Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Comedian Margaret Cho ( The Masked Singer , All-American Girl) and Nicole chat about claiming your right to talk about sexuality, her experience coming out as queer, learning Japanese bondage, and how she's practicing being a dominatrix. Plus, Nicole's worried she's talking to bots on dating apps. Check out After Hours with Margaret Cho live Feb 14th. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources an...

Actor and comedian Deon Cole ( Black-ish , Barbershop ) joins Nicole to share his deep wisdom about love and relationships. They discuss judging people by the moment, recognizing if your partner is in love with relationships or with you, the troubles of dating someone new in a mask, and getting over wanting what you can't have. Plus, Nicole shares a list of empowering relationship statements she f...

Conan O'Brien is here to help solve the root problems behind Nicole's singledom. They also discuss his sexually repressed Catholic upbringing, what it's like to have Big Dick Energy, and his plans for his 20th wedding anniversary. Nicole demands to marry into the O'Brien family, explains to Conan how some of her vibrators work, and describes how she's now using a Theragun to masturbate. Support Bl...

Sex worker AM Davies (Host of Yes, A Strippper Podcast ) is here to answer all of Nicole's questions about stripping and sex work. She discusses the difference between decriminalizing vs legalizing sex work, how strippers are coerced into tipping the house, the diversity problem in strip clubs, and how she's working to unionize strippers. Dating as a sex worker also comes with its own challenges -...

Comedian & actress Niccole Thurman ( A Black Lady Sketch Show, Shrill) joins Nicole to discuss their 2021 resolutions, how they are cleaning out toxic negativity in their life, and review each other's Hinge profiles. See Why Won't You Date Me LIVE January 6!  Click here for tickets. Support Black Lives Matter.  For a list of resources and ways to help, check out  blacklivesmatte...

Stand-up comedian and #Skategang member Solomon Georgio ( Shrill, Adam Ruins Everything ) talks to Nicole about his recent butt surgery and how he's been adapting to his new butt. They also chat about his skincare routine, the importance of partners posing for photos, and why his mom got kicked out of his brother's wedding. Nicole reveals why she doesn't like Christmas and how she got into a fight...

Roy Wood Jr. ( The Daily Show ) shares his calculations on the safest way of traveling during COVID, discusses dealing with friends who aren't taking the pandemic seriously, getting detained in Canada, and reporting on Black issues on The Daily Show. Learn more about I See Me, Inc charity here . Support Black Lives Matter.  For a list of resources and ways to help, check out  blacklivesm...

Drag queen and actress Jiggly Caliente ( RuPaul's Drag Race S4, Broad City) joins Nicole to discuss sex work, walking in on friends or family members having sex, "Dick on-demand boys", and how much sex freakiness should you share with your partner? Support Black Lives Matter.  For a list of resources and ways to help, check out  blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter:&n...

Actor and comedian Langston Kerman ( Insecure, The Boys ) joins Nicole to discuss her recent broken ankle and awkward brush with healthcare. He also shares the perks of dating long distance, how to attract chucklefuckers, and how he used the ' 36 Questions That Lead to Love ' to open up to his wife. Support Black Lives Matter.  For a list of resources and ways to help, check out  blackli...

Drag queen & makeup artist Creme Fatale joins Nicole to discuss dating horror stories, how to leave a bad date fast, why aren't there any lady gloryholes, and makeup. Check out Creme Fetale's YouTube channel here: youtube.com/channel/UCJS8an0aBA9NfTBku95UOtw Support Black Lives Matter.  For a list of resources and ways to help, check out  blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole By...

Drag queen Lucy Stoole joins Nicole to discuss the story behind their drag name, their recent breakup, the struggles of dating app messaging, and if it's okay to leave a bad date early. Support Black Lives Matter.  For a list of resources and ways to help, check out  blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter:  @nicolebyer Instagram:  @nicolebyer Facebook:  w...

Drag queen  Priyanka  (Winner of  Canada's Drag Race , host of YTV's  The Zone ) joins Nicole to discuss their very recent breakup, getting COVID19 from Brooke Lynn Hytes, evolving from a kids tv host to a drag queen, and explains the dark spiritual energy of Obeah. Support Black Lives Matter.  For a list of resources and ways to help, check out  blacklivesmatters.car...

Comedian Patti Harrison ( Shrill , Search Party ) joins Nicole to chat about 90 Day Fiancé, issues with casting in today's media, and advocates for the well-being of child actors. Plus, they discuss their love for the Fast & Furious franchise, Patti shares the details of her childhood Vin Diesel sex dream, and Nicole shepherds Patti into trash television. Support Black Lives Matter.  For...

