John Cuturilo

Your Listener

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John Cuturilo, the counsellor of Your Listener Counselling in Melbourne, Australia, is the host of the Your Listener podcast. Discussing psychological topics including mental health, critical thinking, and social matters, he presents unique insights. Rather than lecturing coercively on what to believe, filling his discussions with provocative language or quotes from famous people, or political rhetoric, John explains how our minds work and the impact of this on how we operate individually and socially. He often helps his audience to realise that what we assume are truths are often ideas result...

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John Cuturilo

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Gender fluidity and dysphoria: let's forget the politics 28.04.2024 1:29:06

In this episode, I had the great privilege to discuss the critical subjects related to gender (including dysphoria, fluidity, mental health, and the health industry) with Ari Kulikov, an astute critical thinker with a wealth of personal experience. With the proliferation of so much rhetoric regarding these topics (which is particularly concerning, given that they relate to people's welfare), t...

Reality isn't subjective 22.04.2024 15:22

I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below. https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMS Let's straighten the facts about the truth — it's not the same as an opinion. Note: no part of this content should be accepted as giving advi...

We need to talk about work culture... 15.04.2024 17:24

I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below. https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMS The notion of "hard work" has some fallacies associated with it, but we still need to take our attitude toward work seriously. I discuss some...

Free speech: let's forget the politics 07.04.2024 13:59

I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below. https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMS There's no doubt that free speech is controversial — so as I always maintain, we need to discuss it, with reference to the psychology rather than...

The real power of words: will a bird make you racist? 31.03.2024 21:04

I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below. https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMS Why do people say "words have power"? And can hearing the name of a bird make you racist? Regardless, the level of analysis we do on these is...

Ghosting: there's not much to it 21.03.2024 3:24

I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below. https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMS I have to be blunt about ghosting — here's a brief public service announcement. Note: no part of this content should be accepted as giving advice...

The debating lesson everyone needs! 12.03.2024 19:11

I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below. https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMS What we often call “debates” aren’t real debates – here’s why! Note: no part of this content should be accepted as giving advice of any kind. For adv...

The “you don’t have experience” retort 05.03.2024 3:46

I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below. https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMS In debates, people often attempt to discredit arguments by claiming that the person making them has no experience. In this episode, I discuss the err...

Why isn’t therapy working for me? 27.02.2024 7:01

I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below. https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMS Have you begun undertaking counselling expecting the results to simply happen, only to find you’re not making the progress you wanted? In this episod...

The “slippery slope” isn’t a fallacy 20.02.2024 10:29

I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below. https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMS In this episode, I explain the psychology of the “slippery slope” and how it is a real phenomenon that could affect us more closely than we realise....

The challenge of saying what they need to hear 13.02.2024 7:26

I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below. https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMS It’s not easy to tell someone what they need to hear when we know it’ll upset them, even if we know it’s in their best interests. In this episode, I’...

Mental illness: the real phenomenology 06.02.2024 10:08

I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below. https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMS Mental illness and health are now discussed and publicised more than ever, but there’s still an aspect of the experience and function that psychology...

Debunking "positive self-talk" 31.01.2024 11:38

I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below. https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMS “Positive self‑talk” is an idea that has gained great traction in popular culture and media, including in the life coaching domain, but what’s the fl...

What if all opinions are mistakes (and what can we do about it)? 29.01.2024 24:30

I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below. https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMS What if having any opinion risks us making common but significant mistakes, and what if to believe is not to know? Here, I discuss the lesser-known p...

Reification, mental illness, and the N.D.I.S.: what do the roles mean? 29.01.2024 18:20

I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below. https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMS Is the way that psychology conceptualises mental health always accurate? Could the way we reify be limiting our understanding? In this episode, I con...

Reification: what psychology may miss about mental illness and health 29.01.2024 32:45

I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below. https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMS Is the way that psychology conceptualises some mental illnesses and mental health always accurate? Could the way we reify be limiting our understandi...

Life coaching: what is it actually doing (and can it be different)? 29.01.2024 13:45

I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below. https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMS Considering a life coach in Australia but wondering what it is that we actually do for your mindset and lifestyle? Here I give a simple explanation o...