on their experiences with the supernatural, and somehow Brent only ma...

If a Republican in Arizona introduces legislation to ban public school students from even TALKING about LGBTQ issues, but the law is destined to fail, did it even happen? Then, comedian Patti Harrison joins Brent, Eliot and H. Alan to detail the PARTY that was being a biracial, closeted trans woman in rural Ohio, and how everyone just assumes she's an activist now, which is annoying. And we finall...

This week, we celebrate Kyrsten Sinema's being sworn in as the first openly bisexual senator in US history, and if she made Mike Pence nervous when she was sworn in on a law book instead of the Bible. Then, Rae Sanni, comedian, writer for The Good Place and co-host of the podcast Misandry, tutors Brent, Eliot and H. Alan in how to love men....while also hating men. And finally, a new study asks: c...

After Ellen Degeneres, one of the most recognizable LGBTQ figures in the world, gave Kevin Hart a mea culpa for his homophobic tweets, the guys ask: can someone ever apologize enough? Then, Jake Weisman of Comedy Central's Corporate, tells Brent, Eliot and H. Alan about why his noble attempt to get off to gay porn...despite not being gay. And finally, the guys wrestle with the phenomenon of gay gu...

Today, Brent, Eliot, and H. Alan ask: is Ariana Grande a racist, transphobic, misogynistic homophobe? A writer at Grindr's news site Into More thought so, penning an extensive, widely reviled (and ultimately redacted) op-ed accusing the pop star of such after watching the video for "Thank U, Next." Comedian Janine Brito then joins the guys to talk about why queer people are obsessed with their pet...

To kick off 2019, the boys consider whether or not Kevin Hart's old homophobic tweets were worth his stepping down as host of the Oscars (but only after initially refusing to apologize). Should gay jokes get a pass if they're from ten years ago? Then, rapper Big Dipper joins Brent, Eliot, and H. Alan to talk about his life as an out musician whose music remains unapologetically queer, and why ther...

Brent, Eliot and H. Alan discuss a Pulitzer-worthy "article" from Gay Star News about a gay guy who purposely put on a ton of weight in an attempt to go "from twink to bear." Next, Drag Race alum and A Star Is Born scene-stealer Willam talks everything Willam: moviemaking with Lady Gaga, staying moisturized at Burning Man, getting arrested, co-hosting the podcast Race Chaser with Alaska Thunderfuc...

Brent, Eliot and H. Alan discuss the case of a gay guy in New York who sued a Chelsea spa after a male masseuse tried to give him a happy ending. Did he overreact? Was he genuinely surprised? Or is he completely in the right and we're monsters? Then, husband and wife duo Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola of the podcast Maybe It's You (and Behrendt co-wrote He's Just Not That Into You) help point ou...

The Trump administration has ONCE AGAIN asked the Supreme Court to reconsider banning transgender people from the military. The guys try to decipher this administration's obsession with targeting trans people, and why it's become red hot political ammunition. Then, comedian Max Silvestri joins the guys to talk about fearing the Alpha Male, and how a fear of angry straight men is truly the great Am...

On today's episode, Brent and H. Alan attempt to calm Eliot after his visceral reaction to a story in the New York Times about a very rich, politically active married gay couple in Manhattan who have become full-fledged, MAGA hat-wearing Trump supporters: when, how, and UGH WHYYY? Then, Fresh off the Boat writer and shame-filled Australian David Smithyman talks to the guys about the enigma of the...

If two girls kiss on camera and it's broadcast on the Macy's Thanksgiving Day parade, does anyone care? As it turns out...yep. Ugh. Then, Matt McConkey of the podcast Homophiliajoins Brent, Eliot and H. Alan to talk about etiquette of sending nudes, the nightmare that is Datalounge, and the shitstorm of blackmail via Grindr, which helped oust a 20-year-old city councilman in Texas. And, finally, t...

First, the guys talk about which gay lingo needs to be retired -- zaddy, mary, kween -- and whether or not the Alyssa Edwards-inspired tongue pop is past its prime. Then, Marquita Robinson, writer for GLOW, You're the Worst, and New Girl, joins the guys to talk about her experience navigating different spaces as a bisexual woman growing up between Okinawa and Oklahoma. Then, Brent, Eliot and H. Al...

A Star is Born continues to shine and certainly feels like the gayest event of 2018. Should we care? Do we stan for Gaga? Better yet, so we stan for Andrew Dice Clay??? Then, Naomi Ekperigin and Andy Beckerman, hosts of podcast and live show Couples Therapy, join Brent, Eliot and H. Alan to talk about coupling up just in time for "cuffing season." And finally, WHO DRESSED UP FOR HALLOWEEN? Uploade...

