Your Marriage Matters

Challenges come at our relationship from one of two directions - outside forces of life just happening or inside the marriage where two imperfect people struggle with the give and take of growing up as a couple together! In this Your marriage Matters episode 140 we get A Professional Counselor's Wisdom for Dealing With Conflict! Christie has been a Licensed Professional Counselor, or LPC, for over...

This week we continue the  "I Am Not the Enemy" series with YMM 139 ... Two Great Problem Solving Strategies You Can Use TODAY! The are our two favorite , real world, techniques we use regularly when Team Jacobus is working our way through a difficulty or a when a not so clear decision needs to be made! Struggles are part of the deal! Disagreements are part of the deal! Even arguing, when done in...

When asked what is our best marital advice we always answer the same ... "Fight Naked"! While taken literally it can be a very effective methodology ... after all, who wants to fight with a naked person! All kidding aside the NAKED part is an acronym for 5 great things to remember to keep our disagreements both civil and productive at the same time. The 5 steps look like this: N stands for "nothin...

Problems, struggles and conflict are signs of a healthy relationship! Two imperfect people working to build a life together are bound to have struggles by the mere fact that: They are male and female Grew up in different households Have different personality styles Have different views on sex, money, household roles and responsibilities, parenting and a dozen other subjects All of this and more me...

What's up gang? A few weeks ago in our podcast YMM 133 we introduced you to the subject of Relational Needs in a relationship and provided the resources for everyone to take the Relational Needs survey! Click Here to access that podcast and the resources. This episode we introduce you to Matt and Julie Barnhill of Barnhill Counseling and Associates, our friends, mentors and co-laborers in building...

Hey gang ...  It is the Wednesday after!!! After Valentine's Day, our 35th anniversary and, the launch of our first book  YOUR Marriage Matters - 52 Great Conversations To Build A More Vibrant, Healthy Marriage !  What a wild and crazy week this has been already and it is only Wednesday. WOW! One of the things we got asked a lot on Valentine's Day is  "what is the secret to staying married for 35...

Valentine's Day Special Edition! 3 Simple Things You Can Do To Make Valentine's Day AMAZING This Year! Hey gang ... It is Valentine's Day week and we are so excited for so many reasons but three reasons really stand out! While we "should" be telling our spouses and loved ones how much they mean to us all year round, this week we really focus on saying  I LOVE YOU! We have three easy and simple, bu...

In this week's episode we are sharing the chapter from the book  "Let's Talk About Sex Baby"  and focusing on the conversation "What Makes YOU Feel Loved" in the chapter! What we can learn from this conversation and the Relational Needs Survey is this: We have 3 main Relational Needs that, when met, make us feel loved! Our 3 main Relational Needs are not likely the same as our spouse! Yet, we try...

YMM 132 ... Interview With Trevor and Catie Bird of Durango Harley Davidson Trevor, Catie, Millie and Reese Bird From minimum wage employees to owning Durango Harley Davidson Trevor and Catie Grace Bird are a great example of what happens when a couple creates a compelling "shared vision" and sticks to what they believe God has called them to! You are going to love their story complete with what t...

YMM 131 ... The Power of A "Shared Vision"! Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matters episode #131! In this podcast we are going to look at how we can level up our relationship by getting behind a compelling "vision" for our marriage that goes beyond just surviving! A "shared vision" can turn a bad marriage into a good one and a good one into a GREAT one! And, the benefits of finding a central driving forc...

The Fundamentals for Building A More Vibrant, Healthy Marriage! Hey gang ... Welcome to Your Marriage Matters episode 133 - The Fundamentals for Building A More Vibrant, Healthy Marriage! Since we are doing a "restart" on the podcast, and new YouTube channel. we felt like it was important to go back to the fundamentals as a reset for everything we are going to be covering in the days and weeks ahe...

What is up? We are so very excited to be back podcasting after a little over a year of. So many things have happened during 2021 we wanted to catch you up on everything. Plus, we really wanted to give you a preview of what lies ahead in 2022 ... it is so exciting! Our focus is going to be taking our relationship to an entirely new level. In this podcast we give you a little insight into just what...

