What's the Dill?

Expectations vs Reality in a Marriage  What is the reality to the expectations when we start a relationship? One of the more helpful conversations we have in our marriage, revolves around the expectations we HAD for each other, and the Reality of what actually is. From our upbringings, to movies, or Television, we brought in certain expectations for how the other should act. Maybe it's the co...

Stop Keeping Score Stop keeping score in a marriage. Never do it. Throw out the “Marriage Scorecard”. This is marriage advice we received before we got married, and we have found it to be so helpful! Maybe you know what the “Marriage Scorecard” is, but if you don't, here is a simple and informal definition: It is the invisible score you keep in your head, of who has done more chores, acts of...

New Year. New Resolutions. As each new year passes, new resolutions come and go. Sometimes new year’s resolutions are looked at as trite or overrated. Most people don’t even take them seriously! But for us, last year in 2020, we learned that the whole world can be flipped upside down. So, we wanted to set our intentions for the new year. We want to get better at the little things.  In this episode...

2020 Recap: Buckle up everyone! This year was unforgettable, hard, and flipped ALL of our normal lives upside down. People around the world went through immense suffering and turmoil. An invisible enemy made our entire planet scramble to figure out how to help people, and get healthy. Even in ALL those hard times, there were blessings. We know that finding meaning in difficulty can be trite, but d...

  “Are we best friends?” This is a question we ask each other. But does a couple have to be best friends in a marriage?? We talk about our thoughts on our own friendship, and why being weird with each other has been so important for us.  We want to know what you guys think about friendship in a marriage. Get in touch with us and tell us about why you think it's important. Or whether you don’t...

How do you know they are the one??!? At some point in our relationship each of us thought about our future as old people sitting in rocking chairs, talking about our lives together.  This is also known as: “The One”. But how do we talk about our future together without referencing movies and all the glorious dating moments? How do we rationally think about our life together in the future? Well, in...

First date stories are always fun. Now that we are married, looking back on our first date holds a special place in our hearts. We love talking about what was going through our heads at the time. It's fun to look back and see how far our journey has gone. And it stemmed from that first date together! In this episode we talk about our first date, but we always raise some classic questions: Who...

“2020...am I right y’all?!?” How many Dad Jokes, during this Thanksgiving, will be made? Probably somewhere in the billions. But is that any different than other Thanksgivings? Anyway, Pseudoscience aside, there truly is a lot to be thankful for, even in this crazy year. We wanted to make an episode to talk about why we are still grateful in 2020, and how we have seen God work in our lives this ye...

Worries in our lives can be so easy to NOT deal with. It is so much easier to just worry and let the burden of worries just take over your mind. These worries we have are also a very internal struggle, because no one really knows how someone else is dealing with, at times in their lives! In this episode, we talk about the consequences of worry in our lives, and how we try to fight against it. It c...

Being vulnerable is the first step in communication, in our marriage. Because what it says is: “I am ok with letting you in”. Each day in our marriage is another opportunity to be vulnerable with each other. So in this episode we dive into why we chose to be vulnerable with each other, and how difficult with find it. We talk about how guys, in general, have a harder time opening up and being vulne...

We love to talk about our personality types according to the myers-briggs test. Even if people don’t know what it is, we find ourselves working it into social conversations. This test is commonly taken for people to better understand how we perceive the world and make decisions. In this newlywed stage of our marriage, we have found it productive and fun to talk about our personality types, and how...

Today we are talking about Happiness and Joy,  and why they are important in our lives. This was one of our favorite episodes to make!  We wanted to have a conversation on what makes us happy in our individual lives, but also what makes us happy as a single married unit. We define what gives us happiness, but we dove deeper into why happiness is an emotion that goes up and down, and why Joy could...

So many moments of growth in our lives have started because of breaking out of our comfort zones. So, for Episode #15 we wanted to discuss the times we have broken out of our comfort zones, and the results we saw! It can be scary to step out of what is comfortable. The unknown. Fear of the Future. A loss of control. All these things run through our minds when we are contemplating breaking out of o...

