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When out physical environment is out of order our mental is usually in the same state. The first thing is to have a focus that is so strong that you don’t want to pull away from it. I had to clean my house and breathe to slow down. I needed to be still to find clarity.

It requires us to look at ourselves in the mirror to be honest. We have allowed people to walk all over us but now we are taking our power back through reflecting.

Foster parents post COVID is difficult. Many foster parents were concerned about transmission of the virus but now we are still facing an issue with limited foster parents signing up.

The challenge of being a foster is rewarding.

Did you know we can develop an emotional addiction? It is the emotional connection that we have with others knowing that the relationship is unhealthy but we stay because it is familiar.

Emotional habits are unconsciously formed based on the freedom or restriction given to us. If our caretakers validated our feelings we develop healthy emotional habits, however, many times we need to learn it in adulthood. Follow us on social media [Yemoja Speaks Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/yemojaspeaks/) [Yemoja Speaks Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/YemojaSpeaks)

Too many times we hear about other people matching energy but we don’t hear how that might have gotten someone killed or harm. It might look cool but some people don’t stay at the same level they go to 100 real quick and expect to fight. Are you ready for a fight over something minor? Let talk about it.

Love poem

Hamjambo? Sijambo Leo!  It can be hard when we realize that our friend that we have known over 10 years is really a long-time acquaintance instead. An acquaintance is a person that we share a surface level relationship with but really don’t have trust in establishing a real relationship. I have realized how private I am which means that I don’t share much of my personal information anyways, howeve...

Some people don’t care about what you are going through they only want to have access to you. Check to see if they are true or not. Do they tell you all the things wrong with you? Do they only talk to you when it is convenient for them? Do they not show up for you but want you to show up for them? Hmmmm 🤨 they are only there to use you.

Poetry has helped me get through emotional traumas that I wanted to hold on to but have been able to release. Many of us find it hard to express our feelings in a traditional talking way but we use our art to express it all.  Art is not supposed to be understood by everyone, yet when people can relate we have find our tribe like us.  If you want me to figure your poem on Yemoja Speaks Podcast emai...

Sharonda or Lolo as she was known as was my beautiful mother. Many people are surprised by me when they meet me and know my history of being in foster care but I give the award to my mother for the strong foundation she set for me. This is my open ended letter to my mother, thanks you for taking the pain so I could be free.

“Fairy tales are more than true: not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten.” Neil Gailman, Coraline What are your dragon? Our dragons can be: toxic thinking habits, anxiety, procrastination, childhood trauma, emotional trauma, and relationship trauma. It is okay to cry to get through it. Although I have not tame all my dragons I am learning my...

We have all had questions about the process of becoming a foster and adoptive parent. As a former foster youth, I have questioned the process due to my personal experience and hearing the experience of my friends. I also see in the news where the system fails the child, so I wanted to understand how foster parents are screened. Join the conversation with Zina K, a foster parent recruiter for Press...

What to do daily for behavioral change

Change behavior

Mental health discussion with Dr. Sonji Kenyatta, a licensed professional clinical counselor. Dr. Kenyatta practice cognitive behavioral talk therapy which means we do what we think. She has worked as a professional clinical counselor for well over 20 years and now has her own practice counseling individuals each day.  Therapy is becoming more popular in conversations because many of us understand...

Mental health is important yet many times goes unnoticed until a major event occurs. It is equally important to listen to people around us when they think that something can be corrected about our behavior.

We must look at the relationships that we have to understand if they are hindering or helping us to succeed.

Our journey requires reflection and preparation. To prepare we must know what we have already done and what others have done so that we can try new attempts instead of repeating old habits.

Being okay that I have overcome so much in our lives. I thank myself and you should too because you made it!

Understanding how your dad impacted your emotional and mental well-being is important. Many people talk about daddy issues but don’t explain how their dad impacted them emotionally. I explain my complex relationship with my dad.

I have been looking at my behaviors and journey so far. I have made many of mistakes but have come to realize that I share traits that my parents have or had that I want to get rid of. Some of the things that I do isn’t right and doesn’t make sense. Healing myself means that I must look at the behaviors that mom had and how I use them or release them. I know that some of my traits need to go but a...

Have you been told that you were just like one of your parents? Yes many of us have been told that once in our lives. I told the time to do an overview of my parents and understand the qualities that I have too.

Walk away from people who are intentionally triggering you and trying to bring you to their level. It prevents you from growing when you match the energy of others who aren’t aspiring to better themselves.