Your Life, Love, and Relationship Coach, Joey Francess

You already know the truth — you’ve just been avoiding it. This episode is a wake‑up call for anyone living a life that doesn’t feel like theirs. If you’ve been shrinking, settling, or pretending “it’s fine,” this is the moment everything changes. No fluff. No comfort. No sugar‑coating. Just the truth you’ve been running from — delivered straight to your chest. This is the episode you listen to wh...

You keep saying you’re tired of dating—but the truth is, you’re not tired of dating. You’re tired of choosing wrong. In this episode, Stop Blaming Dating—It’s You Who Keeps Choosing Wrong, we dive deep into the real reason dating feels exhausting. It’s not the apps. It’s not the endless swiping. It’s not even rejection. It’s the cycle of settling for people who are “tolerable” when you’re too drai...

If you’ve been telling yourself you’re “healing,” I want you to pause for a moment—because this episode is about the uncomfortable line between doing the work and avoiding it. In this conversation, I break down how emotional availability has turned into a buzzword in modern dating, and how a lot of people have started confusing avoidance with growth. We talk about emotional laziness—what it actual...

Entitlement is killing modern dating — and nobody wants to talk about it honestly. In this first episode of the new year, I’m calling out the transactional mindset that has taken over dating on both sides. Men who think money buys access. Women who believe their value is tied to expensive dates. And everyone wondering why dating feels empty, exhausting, and broken. Dating was never meant to be a b...

Cuffing season promises warmth, validation, and someone to stand beside you during the holidays. But beneath the surface, it often hides compromise — chemistry mistaken for compatibility, comfort mistaken for connection. In this episode, I expose the illusion of cuffing season and reveal why “good for now” always costs you later. Through raw storytelling and practical coaching, you’ll learn how to...

You’ve been told to wait until you’re “ready” before dating — but here’s the truth: readiness is a myth. In this episode, I’m breaking down why keeping people at arm’s length only keeps you stuck, and how healing actually shows up when you connect. I’ll walk you through reflection prompts that reveal what you need right now, and share practical tips for dating without losing yourself. This isn’t a...

We don’t just date — we audition. We perform for love, approval, and safety. But performance doesn’t lead to intimacy. It leads to exhaustion. In this episode, I break down the psychology behind why we perform in dating — and what it’s costing us. From emotional labor to misaligned connections, we unpack the real reason dating feels so hard. Then we shift gears: You’ll get a coaching framework to...

The first month of dating feels electric — but is it real? In this episode, Joey Francess breaks down why the first 30 days aren’t about falling in love — they’re about staying grounded. From chemistry confusion to emotional spiraling, self-abandonment to pacing, this is your masterclass in dating with clarity, not fantasy. You’ll learn: – Why chemistry isn’t clarity – How to stop spiraling after...

This episode is a masterclass in emotional intelligence. If you’ve ever walked away from a misaligned relationship and thought, “I wasted so much time”… this is for you. We unpack the truth behind heartbreak: Why grief shows up even when you choose yourself Why your nervous system needs time to catch up to your clarity Why dating isn’t a waste of time — it’s emotional research And how to reframe y...

Should I stay — or should I leave? It’s one of the most painful, private questions we’ll ever ask ourselves in love. And no one else can answer it for you. In this episode, Joey Francess — life, love, and relationship coach — walks you through the emotional fog with a logic-driven, brutally honest checklist. No sugarcoating. No fantasy. Just clarity. You’ll learn how to: Separate emotional noise f...

Most people think closure is a final conversation. A clean goodbye. An apology that makes it all make sense. But what if closure isn’t real? What if it’s just a story we tell ourselves to keep someone emotionally close — hoping they’ll come back, change their mind, or finally say “I’m sorry”? In this episode, Joey Francess breaks down why closure is a myth — and how to heal without it. Drawing fro...