WOW! 14 Episodes in, and we are having such an amazing time making this podcast.. In this episode, we covered sports, fitness, and exercise. Each of these have been an integral part of our lives growing up, and the lessons we learned as kids, can now be applied to our married life. Sports are not the first thing you think of when marriage is being talked about, but in this episode we discuss why t...

Not everyone has the opportunity to volunteer or serve in a radical way at any point in their lives, so since both of us were missionaries as a part of our post-college years, we wanted to make an episode to dive deeper into this important subject. Spending time “giving of self” as a missionary, was very special in our lives. But, sometimes the word missionary or missionary work can be misundersto...

One question that came up for us recently was: what is the length of time a couple is considered newlyweds?? So, before we graduated to “not” newlyweds, we wanted to have some fun with it on this episode. In this episode, we play “The Newlywed Game”, or at least our version of the game…basically we asked each other some questions and had answers.   It is lighter and we wanted to do this for all of...

One of the more important things we have talked about in our marriage has been on this subject: forgiveness What does our society say about forgiveness? Not much. In fact, if you put on the television or listen to popular commentary, forgiveness is never mentioned one bit. But in our marriage there are daily opportunities to forgive each other, and this release of resentment or anger is not only h...

One of the little surprises we have experienced during our marriage so far, has been the insights we have learned from the book, The 5 Love Languages .  This book is written by Gary Chapman with the purpose of couples growing in communication and deeper understanding.  His thesis is: we all give and receive a primary love language that we need filled to feel greatly loved. These languages offer us...

Every couple does it. But no one wants to talk a lot about it.  In this episode we are getting into a hard part about marriage: conflict and arguments. It’s okay, you can take a breath. The world is not ending. But we have to talk about it. How do we deal with hard conversations, when maybe we don’t agree on a matter? If left unchecked, these conflicts can build to more serious issues.  This is a...

One of the fun parts of our new marriage has been discovering how we build new traditions. For years we were making our own personal habits and engaging with our how own family traditions, but when we got married, we had to figure out things like:  When do we put up the Christmas Tree?  Or, wondering if we use the dishwasher as a drying rack or to actually wash dishes! In Episode #8, we get into h...

Everyone loves a good “how they met” story! Since we have started the podcast, a few people have reached out to us, and asked about our story of how we met. We are a little biased, but we absolutely love how we met. It’s like our own little Rom-Com.. 2 strangers at a wedding, then they fall in love, and get married. Throw in a dash of texas, and a little bit of long distance, and BOOM, it’s the st...

In our latest episode of “what’s the dill”, we dive into one of the hottest topics in our world: tehcnoogy. Never before, for thousands of years, married couples did not have to deal with how technology affects everyday life. But here we are, where we have to make a podcast episode, talking about how we deal with technology in our marriage.  We break down Tech in our marriage into 3 groups: -The g...

In the blink of an eye, we have been married for 1 year. Our first anniversary has come, and while most of our married life has been in this crazy 2020 year, we have learned a lot, experienced highs and lows, and done everything together! In honor of our first year, we wanted to do a list of 1’s: -1 thing we learned. -1 thing we liked that we did together.  -1 thing that was hard -1 thing we wish...

Everyone talks about the dishes! The dishes are a small house chore but they represent so much more than that. In this episode we talk about the current state of our kitchen sink, and how we divide up this little task.  Time and time again, in movies and in real life, we hear about the problem with the dishes. No one wants to do them, but they need to get done. So how do we talk about this little...

Our relationship started from afar, but now we are married.... We were strangers when we met; a weekend wedding in Connecticut. Both of us returned back to our homes. One in Texas. One is NYC.  Our experience with Long Distance Relationship’s was as crazy as we could have ever expected, but it also had so many benefits that we never thought we would be a part of dating long distance.  The Challeng...