Comedian Mitra Jouhari ( Big Mouth , Three Busy Debras, host of Urgent Care ) joins Nicole to discuss missing malls, the horrors of dating in high school, awkward Zoom auditions, and reminisce about their improv days in NY. Plus, Mitra talks about how she's providing hygiene kits to the unhoused, and how you can support your local community help organizations. Donate to Resisterhood LA here . Supp...

Dating coach Damona Hoffman (A&E Network's #BlackLove , A Question of Love ) is here to dish some professional advice. She shares tips for video-dating, setting up your dating app profile, how to stay sane with your partner in lockdown, and so much more! Plus, a conversation on racial bias in dating, navigating interracial relationships, and the struggle of in-person communication. Check out D...

Writer and podcaster Nichole Perkins ( Thirst Aid Kit ) joins Nicole to discuss setting boundaries in your casual relationships, dealing with thirsty groupies, and, can you get COVID from your pussy? Plus Nicole writes a letter to her dream man, and is shopping for a $600 sex machine. Support Black Lives Matter.  For a list of resources and ways to help, check out  blacklivesmatters.carr...

Comedian and actress Sydnee Washington ( Broad City, Gayme Show ) joins Nicole to discuss feel-good foods to eat when you're sad, their lowest points in life, finding love on Instagram, and setting boundaries with toxic family members. Support Black Lives Matter.  For a list of resources and ways to help, check out  blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter:  @nicoleb...

It's our longest episode ever! Comedian Yassir Lester ( Black Monday, Duncanville ) joins Nicole to discuss sex protocol for a COVID era, reconnecting with old flings, body modifications, Yassir's Jersey Mike's tweet , and a list of signs that a man is into you. Support Black Lives Matter.  For a list of resources and ways to help, check out  blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole By...

The incredibly funny Yamaneika Saunders (Broad City, Inside Amy Schumer) joins Nicole to discuss comedy, following her mom's love for stand-up, her defense for humor about people with disabilities, and the depths of racism in our society. After the break, Yamaneika discusses breaking up in the pandemic, and her plan to freeze her eggs. Trigger Warning : My guest misgenders a person in a retelling...

Drag queen Latrice Royale ( RuPaul's Drag Race, RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars) joins Nicole for a good teeheehee. She discusses getting into drag on a dare, writing on AJ and the Queen , meeting their husband Chris at a meet & greet, and the story behind their Chicago pride festival proposal. Check out Latrice's podcast: The Chop . Support Black Lives Matter.  For a list of resources and w...

Comedian and writer Dewayne Perkins (Brooklyn Nine-Nine, The Break with Michelle Wolf) joins Nicole to talk about getting back together with his ex, the importance of checking in with your partner, and how America has failed everyone. They also get into the systemic racism present in writers' rooms, and how to turn the thought of death into something positive. Support Black Lives Matter.  For...

Comedian Sam Jay (writer at SNL) discusses how she met her girlfriend, the influence of wealth in a relationship, and the difference between flirting with men and women. Sam teaches Nicole about bad bitch energy, and how she developed her "lady game". Plus, why aren't interviewers asking White people about #BLM? Check out Sam Jay's special on Netflix: netflix.com/title/81078802 Support Black Lives...

Ziwe (writer for Desus & Mero) and Nicole chat about being horn'd up, what they've been crying over, and are trying to learn to love what they see in the mirror. Nicole's back on the apps, where it seems like performative activism is the growing trend in dating bios. On the plus side, Nicole's been getting treated better on dating apps since the #BLM protests. Oh boy, life is wild and there's...

Writer and actress Amber Ruffin (Late Night with Seth Meyers, A Black Lady Sketch Show) chats with Nicole about the weight of having to discuss politics on Late Night , how they can make racism funny, and what the upcoming Zoom Emmy awards will be like. Plus, Amber helps write some Hinge messages, and Nicole challenges white people to come up with a good slave joke. Support Black Lives Matter. &nb...

Gabby Sidibe ( Precious, American Horror Story, Empire ) joins Nicole to discuss the problematic expectation to have to code switch at work, why Black women are often dealbreakers for Black men, and the crazy story behind dating a gay man for 3 years. Plus, they chat about watching 90 Day Fiancé in quarantine, and how they get mistaken for each other all the time. Support Black Lives Matter. &nbsp...