Ask yourself, how important is it that someone matches your effort, your energy, your love? I am someone who believes that matching energy is one of my top needs. If that isn't there, where's the intent, the will, the want to be with someone? How serious does dating or a relationship feel if we always have to beg or prove or show up when the other party doesn't.... This week we explore...

Taking things slow, The Slow Burn.... Do you know what it even means.... Does that definition work for everyone or just you? Does it mean talking to someone once every few days, waiting to jump into bed with them, not opening up, etc...? For every person there is a different definition. This week we explore that further including my dating past...For more information on my books and services, Joey...

Or is it just an excuse to allow people to walk all over you. Are you actually nice or just a people pleaser? And what does finishing last even mean? This week we dive into the whole idea of being nice and whether or not you actually finish last. For more information on my books and services, JoeyFrancess.com Message me your question or story!

What a question right... The problem is when we talk to a lot of people and date a lot of people without any real success, we start to question ourselves, hell even our own existence. Are we asking for too much? Are we even deserving of it? Well, this week I answer those questions for you. As well as help you figure out your list of wants to maybe streamline it to help you find success. For more i...

Knowing what you want is a very powerful thing, but do we attack people with deep questions to soon? Do we not wait to tell someone all our traumas and life stories? This week I tackle that deep question, too much too soon. When and how we should approach this or if there is even a timeline you should follow. For more information on my books and services, JoeyFrancess.com Message me your question...

There seems to be an issue in making and keeping friends as an adult. Apparently without that childlike wonder and honesty we have a massive problem making and keeping friends. This problem compounds when we think of adults moving to a new country or becoming single and starting a new life. Married friends don't necessarily have the time for us and definitely don't have the same objectives...

Growth and Change, two things that are 100% inevitable. It may not be on the four front of our minds or even something we think about at all, but it is always happening. This is where you ask yourself, should you be self aware about it or don't think about it and just focus on being happy. This week I dive in to the differences of types of growth and whether or not you should focus on it. For...

I know, I'm nuts right! With so much going on in our lives who has the time or even emotional capacity to think this way. The fact of the matter is the effort you put in directly effects the outcome. If you do it half assed, chances are you'll get half assed dates. If you don't have the time to invest in someone, then someone won't have the time to invest into you. Intention plus E...

Some of us know exactly whom we are. Exactly what we want. But others, not so much. We might treat others with the most respect and compassion but never ourselves, to the point of our own pain and failure. Do you reflect on your past to help you guide yourself through the Future? This week we dive deeper into what makes us, us. And maybe we should all be doing more for ourselves. For more informat...

It's as simple as the title states, learn to be more considerate. So many times we think we are being nice but when we aren't interested in someone our level of niceness kinda drops. Whether its the length of time we take to respond to a text, or whether or not we keep them around for when we are bored even though we are interested in them at all. These are human beings we are dealing with...

And what does this question mean exactly.... Shouldn't we be with people who validate us? Of course, but is that the only reason? To create a partnership with another human being, a lifelong journey with another person, it takes a lot of different parts and feelings. At the same time, we could enter in such a relationship because our main need seems like it's being met. To the determent of...

A lot of us tend to think that being single means we are alone. The funny thing is, in a lot of cases that isn't the case. We have families and friends and even coworkers that care about us more then we think. But its when we get into our heads that this train of thought really starts to hurt us. Let's talk about that more and discover why that might be.... For the full length episode chec...

An interesting question I know.... Whom do you attract vs whom do you choose? We love to pass the blame and not take accountability for our choices. And granted if someone seems perfect and doesn't do anything wrong but one day does, that's not your fault. But if they continue to wrong you and you don't do anything , now it's a choice. Why are you choosing them? Why do you think it...

Communication and Acceptance - The Foundation to all relationships. I know it's a very basic thought, but without communication, we would essentially die. I know it's weird to think about, but even something as simple as a baby crying is telling us somethings up. As for acceptance, if we cannot accept someone, whether it be a job they need to do for us, or as a romantic partner, or even as...