Your Confident Self

Stop trying to be perfect so you can build your perfectly imperfect life. I am not advocating that we aim to be mediocre (you know me better than that), but I want us to stop setting ourselves up for failure. Aiming for perfection can lead you to succeed in your life and work. But, nothing will break your confidence down like unrealistic expectations and undue pressure from a quest to be perfect.&...

In a previous post, I shared how failure can lead to some of the biggest successes, but what if you never try? If you don't try, your chances of success are 0%. We can find numerous stories of people throughout history who have failed but refused to give up. I can only imagine how many people told them they would never succeed, repeatedly pointed out their previous failed efforts, and even charact...

How can we overcome low self esteem? There are lots of different reasons why our self esteem may suffer. But if we don't address these issues, low self esteem can damage your confidence and lead to larger issues like anxiety, social withdrawal, depression, and even suicide. Self esteem is rooted in how you feel about yourself compared to confidence which is rooted in what you believe you can accom...

What is the price of not being authentic? Have there been times in your life when you felt you weren't acting like your true self? Maybe you were unsure of a new situation or you lacked the confidence to reveal who you truly are. When I challenged a friend about whether or not she was behaving in a way that was consistent with her brand, I had some interesting insights. The Price of Not Being Auth...

Today on the podcast, I offer 7 benefits of spending time alone. Sometimes we get too caught up in being lonely and choose to spend time with the wrong people. A couple weeks ago I published an affirmation about avoiding toxic people so that you can feel less lonely. I also did an interview on Empower Radio recently about why people don't remove themselves from toxic relationships. Both of these p...

Let's take a look at how to be more confident at work this week. Feeling confident and demonstrating confidence are two different things. You want to make sure that you are showing the world how confident you are, because confidence is an important element in being seen as successful by your peers. Sometimes we do a great job of showing our confidence everywhere except in our workplace. In this ep...

As a quick recap, here are the first 5 reasons you aren't where you want to be that I talked about in last week's show: You don't know what you want You don't have a plan to get from here to there You lack resources The people around you don't support you You don't really know what you wantWe have just a little bit further to go to figure out why you still aren't where you want to be yet. In this...

I want to interrupt my ongoing discussion about toxic people and give you hope and provide some top reasons you aren't where you want to be. Would it excite you to know there are just 10 reasons you are not where you want to be? YET! Based on emails and comments I have received, there is a lot of frustration building up. When you look at your life, you may be miles away from your goals and dr...

It's time! Today, declare your independence from everything that hinders you from being fabulous. It will really be a day worth celebrating when we declare our independence from everything that no longer serves us. Imagine how good it will feel and how powerful you will be when you let go of the junk that's weighing you down. In this episode of the podcast, I explore what independence means in an...

You want to find your lane (your purpose) so that you can get in your lane and stay there, right? I've been thinking a lot over the last few weeks about intention, focus, purpose, fighting fear, etc. Basically I have been thinking about all the things that will prevent you from stepping into and living out your purpose. One of things I think really distracts a lot of us is too many options. If you...

There is always, always, always something to be thankful for. Why should we only focus on all that we have to be thankful for in November, during traditional Thanksgiving celebrations? I am absolutely all about Thanksgiving in April this year! That’s right, all those turkeys and honey-baked hams should be very, very afraid. I have been obsessed recently with how to help all of us battle fear more...

An amazing red bra will change your life. I apologize, I have been holding out on you. Can we talk?! We have already talked about the fact that we can be our own best cheerleader by being careful about what we say to ourselves and recognizing all our gifts. However, there is another tool in our confidence toolbox that I don’t want us to overlook. Come closer, it’s a secret… I’m talking about your...

In this episode of the podcast I look at the insidious influence of comparison. You can be honest, do you sometimes find yourself comparing your life to that of others? If you do, I am betting that does not make you feel all warm and fuzzy, and it definitely doesn't lead to your most powerful days. Comparison is the thief of joy. If you stop comparing you can learn to LOVE your life. Women are bom...

My grandmother used to call me Madame Butterfly and I loved it. My 7-year old mind understood that butterflies were pretty and could fly, and that was all I needed to know. Let's fast forward--later in life, I learned she called me that because she just never knew what I might do next. I have heard she told people that I "flitted from one thing to another looking pretty" but not accomplishing a lo...

There came a time when I didn't have it in me. Didn't have what in me? The ability to continue with life as normal when it was anything but. I was pretty quiet on social media last week because we were dealing with a family tragedy. Dealing with loss is ridiculously difficult and I don't know that we ever get good at it. My first response was to try to compartmentalize what had happened and contin...

You are not who others say you are. That's good news, right? While last week I focused on not criticizing yourself, today a recent event has inspired me to focus on not allowing others to criticize you either. In fact, I will take it a step further and suggest that we not let others define us, name us, shame us, limit us, BULLY us, or act in any way that diminishes who we are destined to be. That’...

Here are 5 steps to stop criticizing yourself. We’ve all heard her — that mean, inner voice that speaks up whenever we’ve made a mistake or something didn't turn out as we planned it. Sometimes, your critical inner voice (I call her the Confidence Assassin or CA,) tells you what you should have done but failed to do. Other times, she reminds you of something you did that you should have avoided. I...

If you’re at a point where you keep asking yourself, “How did I get here?,” it may be time for you to figure out ways to change the direction of your life. Admitting you are dissatisfied with your life may not be easy, but it’s a necessary first step that will lead you toward finding a life and career that you love. Aren’t you glad Mick Jagger was wrong? If you want to get satisfaction, consider t...

For some of life's biggest battles, we have to fight like a girl. Kelly is many things besides being a breast cancer survivor. She's a daughter, a mother, a friend, a student, etc. A divorced mother of 2 girls, her first response to her diagnosis was terror and worry about leaving her daughters without a mother. In this episode she shares her life-changing story. A huge proponent of breast self ex...

Fear. Throat. Punch. A couple weeks ago I introduced my 'Punch Fear in the Throat' concept. Have you recovered yet? Good, because I want to poke that bear some more this week. First, let me make it clear that I AM encouraging world-wide punching of FEAR in the throat. We will talk about removing toxic people (haters) from your life on another day but right now I am totally focused on silencing fea...

Transitions usually follow 6 steps. If you attempt to skip any of those steps you will be frustrated and you will delay the point when you will actually reach your goal. The steps of transformation will not be mocked--you must walk through them all to make lasting change. And we don’t want to make changes that don’t survive a season, do we? Ask the gym owner who couldn’t sleep in January but is lo...

Don't look in the dictionary for the definition of Allegrativity. You won't find it there. In this episode of the podcast, Allegra Sinclair defines Allegrativity and explains why she thought the term was necessary. She also shares her passion for helping to create a world filled with powerful women who are confident enough to live their intended purpose. In this episode you will hear: The 6 major...