Should we care about STD's? You might be surprised by Brent, Eliot and H. Alan's answers. Then, influencer Garrett Watts talks about living life on YouTube and how the most dramatic proclamation of queerness might just be...not proclaiming it at all. And when it comes to sleeping habits, whose quirks are the weirdest? Is it Brent because he sleeps on five pillows? Probably, but you should still li...

After watching Republican senator Lindsay Graham throw a hissy fit of epic proportions at the Brett Kavanaugh hearing (and later berating Dr. Blasey Ford's testimony on Twitter), the guys debate whether or not it's fair to publicly tease the lifelong bachelor, as Rosie O'Donnell did when she called him a "closeted idiot." Then, comedian and "chapstick lesbian" Liza Dye joins Brent, Eliot and H. Al...

Now that Taylor Swift is officially "political" and speaking out for gay rights -- among other causes -- should we be excited, especially since she may very well have caused a spike in voter registration among America's youngest? Then, Brent, Eliot, and H. Alan welcome writer-performer-LGBTQ activist and host of the podcast BAD WITH MONEY Gaby Dunn to talk about a whole bunch of stuff: coming out...

John Travolta: movie icon, devout Scientologist, and HUGE fan of male masseuses. But is he a closet case trolling the gay community, as Eliot sees it? Or is it not really our business, as H. Alan insists? And has Brent even SEEN Grease??? Then, gay psychotherapist and YouTube lightning rod Matthew Dempsey talks to the guys about treating a mostly gay male clientele, as well as his video about "pre...

Grindr launched Kindr, a campaign to encourage a more inclusive atmosphere among users. Will it work? The guys investigate. Then, writer Travon Free joins Brent, Eliot and H. Alan to talk about his experience as a bisexual Black dude, including the double-edged sword that is "passing." And, finally, find out which of the guys moisturizes, AND who wants a nose job! Learn more about your ad choices....

Are Bert and Ernie MORE than just "roommates?" A gay writer for Sesame Street says that when he wrote on the show, he did so under the assumption that they were, indeed, a couple. Sesame Workshop officially said that's untrue. So who should we believe? Then, writer, comedian, and "bisexual princess" Sara Benincasa joins the guys to dissect the myth of the Fag Hag and whether or not throwing your b...

First up, Brent, Eliot and H. Alan discuss the nature of FABULOUSNESS, the focus of a book by writer Madison Moore. Just what does it mean to be fabulous? Who is, who isn't, and what happens when Brent slips into a pair of kitten heels? Then, comedian and The Good Place writer Joe Mande joins the guys to talk about the nature of offending people. The guys even do a live read of a "missing" scene f...

First, the guys weigh the pros and cons of annual gay pride celebrations around the world, which really boils down to one question: are parades THE WORST? Then, Brent, Eliot, and H. Alan all discuss the movie Book Club with comedienne Kara Klenk, host of the podcast Let's Talk About Texts. Even with A-listers Jane Fonda, Candice Bergen, Diane Keaton and Mary Steenburgen (or, as Brent pronounces it...

Brent, Eliot and H. Alan triumphantly break down an ACTUAL STUDY that details just how toxic Grindr can be for its users self-esteem. To stay on theme, Lex of YMIW's favorite blog The Problem Gays, commiserates with the guys about the epidemic of rejection among gay men: where we encounter it and how we react. And, finally, the guys explore the ultimate trifecta: underwear, pajamas and robes! Who...

First, the guys talk about Masterpiece Cakeshop of Colorado, where Christian baker Jack Phillips refused to bake a cake for a gay couple, a case that made its way to the Supreme Court. (Fun fact: the same guy LATER refused to bake a cake for a transgender woman, just as Jesus would have wanted!) Then, Kiran Gandhi of the project Madame Gandhi and drummer for M.I.A. and Kehlani, proves what makes h...

Is a Log Cabin (read: gay) Republican a bad person? What if he manages a CVS and calls the cops on a Black customer using a coupon he doesn't recognize? Because, yes, THAT JUST HAPPENED in Chicago. Next, comedian and twunk-in-progress Jaboukie Young-White joins Brent, Eliot and H. Alan to break down Grindr "tribes:" bear, clean-cut, daddy, discreet, geek, jock, leather, otter, poz, rugged, trans,...

Brent, Eliot and H. Alan ask if it's okay to be gay and eat at Chik-fil-A, the fast food chain known for donating millions to an anti-gay political organization...and also THEIR DELICIOUS CHICKEN! Then, comedian and writer Gabe Liedman joins the guys to discuss why they love the women they do, from old standards (Liza, Barbra, Madonna) to sleeper hits (Debbie Gibson, Rita Rudner, Countess LuAnn) t...