Are you set to make the most of 2021? Answer these 4 questions and we promise you will be! To say the least 2020 has been a really tough year! So, how do we turn the page and make the next year something special in our lives.  Take the time to do this simple exercise we are sharing with you over the next 2 weeks and you can make your 2021 something extra special!!! Jim & Christie Jacobus

With all of the craziness that we have experienced in 2020 how in the heck can you be thankful this Thanksgiving? Well, if you know anything about Team Jacobus then get ready! We are going to show you how you can be thankful no matter what! Jim & Christie Jacobus

It is a week after the elections of 2020 and we still aren't sure who is president. One side says they have won and the other says it was stolen! So, what can we do? We focus on what is within our control and we take action! We make things, good things, happen that we can dictate.  Today we give you some very important strategies and tactics to deal with these very uncertain times! Jim & Christie...

In this episode, an excerpt from our webinar  "Tough Talk for Tough Times", we look at what it takes to have each other's back no matter what. Believe it or not, what helps us bond together as a team is understanding how imperfect we both are separately and how strong we are together!  We trust you will enjoy this episode! Jim & Christie Jacobus 

In this episode we are going to talk about the power of a Shared Vision! We are wrapping up our first long road trip since we went to full time living in a RV. So, it seems appropriate that we share how your shared vision can propel your life, and your marriage, forward as well! We encourage and challenge you to work at developing this skill of dreaming big together so that you can build a more vi...

Fight NAKED Our Best Marital Advice! This weeks episode is another excerpt from our recent webinar "Tough Talk for Tough Times" and it is a great acronym N A K E D that we use to teach one way to handle the inevitable conflict that is a part of every healthy relationship! If the acronym doesn't work the try, literally, fighting naked. It will stop any argument in its tracks! We trust you will real...

This is a "Tough Talk for Tough Times" (a webinar excerpt) ... I Am NOT Your Enemy! One of the very best strategies Christie and Jim have learned in the last couple of years. Once we decide we are not "against" each other during tough times but actually on the same team ... it is a game changer! We trust you will enjoy this episode! Jim & Christie Jacobus

We get this question way too often but, the answer is always the same ... absolutely! A heads up ... you are going to get two very different answers from Christie the professional counselor and Jim the coach and Divorce Care teacher and that's ok. You may find one answer more to your liking than the other! What you will find the same coming from both of them is that it may not be easy and it may t...

Are You In A Season of Struggle? Has 2020 created a challenge for your your marriage? No worries ... not only can you survive all of this craziness, you can actually thrive! In this episode we share with you 5 tips you can use today to get and keep your relationships vibrant and health! To register for the "Tough Talk for Tough Times" webinar on Wednesday, October 7th at 7p CST go to www.yourmarri...

We learned a long time ago that every audience member, face to face or virtual, has the same 3 questions going through their mind when listening to us. In this episode we will answer those 3 questions!  Who Are We? Why Are We Here? And Why Should You Care? Well, we definitely want you to know more about who we are and why we do these episodes but more importantly we want to answer the question ......

What does it take for a couple, like the Jacobus' to successfully complete an incredible 3,700+ mile journey of a lifetime from Arlington, Texas to Bar Harbor Maine? It takes the same Mindsets, Strategies, Tactics and Skill Sets that it does to build an incredible marriage. In this episode we will share with you the 5 critical Mindsets that we can all work on and leverage to build the life togethe...

Yes ... you can find the video of this podcast on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5uhr3weF9GzCwyJbkITJOw In this episode we talk about why YOUR Marriage Matters to so many people including yourself and we give you some tips on how to make it it the one you dreamed of when you said "I do"!  YouTube here we come!!!   Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Do you struggle with making "big decisions" in your marriage? Well, here is a process we use that can help! We are in week five of our series on making important decisions in our lives and we are using the acronym I D E A. Inspiration, discussion, education and now finally "ACTION"! Grab a notepad and a pen ... it is time to learn a great strategy! Jim & Christie Jacobus